What is wrong with alot of these black girls? Not all?

Question

Alot of people say i'm hansome but everytime i tried to talk to black girls they play me it's like they only like wannabe thugs instead of a black guy that wants something out of life. Others races of girls such as white,asian and hispanic treat me with respect and show interset and comparing i am starting to see alot of black girls attitude and complete rudeness and now i'm starting to really not like alot of them .I hate to sound racist or ignorant but what is the problem with alot of black girls!?

Answer 1

Please don't judge all black girls according to the few that you've met. Maybe you're going after the wrong types... have you considered that? My (black) friends and family that I know would never consider dating a thug/wannabe thug. We like men like ourself: educated and classy. Maybe you're approaching girls in the wrong area. Maybe it's your actual approach as well! Have you heard of a self-fulfilling prophesy? You approach a black girl and all the while in the back of your head you're assuming she's rude or that she'll reject you, and you subconsciously react to it and treat her differently... so she then in turn reacts to THAT and makes true all your assumptions about her. Please.. stop looking at color. It sounded ignorant to me when you attributed the attitude and rudeness of these girls to their skin color. You would consider it racist if a white person assumed negative things about you just based on your skin, right? So don't do it. You're a black man, so you know black men aren't all like the stereotypical "thug".... so don't assume all black women are like the stereotype either

Answer 2

That's just how some of them are. It's said that they don't like a nice guy, meaning articulate, respectful, smart guys, they might walk all over and be mean towards. It's sad really, but there are black girls out there that like respectful guys and want real men and not wannabe thugs. I've seen it so much, and they end up wanting to be with the other type after the thug type that they wanted so bad, plays them and leaves after she's pregnant.

Answer 3

You know, I see it the other way around. Most white and latin girls who date black guys are the ones with the attitudes, they're the ones who try talking like they're something their not. Esp the white girls, who seem to think they're better fit for black men when they are just as rude (if not worse) as the black girls they stereotype.

I know a lot of black girls who are rude, but I know so many more who are sweet, caring, affectionate, and have a good heart. They're out there dude, maybe you need to look at the kind of girl you are after rather than typecast all of them as being that way. Maybe you are going after a specific type too much and not looking at the whole picture.

Date who you want, but know not all black girls are the way you described. Why don't you see how the white and latin girls who date black guys treat other people, including people of their own race (esp non-black men, they treat them like crap)? If you are dressed a certain way (urban/street-ish), some of these "nice" girls may just be attracted to you for the stereotype and not because you really are. Try being an Abercrombie and Fitch or plain clothed black guy for a day and see how "nice" these white and latin girls are then. Food for thought.

Answer 4

Well, I do not live in the United States (I live in Europe) and I am not Black American either (I'm actually African). But here in Europe at least where I live. It is complete different. The most black girls I know HATE the ''wannabe Thug'' The most of them actually want a black men who has class and wants something out of life. Maybe it is where you live, I don't know. But trust me not all black girls want thugs. Who knows maybe one day you will find a black girl who is totally into you. !

Answer 5

It's the slavery mentality that still haunts us. If you are light skinned with hair that doesn't have to be straightened...We were conditioned to hate your type. Also, without realising it...You may be acting as if you are a higher being than them. It's something that your type was conditioned into too. We need to free ourselves from this attitude towards each other...We need to study our history and understand why we do this before we can change. Peace Sis.

Answer 6

I think that rude people are rude people no matter what color they are. And those are the girls that you seem to meet. There may also be something with your approach. You already have it in your mind that black girls don't respect you so you probably don't approach them with respect and therefore thats what you get in return its a cycle

In this day and age, I think you should date who you like regardless of race.

Answer 7

Well, I'm not black, so this is just a reflection of what I've heard from others. You call yourself Brand Nubian. I'm guessing you're really dark skinned? If that's the case, you could be running into the problem many dark-skinned black girls complain about -- that often in this country even in this day and age so far removed from slavery and Jim Crow, lighter skin is considered to be more beautiful and trumps all other features no matter how cute or wonderful you are otherwise. A lot of black women complain about being judged on the shade of their skin as an unspoken caste system. The other problem you may be running into is that their is a culture war going on -- it isn't that black women are any more attracted to bad boys than any other group of women as that they are often caught between a rock and a hard place of trying to do well or better for themselves and feeling responsible for preserving their culture which they sometimes feel is threatened by giving into white ideals as a sort of betrayal or trade-off in order to conform to the white vision of success. In other words, you may do better monetarily and garner broader respect being clean-cut, well dressed and well-spoken, but what did you give up to the man to get there? You may not see it like that and white people don't see it like that (because white people look down on your so-called wannabe thugs considering them to be underachievers and, well thugs, regardless of how smart and good they really are just based on their speech and dress, not understanding that a lot of that is both socio-economically based but also has deep cultural roots, some of it even predating slavery), but many of your peers do. We in the Native American community have similar problems -- how do you keep what little you have left of your culture and religion without resigning yourself to being poor, or does what happened half a century to a couple centuries back really even matter anymore at all -- both answers are equally right, so it's a personal judgment call.

On the other hand, if you are seeing that many black girls are attracted to the bad-boy type (nothing new to women -- most of us have some degree of fantasy for adventure or romance although how that expresses itself varies greatly), did it ever occur to you that the white girls and especial the Asian or hispanic girls who show you interest think of YOU to some degree as being their model of the bad-boy type simply because you are black? Regardless of your ambitions, to some of these girls you fit the bad-boy model if for no other reason than their parents or grandparents and possibly even their friends might not be super-keen on you, and your real personality and ambitions are just the icing on the cake because they can say to their parents that they were wrong.

Of course, there are almost always more complex things going on than we can account for. So, I guess the answer is, there is nothing wrong with them and there is nothing wrong with you. They are feeling pressures to keep the cultural light burning and you are feeling pressures to be respectable and responsible fiscally and nothing is wrong with either perspective. You will fall in love with the person who is right for you, and who that is might even surprise you. Until then, don't worry too much about the other girls. If they aren't the one, they won't matter in the end, anyway.

Answer 8

I think you are stereotyping;

What is the deal with a lot of these black men who hate that me and my friends dance with white men and not them when we go clubbing? Why do they have to have that nasty attitude and what makes them think they have the right to walk up to me and tell me ' I dont think you should be talking/dancing with that 'white boy'?' I never had any Latin, Asian, white guy say that to me. What is their problem?

Yeah, I know........... stereotypes suck.

You only need common sense to figure that one out.

Answer 9

Why do you feel you have to date a black girl, go for another race.

Answer 10

I'm white and I'm dating a black girl cuz I don't like white girls. I feel bad for you man. Have you considered dating inter-racially? I could hook you up.