What's the point of getting married?

Question

when you are just going to end up like every other unhappy bitter couple out there?

Answer 1

that's not what's supposed to happen
that only happens when you are careless in choosing who you marry.
when you don't really know them like you should and don't really understand what love is

when i say "you" I don't mean you in person. I'm just saying someone in general

Answer 2

In my early twenties, I sold high-end clothing in a mens/women's boutique. My customers were usually couples (because we had both mens and womens clothing).

A very valuable experience. By watching how they interacted, I learned that nearly all marriages are a match made in hell. I wondered why this was.

So, I started asking advice. We had a precious few regular customers who were blissfully married (or together for many years; we had some very happy gay couples too). Usually they were in their 50s-80s.

I asked them all, "What is your secret to a long-lasting, happy marriage?" Here were the most memorable answers, all said by elderly couples:

1) "It's about having a deep respect for the other person"
2) "Sacrifice"
3) "The two things that saved our marriage was lots of sex and dancing every week" (this said by an adorable elderly woman...)


Nevermind #3 for now... :)
I think the general idea is that, in order to achieve a happy marriage, you must RESPECT the other person deep down inside. And they must respect you just as much.

The reason you do not see this is because humans are essentially selfish. Only the rare ones are not, and it is even rarer that two of them will get together in marriage.




Edit: jeeeeeez, prog's answer is depressing. lol

Answer 3

Marriage partners in most states are protected by courts of law for equal and/or equitable distribution of net worth and expenses in the event of divorce.
The IRS has designed the tax system to favor the married filing jointly status.
In the event that children are involved with this relationship, marriage is a good foundation for the family.
I think marriage is a great institution but I hate all the wedding plans and big receptions and all the hullabaloo.

Answer 4

OMG! If you feel that way dont get married! But there are advantages in that its easier to get your spouse on the medical plan at work, two incomes make it easier to qualify for a mortgage, some companies like their employees to show stability (marriage), there are some tax advantages and some disadvantages depending how much you make. Living together is good unless your faith frowns on that. If you really only know miserable married couples look around some more, talk to some older married couples, they can open your eyes.

Answer 5

lol.....I personally don't know "unhappy bitter couples".....I know loving, committed, happy couples.
I married the love of my life, as did he. My folks personally have been married since 1967. Not bitter, not unhappy.

YOU, on the other hand, sound very bitter and unhappy. I'm so sorry.....hope you find the love of your life some day.

Answer 6

there are alot of unhappy bitter couples yes,but there are also alot of happy couples too,couples that have been married for over 50y & still going strong,you just need to broaden your opinions on marriage a bit,not all are bad,i hope you find someone you can have the happy marriage with. :)

Answer 7

Don't marry someone if you think you'll end up unhappy and bitter. People who end up that way weren't meant to marry each other.

Answer 8

For one, sex is only for married couples. Be wise in your selection of a spouse. Date a long, long time. Ask a lot of questions. Tell them your values, your interests and your plans for the future. Ask them for theirs. Observe them in social settings, find out how they treat other people. Ask their family and friends about them. Find out if they drink or do drugs. Are they well educated? Do they have a good career? Are they good with money? Are they messy or neat? Do they want children? What are their political views? Their spiritual views? Find out everything you can before you commit your life to them. You don't want to get married and then find out your don't even really like each other. When you first meet some one you are only meeting their Representative. It takes a long time for the real person to show up. Date at least 2 years. Don't have sex until your wedding night.

Marriage is one of the most important decisions you will make in your life time. You are promising to stay with the person until death. So choose wisely.

Answer 9

think about the good times ahead and really marriage does somehow change a person....commitment can be a strong feeling. U have to take some risks and not be afraid of being let down...if it happens u grow stronger and definitely wiser.

Answer 10

I intend to get married, though I don't like the stats. Like 50% of marriages fail. If I was going skydiving and those were my chances, I'd stay home and watch TV :)

Answer 11

Marriage is about making a life long commitment to each other that you will work through every up and down. I think marriages fail cause people give up to easy.