and i have only been with this guy for 3 months he says that we will get married before the baby comes and everything is great except that the other day he let me know that when we were only together for 2 weeks he slept with his ex wife because he didnt know if i was gonna be a one night stand or in a relationship with him...and he keeps saying but it was my ex wife as if this is supposed to be fine ...im so mad about this and hurt and dont know if i can trst him now.after he yold me this now he has gotten so controlling of me like im gonna cheat on him even though i wouldnt what should i do ....should i keep him or let him go for good
2007-12-02 16:49:52 · 9 answers · asked by Ashlee L 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
first thing on the list is the little angel growing within u ... u should get upset or stressed out that affects the baby in many many ways ... if u feel talking will help u in your relationship i advice counceling ... or a good romantic dinner to talk it allllllll out nice and easy mostly of all prioroty now is u and the baby dont let anything affect this beautiful experience growing especially now u get more sensitive than b4 so tell him that ... best of luck
hope u have a nice and safe pregnancy
2007-12-02 17:00:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like your just going to marry this guy because of a baby. I would say let him go and and find a real man that don't cheat and do one night stands. He makes you sound like you sleep around when he said he didnt know if you was gonna be a one night stand or in a relationship with him. You don't want a controlling guy. You never know he could hurt you and the baby. I would get out when you can. Also remember he has no say in the baby if your not married because it is your body not his and he can't make you do nothing. Show him your in control of your self and he is not.
2007-12-02 17:00:48 · answer #2 · answered by Angel 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Im sorry girl but i would get rid of him, if he did that to you that early on i doubt he would think twice about doing it again, trust me i learnt the hard way, it's not worth the hurt and now there is a baby involved you dont want to have to drag your little one through that aswell.
When there is an ex in the picture let alone an ex wife it just wont work!! Best of luck with your bub but just worry for the two of you now that is what is important!!
2007-12-02 17:10:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has cheated and keeps thinking you're gonna cheat?
That doesn't sound good to me. I *could* let go of the once cheating, but cheating AND suspicious? No. I cant stand that and you've been going out only for 3 months.
I say let go of him until you're not too involved, avoid suspicious men or they'll ruin your life.
2007-12-02 16:55:43 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he is getting really controlling, like ridiculous with it were you are in dangering your health to be with him, LET HIM GO!! But if it is just petty then deal with it, if you love him. If you want this relationship to work you have to let that go and move on. Holding on to something like that can be poison to a relationship. Good Luck and Congratulations!
2007-12-02 16:56:24 · answer #5 · answered by Samantha 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
that is really tough but think of this
at least he had the guts to tell you he did this. it was a horrible thing to do and a huge mistake, but was he trying to own up for being wrong? if he was i think u should forgive him, especially since he is the father of your child. You need to have a long talk with him and tell him that what he did was very wrong, and tell him to stop be so controlling because you are your own person and can take care of yourself
2007-12-02 16:55:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it is a bit unfair you are holding this against him. You were together once. It could have been a one night stand. How was he suppose to know.
I don't think you should be angry at him.
I don't think you should get married just because you are pregnant. If in a year you love each other and stay together then talk about it then
2007-12-02 16:57:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
If you really want to work it out with him, go to counseling. You have every right to be hurt but maybe you shouldn't have slept with him so soon too. Good luck!
2007-12-02 16:53:58 · answer #8 · answered by Precious 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I reccomend getting an abortion because then he will learn the seriousness of the situation (abortions affect men as much as the women getting them).
2007-12-02 16:55:17 · answer #9 · answered by not_gunit 2 · 0⤊ 7⤋