This is for the men out there BE HONEST PLEASE?

Question

my husband has a porn addiction but hes not very good at talking about it. I would like to know if its real how do I deal and if its not how to know if hes just a willy driven male

Answer 1

It's natural for men to look at porn even in committed long term relationships. You have to realize humans have always been socially polygynous, as are most mammals. Porn is man's way of fulfilling his desire to mate with other females without acting on it. While not all married men look at porn, some do and it often keeps them from being unfaithful. Though the situation of even needing to look at porn is obviously not ideal.

If he is addicted, then it is a problem. I would say the best way to figure this out is have a talk with him, and visit http://www.familysafemedia.com/fight_the_porn_addiction.html
Personally I would clarify addiction as looking more than a few times a week, but this is debatable.

Answer 2

Cassie, I just had to speak to you on this. I had a good relationship going on with a very proud, respectful man, so I thought. He decided to get a computer, since he stayed on the road allot and besides texting, calling and talking to each other, we can now email too. Well, in a short while I began to see all kinds of porn sites where he had pulled them up. He is a superintendent on his job and he never is late and always get the job done. After this porn come into play, he would wake up and get right on the computer, beginning to be late for the jobs and cheating and talking dirty on the computer and not knowing how to erase all traces of this. I found it and the things he saw on the porn site, he knew I wasn't gonna stoop down to do, so he found someone that would. Get your husband some help. Now all my ex does is try to meet people on different sites. God, it is so sad.

Answer 3

First off it is not healthy for a marriage when one of the spouses has an addiction to this material. It is no different
looking at porn then hanging out at a strip club both involve lusting over someone other then your mate.

I think if his problem is serious get some professional assistance and when he as work throw out all of his porn.

Tell him that he is a married man and that when he looks at this filth that he is disrespecting you and your marriage and that if doesn't stop or atleast looks into therapy then the marriage is over.

If he cannot see that he is disrespecting you when he looks at this garbage then he needs some help.

Get GOD in your marriage now and pray.

God Bless and Best Wishes.

Answer 4

I dealt with this myslef years ago. There are different leevls of addiction. Its not easy to start talkign about bc he's likely embarassed by it, and is using it to false medicate a mild depression. He has to open up, and then seek help to shake this addictiion. I know a few websites that he can visit for inofrmation and help, email me if you'd like them.

Justoneputt- does have a glimmer of a point there- porn addicts dont want the porn- we want the women in our lives to open up and love us. Several women have told me point blank, that if they and other women were better communicators in the bedroom and not even wilder, there'd be a lot less porn addiction and infidelity.

Answer 5

there are sopme good sourses on -line to read about it.
Any addiction can be un-healthy. Porn can be because it can lead to other infidelity. ... but maybe he is not addicted. woman tend to think of sex way less so the man looks like he has a problem. if he logs on as soon as you leave or he gets up... probably a problem. if he looks and jacks once in a while id say that is not un-healthy. then we get into what kind of porn... that can be very un-healthy... and sick.
talk he may not want to talk about it because he jerks off and you know it... maybe your man could increase oth your sex lives if he needs more sex than you are able or willing to have.

Answer 6

sweetheart I am GAY & I hate to sound like a real BIT@H but I would start thinking about the way I look & the way I carry myself! maybe your husband is tied @ looking @ the same thing 24/7, visit the salons & beauticians more often, also a new closet or simple accessories to enhance your existing outfits like "high heels & stockings!!!!!" Then try different things in the bedroom. Just make yourself feel & look better & all these little things makes you feel better in the long run!

Answer 7

All men watch porn. And now the shocker, they masturbate too! Watch it with him and help him out. And yes, ALL men are driven by their Willies!

Answer 8

it sounds like he's not grown up. if he won't talk to you about this then your going to have a very troubled marriage with him. does he know that this is a fantasy that will never come true, or does he try to act out what he watches. either get out now or try and get some serious help for him know.

Answer 9

tell him to quit. If he doesn't, then he can't be loving you - he's loving the porn.
he needs to need you, not other women that aren't even interacting with him.
View it this way: If he was having sex with other women behind your back, that would be considered cheating, would it not? well he's fantasizing about doing just that. He wants to be with those women he's seeing. and to me, that's just as bad as cheating.
So you've got to put down your foot. its you or the porn. also: every moment that he spends in his fantasies with other women, is a moment that he is not spending with you. its a moment where he isn't respecting or valuing you. or loving you.
One more thing, if he has you, then why does he need these other women that he's viewing? he doesn't

Answer 10

ok I am not a man but I will speak for some men... not all men watch it, those that do, do it because they think they can, so, if it makes you unhappy or uncomfortable, you need to dump him and find a real man who is not going to sit around all day and play w/ himself... men who do are losers... good luck girl...