i am seeing this guy and he makes me feel so alive all i do is think about him, the last two weekend i have been telling my bf that i am with family ect but i have been meeting with this other guy now he is coming to my home town this weekend i want to be with him so much it hurts but i don't want to hurt my bf anymore that i already have it's just that we have drifted apart and we are more friends than we are together.. I find it hard to imagine my life without my bf.. but i can't get this guy out of my head. what do i do ?? I can't keep lieing but i don't know if i want to stop seeing this other guy???
2007-12-02 19:14:00 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I know what i have done is wrong and i knew when i made the decision to see this other guy i was doing the wrong thing its just that i have given so much for so long i just think i caved , i have only ever been in 2 long term relationships in my life and i have never cheated on anyone until i met this guy. I am so scared of loosing my bf but i think its more being scared of loosing someone that has been a part of you for so long than loosing the love of my life. i feel gutless and ashamed for what i am doing holding onto to him while i see this other guy.. this is the hardest decision i have ever had to make....
2007-12-02 19:39:50 · update #1
i have known this other guy for years he's not the type to fall in love or hold a relationship i don't know how this other guy feels he's the closed book type, its very hard to get anything out of him. he messages and calls alot and he's comming here to see me, he's not a communicator and is very good at side stepping touchy situations yes he knows i am in a relationship we have all been friends for ages he just moved away.. i know my bf loves me it's just i don't know were my head is.. I love him but not the same as i did a couple of years ago. Its not so much deciding between the two it's diciding what it means that i could do this to my bf in the first place..
2007-12-02 19:51:35 · update #2
you have to go with your heart but if you don't let you b/f know about the other guy the it's not only going to hurt him in the long run but kill him! and you really don't need any one to help answer this cause you know that the love is gone on your side and you are only with him cause he has been there soo long! good luck
2007-12-02 21:12:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How does this other guy feel about you? Does he know about your boyfriend? Has he said that he wants you all to himself or does he like that you're attached so he can keep things casual?
It sounds as if you'd rather be just friends with your current boyfriend, but I don't have to tell you that break-ups are difficult and messy, and it may take some time before the two of you can be friends, if ever. Are you sure you've both drifted apart? If your boyfriend is still in love with you, he may not know how you feel about him. Regardless of your decision, it will be painful. But you seem to be ready to shake up your life and give someone up.
Best of luck.
2007-12-02 19:38:42 · answer #2 · answered by lulabellalu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't really be with two guys and not hurt one of them in the process. Perhaps the real reason why you think you like this second guy is because you have this void in you that needs to be filled. Is this because your relationship with your current boyfriend has changed? I feel that if this is true, then your attention/ feelings for your boyfriend has been transferred to this guy because he has showered you with the attention that you have been missing from your boyfriend. I suggest that you have a heart-to-heart talk with your boyfriend to try to resolve whatever issues you may have in your relationship. Try to see if you could still work it out with him. If you guys are better off as friends, then break off with him before you start a serious relationship with the other guy. You will only give yourself lots of grief if you continue seeing this guy while you're still with your boyfriend. I'm sorry but if you continue doing what you have been doing, your relationship with either one will only be built on lies and not on true love. Be honest with both of them and who knows, you might come to realize that you are just infatuated with the other guy because of your boyfriend's lack of attention. No matter what happens, being honest to yourself and to them will bring you more peace of mind. Remember, you can't juggle these guys feelings because sooner or later, one of them will get hurt if not both and you wouldn't want that to happen. Good Luck!
2007-12-02 20:05:39 · answer #3 · answered by Baby B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your failing to mention you met this 2nd guy after youve already been with your current...meaning you made a CONCIOUS decision to cheat.....thats not fair to your boyfriend....its NOT fair that your lieing to your boyfrien while he remains faithful to you fooled into thinking everything is ok....If you want to be with the 2nd guy ....fine...it means something is wrong in your first relationship...but you dont have the right to keep HURTING your first boyfriend.....It seems like youve already made the decision in your mind about seeing the other guy...a truly faithful woman...WOULDNT have to second-guess her love and dedication....BE HONEST with yourself and your boyfriend
by the way ***THIS IS THE REASON NICE GUIYS TURN BAD AND STOP CARING......and realize that girls treat guys better when guys dont care
BRAVO ....NICKY B... BRAVO YOUR THE TYPR OF GIRL A GUY CAN BE FAITHFUL TO AND BUY A HOUSE AND A DIAMOND FOR
2007-12-02 19:24:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is temptation. Everybody goes through it in a relationship. It is a test to see if you will stay faithful to the one you love. If you have the will power to say no to this new guy, then you fought it off. I was there before, I was tempted by a girl and I turned her down because I told her that I love my Fiance.
2007-12-02 19:26:47 · answer #5 · answered by Dr. Ernest J Folk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry you gota make decision. guys hate it as much as girls when they being lied to. if you havent met the other guy yet, yet then leave it at that. tell your bf the truth within a few days so that it is off your chest. he may hate you, but it might draw you more together. if you seperate then you are a free girl, but dont dwell on what might have been with the other guy. leave it and move on :)
2007-12-02 19:21:50 · answer #6 · answered by Comet_Strike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im having the same problem, except im not seeing the other girl. Simply put, your boyfriend is worth more than the other guy. Seriously. Think wisely before you make the wrong decision.
2007-12-02 19:19:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a shame that you are the type of gal that gets guys to not treat us as ladies cause of this type of issues . id say i hope they both find out and dump your ass right there and there . how would you feel if your boyfriend did that to you im sure youd go crazy why do it to him . you know if your decent and still have a heart than plz tell the poor guy and set him free cause what your doing is way wrong girl thats not right im even surprised you asked this quastion if i knew you in person id slap the **** out of you cause your giving abad impression of us females to other guys
2007-12-02 19:22:23 · answer #8 · answered by nicky b 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if i were u, i'd break up with ur boyfriend and say you can't imagine him not being in ur life but u want him to be in it as like a best friend. then wait a couple of weeks and get with this othr guy.. good luck!
2007-12-02 19:25:54 · answer #9 · answered by Princess...<3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey well i was in the same situation...well i am still in that situation .... so lets see we should both think about who we can't live without...... lol by the way don't listen to NICKY B. she's acting like a ***** ...she's just hating cuz i bet she has NOBODY !!!! hahahaha good luck gurl!!! by the way have fun wit it :)
2007-12-02 19:48:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋