How do I tell my mom?

Question

I might be pregnant, and my only worry is how to tell my Mom about it. Normally I wouldn't care, but right now she is going through a nasty divorce, and she is already depressed. I know telling her will just make her think she has done a bad job of raising me, so that I make bad decisions, but these were my own decisions through and through.
Has anyone else been through this? Underage, unplanned pregnancy, bad relationship with your Mom, trying not to hurt her that much...? How do I tell her?

and also, how would my boyfriend go about telling his Dad? His Dad is one of those really proper people who just have to have their kids succeed, and he is really strict. I'm sure he is going to be really really mad when my boyfriend tells him, and my boyfriend is scared to death of telling him. How would he tell him?

Thank you...

Answer 1

Slow down..........you said you might be pregnant, why don't you find out first (take a home pregnancy test) before you tell anyone that way you'll save a lot of heartaches, then if you are tell them, they may not be happy but they will help you through this (also if you're not pregnant use protection from now on, use a condom).........good luck!!!!!

Answer 2

I want to know how old you and your boyfriend are...
You should of used protection, don't you listen to anything during your HPE lessons? Anyway, just try to joke around with your mom and ask her as a joke. Just like rent some movies with you and your mom that are funny and when they are over just talk girly things and ask your mom playfully how old she was when she first had sex, or how many boyfriends she had when she was your age, then ask her how her parents would react if she got pregnant at your age then tell her that you might be pregnant. But I don't really know your mom well... just try something like that.

Or if your mom is some what your not very close to, just ask if you can talk to her girl-to-girl, and tell her then. As you said you might not be pregnant so take a home pregnacy test and if you come up to be not pregnant then just forget about it, but if you feel guilty just tell your mom, she is a women and she was once your age so...
Having a child is a really big responsibility it's not all happy, cuddly little baby, they cry and cry, so think next time before having sex and think about what can happen when you do have 'it'...
It's funny because when people answer these kind of questions they can easily answer them but to be in shoes of the person asking the question is totally different, I feel really sorry for you, and I hope everything turns out fine. Till you know your definitely pregnant or not just try and build a relationship with your mom.
Things happen for a reason.
Cheer up and good luck.

Answer 3

Normally, I don't tell ppl to wait...but wait. There's no reason to destroy your mother's trust in you and make her concerned because you might be pregnant. Go get a test at the health Dept. or planned Parenthood. You got this far by yourself, you can handle that. Then if you are pregnant, you 'll have to tell your mom. When I had to tell my mom I was 16, and it sucked. She yelled, she screamed, she cried, I think she threw things and called me a few names. Then she accepted. It might be easier if your mom had you at a somewhat early age, she might understand a little better. My mom didn't have me till she was 27, and she never had any friends that got pregnant when she was a teen, so she had no exp. It scared her. Before you tell her, get names of agencies that will help you with formula and diapers and clothes. Mkae appointments with them , before you tell her. Show her that you are taking as much responsibility as you can. And say exactly what you said on here, that it was your bad decision and she can't be there to hold our hand all the time. Parents are funny things, they overreact to some of the petty stuff, and then you hit them with something big and scry and they turn into SUPERMOM. Same thing with your boyfriends dad, find out about agencies and then out with it, but claim full responsibility.

Answer 4

I have never been in your situation, but as a mom, I would rather be told. Just tell her, let her know that you know you made a mistake, and I'm sure she will be mad, but she has the right too. As parents you only want the best for your kids, without having lots of obstacles to over come.
Let her help you with this, you will really need it!
Good luck with everything.
As for your bf, the same for him.

If you really can't find the words to tell her, try writing her a letter,if you do this don't make it just a note,'I'm pregnant', really let her know how you are feeling, and that you didn't do it to get back at her for anything.

Answer 5

First of all, have you taken a test and gotten a positive, or are you just late? Before you jump the gun, take a home pregnancy test.
If you are pregnant, you and your boyfriend should sit down with each parent and tell them calmly. It's not going to be easy. Something like this never is. Just prove to them you'll be responsible and work hard. You can still succeed even if you are young parents. It's incredibly hard, but not impossible.
Good luck.

Answer 6

Sit your mom down and start out telling her what a wonderful mother is, how much you appreciate her etc. Then tell her that you have a plan (if you do) but have made a very bad mistake that you deeply regret. She may break down at this time, cuss etc, but keep your cool. Hug her if you she allows, and tell her your plan (make sure you know one!). If she knows that you are sorry but know what you will be doing (how you will afford it, raise it etc if you are keeping) it would most likely help put her mind a little bit at ease. Whatever you do though, make sure she knows that she is not at fault and that she's been a great mom. I guess my same advice goes to your boyfriend. Good luck!

Answer 7

Why don't you wait until you know for sure...if you aren't, it's extra stress on everyone. If you aren't, make yourself a promise to use contraceptives...girls buy condoms too.
If you are, pick a calm evening and give your mom the news...perhaps you will have already discussed the options of what you and your boyfriend would like to see happen. Be clear and calm. Don't expect a solution to the questions that night. Everyone will need time to think it through. The families might want to get together to discuss this if the two of you are expecting.

Answer 8

well first off, before either of you tell anyone other than us Yahoo! Answers people you should find out for sure if you are indeed pregnant. That might be a good start.

my friend was in the situation a few years ago and she told her step dad first and i believe they told her mom together. she ended up having a miscarriage but they are your parents they will love you no matter what.

when i was 14 i was raped and was terrified to tell my parents, it was kind of the same thing you are going through just me telling them i was raped and lost my virginity that way. i got to the point where i broke down in school after making a plan with my friends and the guidance counselor told my parents. maybe you can talk to your guidance counselor or school nurse and they can help you two tell your parents.

Answer 9

There is no easy way, and there is no good time. Your parents may get upset. But they will cool down and will have to start dealing with it, and help you to deal with it. Usually the parents you are most afraid of telling (for fear of how it will upset them) are the ones who take it the best.

As for your mom and her divorce, it may actually take her mind off of her own troubles.

Consider this. What if you get them all together and tell them together? They may be less likely to explode in front of each other (unless they are going to accuse each other of it being the other parent's "fault") and be more rational and calm?

Answer 10

you just have to get it over with and do it. you should probably discuss it with the father/boyfriend what you both want to do. are you going to keep it? if no, adoption or abortion? are you going to get married? are you going to finish school? all kinds of questions you should know the answer to when your parents ask them. you don't want to go in there with out any ideas of what you want to do. you have to be mature about this, and having answers will make them feel a little better about it. at least you have thought this through, at least you know the consequences. and if you are still going to be together, you and your boyfriend should tell them together. that will help ease some doubts about whether or not either of you are up to it. i am sure they are still going to have them, but at least they see both of you are being at least mature enough to face them together.


like everyone else has said, make sure you are pregnant before you tell anyone. no need for the headache for a false alarm.