My girlfriend will always have at least 2 babies at a time..What!?

Question

So, the girl I'm with now has a son ( she had twins, but one died of s.i.d.s) She tells me that the DR. told her she'll always have at least 2 or more children at a time. Could this be true? Could the DR. be 100% correct. She doesn't want more than 1 child at a time because she fears s.i.d.s. again. Other than the s.i.d.s, I would have no problem with it. What do you think?

Answer 1

I'm sorry to hear about your girlfriends loss, losing a child to anything is something no mother should ever have to do.

I'm sure that the doctor did not tell her that he was 100% certain that she would have twins but according to medical data the chances do go up with every set within her family and even more so with every set she bears. The twinning gene is carried on the female side, so dad doesn't have much to do with it. If fraternal twins are on the women's side of the family, her odds will increase dramatically.

As for SIDs- there is a higher chance of one or both of the twins dying since most twins are not as fully developed when delivered. The risk is believed to come about from several factors but as with twins the risk does also go up if a brother or sister had previously died of SIDs. They do not know what causes SIDs and there is no way to perdict it but there are other risk factors that they do look at.

As for your girlfriend, it may be a hard choice for her to decide to try again but remember that it is HER choice. Be as supportive as you can, she may not want to try again now but perhaps in the future she may want to. You might also talk to her about getting into a SIDs support group where she will can talk about her fears with others who have gone through it. I would also consider getting a second opinion from another doctor to help both you and her understand the risks better. Good luck.

Answer 2

Unless twins run in her family or she's getting fertility treatments her chances probably aren't 100%...they wouldn't be that high even with one of those factors. And even if she had twins again it doesn't mean one will defiantly succumb to S.I.D.S.....it's sort of a freak thing that can't really be avoided. All she can do is make sure the babies always sleep on their backs, and if she is really worried she can talk to the doctor about special monitors they sell that beep if a baby stops breathing. That way you run in there and get them breathing again.

Answer 3

i have never heard of that disorder where you have 2 babies at once...I'm sure it could happen but the Dr. can't be 100% correct since the guys sperm won't be the same if she had a 2 babies b4 and then (we will say) have a baby with you

i didn't think s.i.d.s was a disease...if I'm wrong some one send me an email on it i would kinda like to read more

Answer 4

You cant guarantee twins each pregnancy!!! NO DR CAN not unless ivf had something to do with it. As for SIDS there is nothing to say its going to happen again its a phenomenal thing that happens. All you can do is try and prevent it.
New mattress
No smoking in the house
Dont let the baby get overwarm
Lay baby to sleep on his back

I have always done this and i have 3 children and pregnant with 4th dont worry if your that nervous you can get this baby monitor that measures movement (breathing) then sends an alarm if the baby doesnt breath, and there is a monitor that has a little CTV camerea so you can see teh baby sleeping.

Answer 5

yes, once you have twins, especially fraternal twins (2 eggs fertlized) your chances of conceiving twins again is high. This doesn't mean every time she ovulates she will release two egg and both will be fertilised but the chances are definately higher. Not 100% though. Having twins is a lot of hard work so she is probably remembering what it was like with newborns and only one set of hands. Also the pain of losing a baby will stay with her forever.

Keep sight of the fact that twins is a high chance but make her excited to be welcoming new life and assure her that you will be there 110% to help with them if it happened. Also let her know that the likelihood of having another baby die of sids is low and can be prevented.

good luck

Answer 6

It can't possibly be true. Twins are determined by the number of sperm implanting....has nothing to do with the mother. Sounds like a story to me...the dr would def know better.

Answer 7

first, i am sorry to hear of the loss of a child. i have lost 2 children of my own.
now, no a doctor cannot tell that awoman will always deliver twins every time she gets pregnant. noone can tell her how many eggs her ovaries will release at one time nor if an egg will or will not divide into tow. in fact, it is highly unusual to have more than one set in a family. noone knows how many babies she will or will not have but the good Lord so relax.

Answer 8

i dont know how he would be able to say that definitely .

and i also would not let a fear of sids stop me from having one or two amazing babies


a study in 2004:::
___Families with genes for CCHS have more cases of SIDS.


SOURCE: Weese-Mayer, D. Pediatric Research, August 2004____


so i suppose that unless testing reveals that she carries those genes , it may have been an isolated unfortunate tragedy...

you can reassure her to have faith in herself as a woman capable of making healthy babies with a man who will always be by her side to support her

good luck

Answer 9

i totally agree with John L and as far as SIDS goes that is not something that will happen every time. relax and when you guys do have children be good attentive parents and enjoy your little blessings.

Answer 10

I'm not a DR so I wouldn't know.......Good Luck w/ that Mr. D!