this is a FACT: i seriously only attract the kind of guys that play vid games all day long and they look really smart, but actually aren't. I can get the guys i don't want, but i can never get the guy i actually am aiming for! gr! anyone know why? i think i'm an overall nice person, you know, the kind that's friendly to everyone. Some say i'm flirty, but if i am, i don't even notice it and i'm the same with every guy, unless i really like a guy, then maybe i get a little but more giddy..?
2007-12-02 20:32:35 · 12 answers · asked by ♥ ♥ ♥ 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You are giving non-verbal messages in how you move. There is something unconscious going on that you are giving out to people without you realizing it. It would be worth talking to a therapist to look at this. You will find it and then you can work on changing it if you desire to do this.
2007-12-03 03:06:29 · answer #1 · answered by Simmi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you aren't picking up on the loser "signals." There are many signs that people are losers, like won't ever pay for dinner, self centered conversations, talking about other women, few interests other than video games and saying mean things about other people. When you don't pick up on these signals, you waste the time that you could be spending with a better person, on the loser.
Try making a list of the traits that you have encountered that make these guys losers and pay attention to signals next time. That means that no matter how attractive the person is, if they signal that they are a loser, then you drop them immediately.
Another thing that could be happening is that you are a bit too eager to get paired with someone. You might look inside yourself to see what makes it so hard for you to be alone.
The best way to attract the kind of person that you want, is to go to activities that attract quality people. If you find someone in a bar or video games gallery, then guess what, that is what they are going to like. Consider what you like and then go to places where these people might be.
If you like to read, go to book clubs. If you like to bowl, join a bowling team. If you like to work out, join a gym. Do you catch my drift? You are only going to find quality people in quality places.
2007-12-03 05:04:30 · answer #2 · answered by MissBehavior 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Youre not a magnet for losers. Youre attracted to losers. Probably because you like being the one in control. Men who have it together tend to like women who give them the power. Where a guy who doesnt have much going for him is happy to give the girl the power. He doesnt want it. It would mean keeping it together and being responsible. The next guy youre attracted to that has it together, try letting him be the aggressor. Let him take charge. Youre probably a confident, outspoken girl. That can be intimidating to some men. Dont change who you are. Just sit back and let him drive.
2007-12-03 04:46:19 · answer #3 · answered by aperfectpeach 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm... see that's it right there. You are determined you are a magnet for losers. Therefore you are. "I think therefore I am."
If that is all you have in mind when you are thinking about dating well that is what you attract. You put off an energy that wholly believes that is all you call, and surprise surprise, you actually attract it! Like, attracts like. :)
Instead, think of finding someone who fits the description of the man you'd like to meet. AND ONLY THINK ABOUT THAT. Think of how great it will be to interact with your new partner and reach a compatibility level you have always deserved.
Forget about the past, set the energy foundation for the future.
2007-12-03 04:45:15 · answer #4 · answered by Selene VT 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
to figure out a question like that, i'd have to know the age range that ur dating and of course the age that u are urself. i've always wondered the same thing, i see great girls with loser guys who spend a ton of time playing video games or spending tons of money on cars. i've noticed that the age range usually runs around 17 - 25... beyond that if they are still into gaming they usually will be into gaming when they get much older then.
why u attract them? hard to say without knowing u personally... but a good way to avoid future "losers" is to ask certain questions during the pre-dating process. the "getting to know" phase. certain questions such as "so what do u like to do on ur free time?" "what kind of dreams and goals do u have?" "how's ur relationship with ur friends and family?" "what do u do when ur home alone?" then of course answers like "oh i spend a lot of time on the computer, ummm i dunno what i wanna do really, we hang out at bars and stuff all the time, i play video games when i'm home alone and bored." of course those are red flag answers. u wanna look for, "i'm not much of an indoors person, i like to be out and about finding new things to do and try. I like dining out, i wanna finish school and start my own business, or if i'm home alone i'll usually call all my friends til i find someone to hang out with."
basically you're lookin for answers that don't involve indoor activities unless its bowling or a movie or whatnot. outdoorsy and active guys are less likely to stay in to play video games. or a more straight forward question "do u play a lot of video games or what systems do u own?"
as far as gettin the "guy you want." that's a lil more difficult and tactical. but u also gotta keep in mind that ur the girl and he's the guy. guys are simple (comin from being a guy myself i know this for a fact). we like simplicity and someone we can talk to with no drama and not too much emotional attachment (right away at least). try this next time u see the guy u like - make urself noticed but no the center of attention. get him to notice ur there quick easy flirty smile and carry on with what ur doing. that's to set the element of curiosity. he'll begin to notice that u notice him and before long he'll be lookin for ya. then just a lil flirtacious chit chat a lil while after and again carry on with what u were headin on doin. that sets the element of desire. make him chase you. most guys like the challenge.
best of luck to ya!
2007-12-03 04:54:20 · answer #5 · answered by supanam82 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
everyone is a magnet for losers, because most of us are losers one way or the other...
If you find a winner, that person is still a loser in one point and just went after what is important to him.
If you are important to a guy... let it be... he will show it, but give them some time and they will become better then who they are at the moment.
2007-12-03 05:42:49 · answer #6 · answered by DEADPOOL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yet again, you're not a magnet for losers dear.. people get attracted to you i guess because you're approachable, easy to talk to, caring, and well.. flirty. not that i'm saying its a bad thing. but it may give off signals that could be misread by other people. and for those guys, don't be too available. maybe you're just putting yourself out there that it may ward them off..
2007-12-03 04:57:34 · answer #7 · answered by Damoryn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ill tell you why, its because of the way you act, sttart acting like a ***** and VIOLA youll have the guys that you want, you probably act like a loser too so calm down......its not everyone else ITS YOU!
2007-12-03 04:50:26 · answer #8 · answered by Dazed and Confused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
calm down....first i disagree with something calling a person a loser...every one is unique in his/her own way so u shouldn't judge a person until you truly know him/her..
as for your question everything comes with time you will meet a person you like someday.....
2007-12-03 04:44:46 · answer #9 · answered by hitori 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because your username is ABERCROMBIE!!
2007-12-03 07:00:50 · answer #10 · answered by 01101001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋