I am 30 years old I have been seperated from the love of my life and my children I have tryed for the last 18 months to get back together but to no avail I cannot do it anymore financially mentally or physically. We were together for just under 10 years.
2007-12-02 17:28:59 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The reason we seperated was because she had an affair, we live in a country were we are not citizens so she is not able to recive any income except from me our youngest is 3 so she is not able to work. I dont have any more resorces to support her and myself and yes I have told her this
2007-12-02 17:44:54 · update #1
hell would be a relief
2007-12-02 18:38:08 · update #2
I am all ready on anti depressents and no she is still single
2007-12-02 18:41:52 · update #3
I am not religious nor do I want to be
2007-12-02 19:06:58 · update #4
I know it must be hell...I can't imagine not seeing my daughter...or my husband...I'd go to your local hospital and explain you're having suicide thoughts, and you need someone to help you....please do this for yourself.......killing yourself is not the answer !!!!!
2007-12-02 17:40:27 · answer #1 · answered by nemofish 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stop fighting it, honey. Like the old Tanya Tucker song says, "if it don't come easy, you better let it go". You can't fit a square peg into a round hole. It just won't fit. That's why everything in your life is falling apart. It's like installing the wrong part on your car. It's not gonna run right no matter what you do. She's not the right part. And you won't be able to find the right part until you stop trying to put the wrong part on. I hope this makes sense. I know you are hurting, but seriously, it's not doing anyone any good to keep trying to get back what you had. For whatever reason, it just isn't meant to be. Accept it, and move on. There is someone else out there who will come in and take away the pain if you will just let the other one go. Move on, hun. The sooner the better. I wish you peace. P.S. I'm not going to even address the suicide thing. I don't think you meant that, I think you are in severe pain because you have not let go of the situation that is causing you pain.
2007-12-03 01:50:36 · answer #2 · answered by TwyztedChyck 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I was extremely depressed too over a break up with my ex fiance. He moved in with someone else a couple days after a split with me. I really didn't care if I died I was so hurt and shocked at his coldness and insensitivity. I'd suggest you email me or instant message me and talk it out. Plus I would also recommend you get on anti depressents. I have been on them and they seem to be a little helpful. I can assure you that death is not the answer since I drank myself literally to death and when I stopped I had to be resucitated from a seizure. It was not fun. YOU CANNOT PREDICT THE FUTURE. No matter what you think or how long it has been, you do not know what her heart will feel down the road. Stop trying to get back together and let her have space and feel the loss. Then PRAY to God and put it in his hands. I did.
2007-12-03 02:35:31 · answer #3 · answered by theartisttwin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please, start taking care of YOU.. i'm so sorry you're going through so much pain, but i do believe there is light at the end of the tunnel...
Hon, if your wife doesn't want to get back together, it's probably a good idea to do what you can to accept it and move forward. A good therapist can likely help you get through your grieving process and give you some direction on how to turn things around for YOU... YOU deserve better things, and really, if your wife does not want to continue the relationship, it's not very healthy to try and force it. Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't love you like they used to?
There are a lot of other people in the world... perhaps if you get proper coaching and help from a therapist, you will be able to start the grieving process (yes, you really need to grieve your losses).
I hope you will consider seeing someone for help. Meanwhile, i have listed a website below which was created for those of us who feel living is too difficult. It's helped many thousands of people (including myself), and there are a lot of links and resources for help within the site, also.
I would also suggest finding productive things to do with your spare time (join a gym, take up a hobby, take a class), and also spending time with family and friends...and this includes your children, if and when you can. Spending quality time is important.
take care of YOU...
2007-12-03 01:37:26 · answer #4 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Hit me up with a email if you want...are you in the military? I am, and my wife and I are in a foreign county, and she don't work because of SOFA laws. Don't do it. It is not worth it at all. If you can't get your spouse back, at least be a great father to your kids. They need you more than you can imagine. I am also 30. There are different support groups you can turn to, like Church, chaplain or a family member. Good luck, and don't do nothing stupid.
2007-12-03 03:04:20 · answer #5 · answered by foltz41042 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK dont be so selfish what about your kids I can understand your pain but why end your life over someone that cheated on you.oh lets see because she's worth dying for..NO! think about it, do your kids really deserve that NO they don't. just because she could not keep her legs shut does not mean that your kids have to pay for her cheap nasty act!. Think about it . Why let this so called woman run you down and be a financial burden on you!. Your main concern is YOU and getting yourself back on your feet, FIND YOUR BACKBONE....its in there somewhere .! Surely the love for your children are worth staying alive for remember they need you and will love you unconditionally NO MATTER WHAT.... also think how this will destroy there little hearts and lives if you were to leave them trough killing yourself.... come on your smarter than that. Ther eis always a light at teh end of the tunnel you only have one life so dont go pulling any stup[id stunts..ITS NOT WORTH IT!
2007-12-03 02:07:45 · answer #6 · answered by littlemisssaigon 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your kids need you. You are wanting to do the most selfish act and your kids will suffer not having thier father in thier life. No woman on earth is worth ending your life for. Your kids need you Dad. I know times are tough. Talk to a Dr or some other kind of professional. You never know what happens after you end your life and what is on the other side. Love yourself. If you were to do this selfish act your kids will think the only way to deal with problems is ending it. It becomes a pattern in families when the Mom or Dad commits suicide.
2007-12-03 01:33:20 · answer #7 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
If you kill your body, you will still be YOU...... so you might as well hang around and watch how life CHANGES.
Ask yourself, "What would LOVE do now?" and be the best version of THAT you can be. It will lead you to better conditions.
Giving up is a FEAR based thought, based on lack of faith.
KEEP GOING one day at a time.
"Be still and know"
God is the HOW, your part is allowing life to bring you blessings by focusing on positives...... even if they may be tiny positives to begin with.
Blessings.
2007-12-05 13:45:09 · answer #8 · answered by wildflower 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to get yourself together. Taking your own life will make you miss out on allot of things. Who knows, she might come to the conclusion that she wants you back. I sure hope you didn't tell her this crazy idea of taking your life. Boy, that will make her run. Nobody want to be responsible for a mental case. It bothers me that people like you are so quick to talk about taking your life, because LIFE isn't going your way. Well, God gave you this life and you do not have a right to take it away. You want to hurt people around you. It is so sad that you talk about your wife and kids and now you are willing to hurt them, because you can't have them. You also have to realize, you played a part in the separation of your family. You didn't say why they left you. Stop being so selfish.
2007-12-03 01:39:21 · answer #9 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
you need to support your daughter,but your love of your life? is she with another man,by herself?you did'nt state her position,she chose to have the affair for her own reasons,you cannot do anymore than what you have done,you will only end up hurt again,continue to be a father to your child but obviously this relationship has ended,it ended when she chose to have the affair,as hard as it is,you need to move on,also if you love your daughter,then killing yourself is no option,don't do that to the child,she is the one who will grow up without her dad,you love your daughter & would not cause her any pain? doing something like that would hurt her,probably more than you know,so don't be selfish to your child,be the dad she needs(and wants to have around),best of luck linx :)
2007-12-03 02:20:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No wonder she wont get back with you.
Killing yourself is one of the most selfish things that you can do for your kids. If you think that way (about only yourself) then I can see why she wont talk to you.
I am sure you are sad and depressed but killing yourself is not the answer and it will impact your kids for the rest of their lives. Why not talk to your doctor or GO RIGHT NOW to the hospital. Seek help for your depression but for the love of your kids, DO NOT KILL YOURSELF
you found her, you can find someone else
your kids need you
2007-12-03 01:36:00 · answer #11 · answered by xxxxxxx b 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋