Should Lesbians Be Denied The Right To Have Children...?

Question

Just because a couple happen to be lesbian, should they be denied the right to have a child via IVF or other modern treatments that will be raised by same-sex parents? Are we going too far in thinking about the wishes of the adults and not the needs of a child? Why?

Answer 1

Frankly, yes. I think we have gone to far in thinking about the wishes of the adults and not the needs of the child.
The created child will not be able to know his/her true genetic history, which I feel is very important and does have a bearing on how children are reared. I feel that they should at least start with mother/father.
I know relationships break down and sometimes do not get off the ground, but I feel that is the best start mother/father.
I am not casting aspersions on the parenting skills of lesbians at all, they may well in fact do a good job, but nature has intended mother/father for a reason.
Having said that I think young IVF adults who have been raised by lesbians would be the best to consult and I hope they air their views.

Answer 2

I'm a social liberal (and a socialist) so I believe that homosexuals should have exactly the same rights as heterosexuals. However, let me play the devil's advocate here for a moment and bring up some practical points to consider.

Perhaps what should be considered is not what's best for the homosexual parents (i.e. giving them equal rights so they feel included) but what is best for the child. That means ensuring that the child is not forced into a potentially abusive family. Now, that is obviously a very touchy subject, but it has to be at least considered that homosexual families MIGHT be more likely to abuse a child than hetero families.

For example, would it be acceptable to let a gay couple adopt a boy if it was shown that such families have SLIGHTLY higher chance of sexually abusing him? Or would letting them adopt a girl be more acceptable?

Or if the couple is lesbian and it was found that they are a bit more likely to be misandrous (hateful of men). Again, should we let them adopt boys?

I realize that it's a very politically incorrect view but I think it is one which at least needs to be addressed.

Answer 3

I do not think they should be denied the right, but i think that if they actually considered the confusion and issues that might arise from same sex relationships that they would choose not to have children.

I think that ultimately, regardless or how good parent they might be, they are being selfish having their own children.

Adoption of an abandoned child is different, as anything is better than nothing...

I actually saw a programme about two gay men having a child but they also had a permenant live in female nanny and seeing they were acknowledging the needs of the child, I didn't have a problem with that.

I do not mean to discriminate against gays... i think the same about straight women having children with no intention of having a father figure around.

Answer 4

There is exactly no such thing as "children of gay/lesbian couples". There are children that may have been fathered or mothered by one of the parties involved, and currently being parented by both of them, but it is a medical impossibility for a gay or lesbian couple to both contribute genetically to the same child. Now, getting to what you probably meant when you asked your question. There is no such thing as normal. Kids are raised by all manner of combinations of guardians. Older brothers and sisters, birth parents, step parents, aunts, uncles, grandparents, gay and lesbian couples, single mothers, single fathers, individuals, state-appointed caretakers, and foster parents. I'll bet there are more. The best revenge for kids is to pick an abusive rest home for the people who raised them. Money is great, but nothing beats watching the guardians you hated growing up with abused at the hands of an impersonal staff of convalescent care employees who don't care if the bedpan is ever dumped, and who then throw them in a dumpster out back when they die.

Answer 5

I got no problem with Anyone who wants to carry a fetus for 9 months, go through morning sickness,swollen ankles, and back pain, then suffer labor pains, stretch marks, an episiotomy and the indignity of childbirth getting to have and raise the child that caused these maladies.

I think we obsess too much on this topic. Lots of straight people should be prevented from having children. When we start making laws about this, we could carry them on to places we don't want them to go.

Answer 6

No, and the whole notion of this being a problem and a danger to families is ridiculous. The % of gay people is not highly variable. On the other hand, Britain has the high teen pregancy rate and a high divorce rate. It could be argued that this is much more disquieting to a child's upbringing.

Answer 7

Yes I do think it should be allowed.Why not?
I know of children who are born into same sex families and although they get it a bit tougher than most children, they are very happy and want for nothing.
If everyone accepted it, then it wouldn't seem so odd would it?
Time to get with the times I think!! Live and let live.

It's the pervs and peado's who should be denied the right to have children.

Answer 8

yes, it is nature for a man and a woman to produce a child and the bible (if you believe) says that homosexuality is wrong. loving married couples should take priority over lesbians and gays when it comes to receiving ivf. if a lesbian wants a child that badly why does she not just have sex with a bloke, until she gets pregnant, it cant be that bad surely ???

Answer 9

No one ever questions whether someone actually has a right to a child... I don't think we have such rights that we can demand it. Each child is a gift. A lesbian couple may be able to love a child very much, but is love enough? I've seen children that are loved but are not brought up right. Ideally there should be both a father figure and a mother figure.

Answer 10

I do not believe that sexual orientation makes a lesbian couple any different than heterosexual couples. As long as they truly love each other, that is what mattters. Therefore they should not be denied the right to have children.

A child needs good, loving parents and a good home. As long as the couple in question can provide that, the child should not have any valid reason to be unhappy.

Our society really needs to learn to be more accepting of people as they are: the majority of us all do not fit the mold.