Lonely....................?

Question

I moved 2 and 1/2 hours away from my home town, to be with my bf of 2 years.
We are both divorced.
I have 2 children who came with me, and I was so worried that they wouldnt fit in to their 'new life'. ( they are 9 and 11).
But it turns out that they LOVE IT, they love their new school and have slotted in wonderfully.

But I havnt, I feel lost and all alone, I miss having my family close by.
I come from a small town and now Im in the city, I have tried to strike up converastions with other mums at the school, but nobody seems interested in talking to me.
My bf works long hours, and he is sympathetic with what I have told him, but theres not much he can do really since hes at work.
I start work after Christmas so I hope things will improve...........but in the meantime what else can I do? I feel like I have moved into a jail, because I can get to local things, but I dont know my way around the city and am terrified of driving in the traffic.

I didnt say I was bored......i have plenty of things to do.
I said I was lonely, and having trouble adjusting to my new lifestyle......

Is it really necessary to insult me while giving me advice?......"maybe I am divorced because I have no back bone, and I need to grow up".
That has nothing to do with the question and totally irrelevant.

Answer 1

Try getting out more and discovering what's around you. Check out gyms, or classes you can take in the day while the kids are at school. Maybe you'll meet some new friends. Also, get involved at your childrens school, like the PTA or something. Once the kids come home do some stuff with them. December will be over soon and you'll be working. *Also be glad that your the one that's having the adjusting problem and not the children. We're adults and we can deal with those things better : ) Like I said, work will be here soon and who knows, maybe you'll find a new friend or friendS, there.

***Let people insult you, they're just prob having a bad night and they feel better when they can try to make others feel just as bad. LOSERS!

Answer 2

You need to get out a discover your new hometown. Everyone becomes lonely and well scared when they move to a place that is strange and they have no family around to talk too. You need to grow up maybe this is why you are divorced because you are clingy and have no backbone to do anyhting for yourself.

It is time to become awoman experience the city life. Maybe it will be this new job that will make everything better but at this moment take this time to learn the streets the businesses
get comfortable driving in traffic. You are the only one that make changes in your life and if you want out of the jail open the door and explore your new life. Come on your kids are making the best of it now it is your turn to start remember you are a parent and a role-model if your living life scared then your kids are going to grow up thinking it is normal to be anti-social.

You have your own family not having family members around is no reason to hide and disconnect from reality live life and do stuff with your kids.

Answer 3

Starting a new job will definitely help to find friends/acquaintances and make you happier. If your kids join sports or have other activities, the parents of their teammates will also be others to talk to. Maybe you didn't talk to the right mums: there are always some that are open to conversation ~ others may be on the snobby side. Dont give up, keep trying. In the meanwhile enjoy the time to get ready for the hustle and bustle of Christmas.

Answer 4

you need to find a way to make friends. A part-time job to meet people or join a group you like. Bowling is my favorite. Getting to know people takes time. The mom's at the school will come around if you get into the PTA or just get involved with the school. This should help you out. I have to move a lot because of my Job and I am always making new friends. These will help.

Answer 5

Aah yes the homesickness bug, everyone catches it when they have moved from their comfort zone.

Chin up honey, in time things will change. You could try a local community centre or go through citizens advice on finding clubs to join OR your boyfriend might want to throw a barbie and have friends over to help make you feel more comfortable.

Answer 6

dear, if u re bored and lonely how about u start your day with doing chores around the house. then u go shopping for food. then u cook, the U GO TO GYM. then your kids come from school and u feed them and have a civilized conversation about how their day has been. then your hubby comes home. u feed him, have conversation and then u may a) roll in bed, b) go shopping, c) go all together for a walk, to swimming hall, shopping or play board games. u re lonely and bored cos u have nothing to do but i still can't understand how a woman with family can have nothing to do? also in gym u may meet lots of talkative people who seem to come there to train their tongues, not their bodies. i personally come there to work out and get my body in great shape, so i am not talking, but i have noticed lots of people approaching me and each other and trying to have conversation. good luck. don't be lazy. only lazy people are lonely and bored

Answer 7

well,it doesn't matter-do what you have to and move on.Wait for a sign.Sometimes it took longer time to adjust environmental surrounding that includes your mentallity too.Sooner or later you'll get use to it.Trust me on this one.

Answer 8

Don't worry, your will get used to it. It may seem hard temporarily but things will begin reshaping they way you want them to be. Be cool

Answer 9

Hey Ozimum

I think it will all change when you start working.
It did for me.

Cheers
B.

Answer 10

sometimes loneliness return back something very good to a person, at now you become a very good writer.