Would you hold it against this guy for walking out on his family?

Question

With two kids, he feels he's just another mouth to feed, so he decides to walk out on her and the children to help ease the burden.

There seems to be no other way because it's hard to find a job and he feels that the family is tying him down.

Would you hold it against him if he walks out on his wife and kids, even though his situation is dire?

Serious answers only please.

Answer 1

Before I completely answer the question, I am curious to know what your relationship is to this guy....
If he is someone you are THINKING about dating, I would definitely hold this against him....
If you are friends with the wife, same thing
If you are the welfare social worker, I would not hold this against him
since some benefits are paid to the 'family' if there is no man around. The housing vouchers would be denied to this woman and her kids if this man was in the house.
I find it hard to believe that he can't find a job...sure it may not be a glam job but i do think he can find A job- so many stores have help wanted signs this time of year and this seasonal help could be a stepping stone to something more permanent.

Answer 2

The guy feels like he's "just another mouth to feed"? lol Maybe he could try helping with the cooking and feeding the kids since he obviously is doing nothing else. And how would walking out on a woman, leaving her to raise HIS kids alone, ease her burden?
I think the truth is starting to come out when you say that he feels the family is tying him down. That is the real issue. The guy wants to get out of his family obligations, but he wants it to appear he's doing it to be kind, because he's too weak to admit he doesn't want to be with them any more.
Pathetic is what I'd call a man like that, and in fact I wouldn't even call him a man.

Answer 3

Yes...Find a job no matter where. Work at McDonalds or Walmart...Whatever you need to do. What you are thinking of doing is selfish. Don't think about being another mouth to feed. Think about those 2 kids you helped bring into the world growing up thinking their father was no good and left mom all alone to raise them. Just because you can't find a job you think is good enough, doesn't mean you can't find a job. Find something, anything legal until something better comes along. Any money being brought into the house is better than no money. So yes, I would hold it against him for the rest of his life because it's a selfish move although he is trying to justify it for other reasons!!!

Answer 4

I wouldnt matter if "we" strangers pretty much would hold it against you. What would matter would be your family. And I am pretty sure they would hold it against you. You could find some sort of work if you really tried hard. It may not be anything close to what you want to do. But you can find work, and any work is better then nothing. I think years from now you will regret it if you leave your family. You think of yourself as just another mouth to feed. But you are a father to your children and husband and support system to your wife. You wont make it easier on them if you leave. You will only make it harder. If your family is genuinely that hungry there are programs out there that will help you. But you have to be willing to help yourself and work towards a goal of a better life. You just have to try harder. But dont leave your family, thats the worst choice you could make.

Answer 5

Yes. Not only did you think you was starting off the story with harps and strings, but the real bottom line is in the second paragraph. HE THINKS HE IS BEING TIED DOWN.

She would be better off without him. If I was her, I would let him walk away, even pack his bags. I really mean brown paper bags and go take out child support on him. That way when the trifling trick find a job and a new life that doesn't tie him down, I would get my money to feed my family that he was too weak to stay and help even emotionally.

Answer 6

my father walked out on my family when I was 13, bro was 15. He's caused all sorts of emotional damage to both of us. It's not fair for the children. The guy is probably depressed and he just needs to see someone and get some help. Maybe discuss the problems with a neutral party. I would have given anything for my father to stick around but he didn't.

And I don't think I'll ever get over the idea he didn't love us enough to stick around.

Try to think of the children.

Answer 7

Yes and No. Yes because his presence is much more needed in the house. How can his wife survive if she's stuck with two kids and can't find a job to help him?

No because he's probably ashamed for being jobless -

but my question is - does his wife berate him for being jobless? How can he say the family is tying him down? He's supposed to be the head of the family, and he's supposed to support them even if he has to dig graves to feed his kids. If he really loved them he'd take on any job for that matter until a better one comes along. But to walk out on them is stupid.

Answer 8

I would absolutely hold it against him. What kind of scumbag would walk out on his family just because he can't find a job? Jobs are hard to come by and tough times happen, but it's much better when tough times happen with people you love instead of alone. What a maroon! His children need a daddy more than a second plate of lentels!

Answer 9

His situation is dire? Give me a ******* break. This is a self absorbed prick who would abandon his children because he couldn't get his act together? What real man uses this pussy *** lame excuse to leave? How about he goes and gets another job or a second job so that everyone in his family is taken care of?

Ummm...Isn't this something he should have thought of before getting married and having children?

A pathetic loser

Answer 10

Running away is not a solution. Once someone starts running away, they seldom stop. This fellow needs to stop acting like a child and grow up. Face the problems head on. Never give up. Problems never go away until they are tackled head on.

Being able to face problems rather than run is the difference between being a child and a man.