what happened to you when your parents divorced?

Question

Ok, My parents might seperate and move to different state No one actualy told me this but I think it might happen soon I just want to know what to expect

I already asked this but I would like some more stories sorry

I would be going with my mom and moving

Answer 1

First of all, I'm so sorry that your parents are divorcing. For me, divorce is always very sad. My parents divorced when I was 9. My parents lived more than 3000 miles apart. I remember being devastated...not really by the divorce, but the change in lifestyle....all of a sudden, my mother was a single parent of 3. For the first time in our lives, we had to fend for ourselves while my mother worked.

If finances are tight, and your parents live far apart, I don't think you'll be seeing one of your parents very often.

If they have had a very ugly separation, you can expect them to talk badly about one another trying to sway you your opinions....(I really hated this.)

You may have to get a part-time job to meet your own little needs, since money could be tight on both sides because of legal issues.

Every divorce is different, but I'm glad you seem older than I was.

Answer 2

Life got better, my dad is a jerk and a toxic person. We didn't have a lot of the things financially that we had when my parents were married, but there was peace in our home and we hadn't had that.

If your parents are still friendly or can at least tolerate each other, then you may not have any problems. The kids usually go with the mom, but if you are over about 12 or 13, most states will let you pick which parent you want to live with, provided both parents are good parents.

Good Luck to you. What's happening in your family is not a reflection on you. It is between your mom and dad only.

Answer 3

I was 15 and I wanted to live with my dad because #1 mom and I fought all the time and #2 mom didn't have a place to go. My wish was granted and I saw my mom whenever I wanted, although mostly on Saturdays. My relationship with her got lots better.

My brother lived with dad and I too. It was really hard at first, especially Hoildays. But soon it got easier and we settled into our new life as a split family. BUT we were happier because there was no more parental fights.

Answer 4

it was a mess before they got divorced and after the divorce. I was only 5 but i remember some things horrible things but no matter what kids still love there parents. hopefully in your case your parents have exausted every resort before they decided to get divorced, its too common these day and its sad. the number 1 reason for divorce is finances. My story in short.. my dad has always been financially inclined he started his own buisness at 18. my mom married him to prove to her parents (my grandma and pops) that she can likes white guys. my mom was engaged to a black man in hs and in 1971 you just couldnt do this. well my mom was forced to dump her first love (the black man) and married my dad they stayed married for a while my dad began drinking and being abusive rather not give explicit details well my dad left my mom for a stripper when I was 5 I am the youngest of 6 kids i have 5 brothers one is my twin.well being that my mom was a house wife we had no where to go and had this huge 3 story home we grew up in government housing and well my dad fought for custody a few times i remember him recorging me asking me questions cause he was repulsed that my mom was in a all "african american"neighborhood" and he is the one that caused it. well because of my dad leaving my mom my mom dated alot of guys and worked all the time, which in turn being the only girl i had to grow up really quick be independant. i learned that when i am a parent you have to accept your kids choices and if not this is what happens, my mom married my dad to impress my grandparents who are no longer prejudice but i guess i wouldnt of been born.
well i went through so much counseling as a kid my dad took us from school and wouldnt let us go home it was ugly and scary. my dad is still married to that stripper its been 26 yrs she just married my dad for his money.
maybe in your case it wont be like this. how old are you are you and your mom close enough so you can talk to her? your parents should sit you down and talk toyou and answer all questions possible. because divorce effects everyone you and your parents. I am so sorry soemtimes its better like if your parents dont agree on anything have they tried taking a vacation together maybe thats all they need? If you need anyone to talk to you can email me ok!

Answer 5

Ugh, they're going through a divorce right now.
In my case, my Dad won't pay child support and he's trying to get us to live with him so he won't have to pay my mom, even though he can afford to pay her 6000+ a month and live in a mansion!

It's not that upsetting for me that they're apart, since my Dad was always either at work or watching the news.

There's probably going to be a lot of disagreements about child support and overall who gets the money, unless your parents don't have to worry about that kind of stuff and have enough to go five generations or something. There's probably going to be yelling and things, if they're anything like my parents.


Oh, and in the worst case scenario, your parents may try to get you to be on their side. Seriously, tell both of them they're not allowed to talk about the other spouse in front of you unless both parents are present. It'll save a lot of tears. Trust me.




Good luck!

Answer 6

The divorce between my mothers and dads completely ruined my existence. I used to stay in a surprising, extensive domicile in a acceptable, risk-free community, and went to the suitable basic college interior the full city. Then whilst my mothers and dads divorced and my mom claimed finished custody of me, I finally end up residing in a crappy 2-room place of living the place buses are passing with the help of each 30 minutes--with those thugs constantly walking down the line. What sucks now could be that i've got not got a maid to do the domicile chores anymore, and that i could take the bus with those undesirable, uncivilized young ones who attempt to act like they're rich, yet do not understand they're insulting themselves and their mothers and dads. i'm making useful after college, I regain each and all of the wealth I had. i in basic terms can not get used to being with those young ones with mothers and dads who in user-friendly terms care approximately working to make a pair of greenbacks, and not even coaching their young ones the uncomplicated concept of understand. i admire my mom very plenty because of the fact she taught me to be a deferential, youthful lady--and that i want her to stay greater effective without annoying approximately finance whilst she's previous. i'm not announcing its undesirable to be undesirable, yet i'm in basic terms announcing the transition from being a rich new child to being a working classification new child with a single earnings is terrible! the belief of not having a outdoor the place i will meditate and do my workouts kills me!

Answer 7

its a sick story but ill share. in 2001 my brother commit suicide. he was the oldest kid in my family. he was also my dads favorite, so in 2005 my dad cheated on my mom with the women who had his love child 26 years ago. he wanted another first born son so he left my family of 7 young children (all 2-13) for this 26 year old son of his who he abandon at birth. he abandon me and my 6 siblings. to this day i have not seen or spoken to him. he does not pay child support. when he first left my family had to go on welfare and sell the house we were currently living in. it was a huge beautiful house. before my dad left we did have a lot so it was hard to suddenly lose it all like that. my siblings chose to still talk to him when they get the chance. hes never really around though. i do not have any contact with him. even before my dad left he was never a real father so losing him like that was not an upset at all. it was financially hard but we are ok. i live with my mom and new husband. i consider him my real dad. (cause he is). the divorce took years to be final because of my dad. it was a really hard time for my family but we made it through. to this day my dad fights with my mom, trying to get money out of her and every thing. its hard but we'll be ok. since my families story was not like a typical divorce i think that if your parents do separate it wont be like what happened with my family. youd go through different things then i did. its confusing what went on with my parents. bad answer but thats pretty much what my parents divorce was like.

Answer 8

well I was kind of like "heh.. yeey, no more dad!♥"

I've seen him about 4 times in the last year and a half, once for about 3 hours, and the rest were 3-5 minute talks, god hate listening to his crap. ;>>

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what? um, oh...
...yea it's not really that bad, I guess it could be if you love them both very much, but whoever's idea it is to move and not see you very often isn't really a considerate person towards you.


I'm sorry that they're getting a divorce and stuff, but you'll be alright.
*hugs* - ,,x3

Answer 9

wel i was ten when my parents seperated, at first i didnt really understand. sometimes i got sad but sometimes i was realy happy. now im 13 and my parents are divorced and iv never been hapier. i love who my parents are dating and everyone is a lot happier. its hard at first but i got over it.

Answer 10

it was hard on me, but it really depends on the circumstances & if its a bitter divorce.. if they can remain friends it will be sooo much better for you seriously, when they do talk 2 them and tell them there both really important to you & you want them to remain friends if thats okay.