Well, this is just a thought but i am joining the air force and i will be married in the next year or so and i was just wondering this....i will have a stable job,be married, have a house, and everything else,,,is it normal to want to have a baby when u have everything figured out.... im just wondering..not for sure yet,,,need some opinions...thank you guys bunches.... nuthin negative please
2007-12-02 17:34:54 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Yes, it is normal when you have everything figure out to want a baby. I would say if you are ready then have a baby. I want a baby as well. It is completely normal.
2007-12-02 17:38:15 · answer #1 · answered by Caitlin 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's very normal. However, you are so very younge and everything can change overnight. It is also a very younge age to be resposible for a home, bills and a brand new baby..(Not tring to sound like your mom or question your maturity) It takes alot of time, and in some cases years after marriage before some couples realize they weren't meant to be. Bringing a baby into this world is a huge responsibility and not always the right thing to do at such a tender age yourself.
I have two sisters.. One had a child at 17 and the other 19...It was rough on the both of them.. They had their lives together untill a baby was brought into the mix. A child takes away your own childhood and resticts what you can do.. Say it's Friday night, big party at your best friends house but no babysitter... That would stink..
Just consider all pros and cons before choosing to have a child.. Another thing to consider is if you and your fiance split up...
2007-12-03 01:51:57 · answer #2 · answered by Wyatt's mama 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is normal, i am 19 turning 20 and i am 28 weeks pregnant with a beautiful baby boy who i just cant wait to meet. He is due like 3 days after my birthday lol! but i cant see him staying in there till then, he is big!!
My partner and i have a house, we still rent but thats because these days they are making it soo hard for people to buy houses because of all the interest rate rises. We both have stable jobs and we love each other very much!!
We are engaged but are waiting until after bub is born to get married so he can be there too which i think will be really cute lol!
So long as you are able to afford bringing a baby into the world, you have a stable home, job and relationship with your partner you are fine to be thinking of having a baby, it's natural.
2007-12-03 02:26:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i've been married for 2 years and me and my husband are in the air force as well and both in our early 20s. we've been stable for quite some time now. and for how much i want a baby....we decided to wait a year or two. it's absolutely normal. but since you're joining the air force, i'd say wait a few years too. we pcsed so many times...traveled alot. and its hard to do all that with a baby. i raccomend, you wait until you make Staff or above for more financial stability..that's what we're gonna do : ) hope this helped a little
2007-12-03 03:20:46 · answer #4 · answered by E5'sWife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel. I've been wanting a baby for years and I've watched many of my friends (most of whom can't even care for themselves) have multiple children, while I, at twenty three, still have none. It's perfectly normal to want kids. Just take advantage of the time you have now without them and make sure you do everything you want to do while you are still young and relatively unattached. As much as I want a baby (OK, three or four babies) I am glad that I've been free to enjoy my youth, get settled into my life and establish friendships. I know that when I do have children, I will be that much better of a parent because I'll have no regrets. I will have done all the fun and crazy things I never thought I wanted to do and have no problem spending the next ten years making mac and cheese, coloring and watching Dora.
2007-12-03 01:52:16 · answer #5 · answered by mandilu 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Definitely. I'm 24 years old and knew i wanted a baby since i was around 13 or 14. (i knew i wouldn't be having one soon at that time, but when i got older definitely.) My husband and I got blessed with a precious baby boy this last June. Even though i am still in college to get my teaching degree, and it is difficult, my baby is the biggest blessing that i could have ever hoped for. it is definitely normal to want a baby, even as young as you are. and if you've got everything figured out...well, you're doing better than 99% of the people i know, including myself:)
2007-12-03 01:40:43 · answer #6 · answered by LaNaBuG 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. I am 22 and I have wanted a baby since 20. I'm engaged now to a wonderful man. As we both would love to wait until marriage(we are saving up a little for that) we can't help but want a baby now!! So we are going to do what we think is right and start trying now!! Good luck to you!! Happy Holidays!!<3
2007-12-03 02:13:07 · answer #7 · answered by ♥♥Mommy to 2 Divas♥♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I want to thank you for wanting to join the Air Force. As far was wanting to setle down get married and having kids you will knwo when the time is right. i wouldn't try to schedule everything. It takes the excitment out of life. I would pull my 4 yrs in the Air Force and see if you wanted to re enlist before I decided to have kids or not. If you decide the Air Force is the live you want to live then decided if you can handle getting deployed and leaving your child and husband behind. Also If you and your husband are in the armed services and you have children who would care for the children when ro if you get deployed. You will have to sign custody over to that person. Also remember nothing happens as we plan it.
2007-12-03 01:50:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I will be 20 when my daughter is born. I'll be a few days from 21 tho. i got married at 18 a month from 19. so we will have been married 2 years when our daughter is born. we bought a house and i finished one schooling for LPN. I just started another for paramedic. my husband has had his job for four years. i kind of wanted to wait because i just wanted him for myself, I'm selfish ha ha. but we figured it was time. i couldn't wait anymore. Good luck with whatever you decide, everything will work out and don't let anyone tell you you're too young. most of my family married at 18 or 19 and there is no divorce in my family or my husbands.
2007-12-03 01:48:19 · answer #9 · answered by Brittnie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some people just want babies :o) BUT, life is funny. You may have everything figured out today, and everything is in the hole the next. My suggestion...you're getting married young, starting a life young...you may want to give it some time before adding in the complications of children. They're a blessing, but they really do complicate everything...marriage, work, education, money...
2007-12-03 01:40:10 · answer #10 · answered by Mamasita 2 · 6⤊ 0⤋