People condemn me because I allow my 12 year old to wear makeup?

Question

Some of my friends are condenming me because I allow my 12 year old daughter to wear makeup - eyeshadow, lipstick and nail polish.
I even allow her to get her eyebrows waxed.
She is five foot 8(because her dad is tall) and looks older than 12 so I feel there is no problem.
Of course - a lot of guys look at her, but I don't see a problem,
or, am I being too lenient on her?
I am open to criticism too, thanks!

Answer 1

Whoah Mum!!!!!!! you don't want your daughter to grow up to fast allowing her to make up like a adult will get her into trouble when some guys will think shes older.
Relish her as she is now, don't allow make up just yet at 14 maybe just a light lipstick and blusher, don't turn her into what she isn't old enough for as yet.
I had 2 daughters and on Their 14th b/day I allowed them to select some soft make up

Answer 2

I don't want to condemn you, but being an 18 year old girl, I know that not long ago I was that age too. I honestly can say that its not appropriate for your daughter to be reaching to far into a level of life that is not her own. Its socially unacceptable and taking away a very short and precious time in her life where she consciously remembers not ever having makeup. When shes my age, she would not be able to remember a time when makeup wasn't in her life. Its quite horrible to not be able to remember the most innocent and naive times of our lives.

Also, the point of makeup is to beautify ourselves, but it is also to attract a mate and to attract popularity, attention and praise. At the age of twelve, she should be more orientated on explorig her own talents and the world of toys and nature, not cosmetics and chemicals. If she likes painting and creative activities, them encourage her to take up humanities and arts.

I think that of she know about eyebrow waxing, she must be exposed to this kind of environment where women are doing a lot to themselves to make themselves beautiful. It maybe you that take her to the salon to see this, Monkey see monkey do, or that she is hanging around bad influences like older girls or bad peers. Have a closer look into who she is playing with at school.

Makeup at 14 is about right ( the time when puberty hits), but only to the point of a little bit of lip gloss and mascara. The rest like blush, foundation, eyeshadow (blues, blacks purples and greens are a BAD no no, golds, whites and greys are ok) conceler. She may begin to love spraying deoderant, perfume and putting hairspray in her hair. Thats normal. Just don't allow her to dress inappropriately and wear heavy makeup. Sorry if I sounded too blunt, but it came from the bottom of my heart.Please consider my advice.

Answer 3

most girls start doing their eyebrows at 12 nowadays.. i did.

Aslong as she's not wearing as much make up as you. But the lipstick is kind weird.. lipgloss is ok though lol... i have been wearing nailpolish as long as i can remember(im only 14) lol so that's not bad.

ok, as for sex at 16, allways has been common. Look at your parents/grandparents. how old were they when they had you?

I think you're doing fine. It'll help you have a better relationship with your daughter, if she wants to do something, she will. Atleast she'll be more likely to tell you/talk to you about it. i aslo sw on tv that you're supposed to start talking aout sex(just a little) at age 2 or 3!

Just a little add on.. Um, since she's getting alot of attention from guys, maybe you should talk to her about why you have sex, and what it really means/is. the media has alot of bad influences on this, so i think you need to talk to her about that.

Answer 4

I don't think it is a problem...just make sure the make-up looks natural. I remember last year when I was in 7th grade one girl came to school with bright purple eye shadow and she looked like a clown. I don't blame you for letting your daughter wear make-up...she is being introduced to these things through tv and magazine ads etc.. and who doesnt like to try new things? Oh, and I also started getting my eye brows waxed when I was 12...and they looked so much better! Lots of these mothers don't want to bring their daughter to the realization of the real world but you are which is great!
Tip- Make sure her make up is natural-a light powder foundation a little mascara and some lip gloss!

Answer 5

You sound real cool! The only thing I would say is dont let her look like a slut or clown with makeup all over her face.Thats just asking for lots of teasing at school or something worse.She will thank you later in life for not letting her look like something ugly.Let her experiment and have fun!.

Answer 6

my sister started wearing make up at the age of 12, she's now 13 lol. But she only wore eyeliner and lip gloss.

I think your daughter wears too much make up for her age regardless of whether she looks older or not. nail polish and eyeliner is fine. I dont know about eyeshadow and lipstick

getting eyebrows waxed is fine, i got mine waxed at that age too.

Answer 7

She is a 12 year old girl so obviously she will be curious about make up & clothes & stuff but you shouldnt let her get obsessed over it. It promotes a bad message to her. Let her mess away with make up. But you shouldnt think its ok for older men to be looking at your 12year old girl. She is a little girl! It is a problem i think. you are telling your little girl that it only matters what you look like & not who you are. i think all of that is a bit excessive for a 12yr old.

Answer 8

Hi i am 12 years old and i started wearing make-up when i was 11 years old. I am 5'7 and i look way older then i really am. some people even mistaken me for 16 or 17.I wear eye-liner, mascara, foundation, lip gloss and concelir, and my parents let me. Alot of parents don't let their daughters wear make-up because they say their to young or your to pretty for make-up, but i don't think this is true. i think when ever you think your old enough to wear make-up wear it. it don't really change who you are, it don't make the guys come after you like crazy! i have many guyfriends and they don't treat me any different then when i didn't wear make-up before. anyway what i'm trying to say is if you think your daughter shouldn't wear make-up don't tell them they can't, just let them, teach them how to use it properly. I mean that's what parents are supposed to do right? Teach their kids how to do stuff? Anyway thanks, xoxo bie biee!

Answer 9

I don't see a problem with her wearing makeup - most 12yo I know do and peer pressure is soooo important at 12. I'm more concerned about guys looking at her and the fact that she already looks older. Hopefully, as a responsible parent (which you seem to be) you have prepared her appropriately for the big bad world out there. Unfortunately, not everyone is as understanding as you!

;-)

Answer 10

as long as you are not making her wear it, i think it's fine. I started wearing makeup when i was 13. Just make sure she doesnt wear too much, you still want her looking her age and not getting hit on my 18 year-olds!! GOOD LUCK :o)