Ok I am 21 and I WAS talking to this 35 yr old marrid man... yes I know it was wrong so you dont have to give me the lecture. Well we met at the gym cuz we both play racquetball. We talked on the phone and did some stuff for about 2 weeks until his wife started to find out and started following him everywhere he goes now. Well he told me that he couldn't talk to me anymore b/c he didn't want his wife to find out and everything and so we stopped talking altogether. Well today I went up to the gym to play racquetball and he was up there playing with his friends and I caught him looking at me quite a few times when he thought I was looking away or something. I dont understand what this means or why he would still even look at me???? Do you think he will try to pursue me again in the future?? I am just wondering, thats ALL... im not trying to pursue him. Guys... can you answer this please?
2007-12-02 16:49:41 · 36 answers · asked by sagittarius_girl806 1 in Social Science ➔ Other - Social Science
He wants what pretty much every human wants, attention. Hes married, but still he likes to know that other women still find him attractive, maybe it keeps him going. Subconciously you may be an incintive for him to stay in shape. He allready knows that his wife will love him no matter what he looks like, but he still wants to stay in shape for health reasons. I know it makes me feel good when someone I have no interest in notices me. Don't take that the wrong way, but he probally doesn't really have that much of a interest in you because his heart is with his wife.
On the other hand, he could be a lying, cheating, decieving jerk, who it might be in your best interest to stay away from. Either way, he is his wife hunk to look at and love.
2007-12-02 16:57:30 · answer #1 · answered by Sam 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Talking to the married man is not a problem, depending on what the conversation was. Even playing racquetball is not a problem, as this happens all the time without any problems. Now talking on the phone and doing some stuff for 2 weeks could be a problem. The way you describe him, I'm sure he is interested in pursuing you in the future. It can be a hard place to go...
2007-12-02 16:57:02 · answer #2 · answered by Lonnie M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you already know the answer. He's an older guy and flattered that a younger woman finds him attractive. And perhaps you feel flattered too that an older guy would give you his attention.
Face it, you have a special 1-1 relationship with him that cuts his wife out of the picture. That's not an innocent relationship.
Even if "nothing" happened between the two of you, such "innocent" relationships tend to drift into "flirting" and perhaps affairs.
You can bet that he "hid" your relationship from his wife, because he knew he there was something more to the relationship than a casual friendship with you. This caused her to wonder and to want to find out what was going on.
He already damaged his trust with his wife. He's looking at you, because he's probably turned on, sees you more than just a "friend", and he's tempted to cheat on his wife with you.
If he has respect for you, himself and his wife, he'll keep away from you. If you value him as a person and respect his wife and marriage, you should do the same, even if it means taking steps to avoid being seen by him.
2007-12-02 17:05:21 · answer #3 · answered by Joe_D 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you seem obsessed with this married guy? Did you have sex with him? The best advice I can give you is stay away from him! Find another gym or give up on gyms totally. You are treading down a dangerous path and will only get hurt (emotionally and perhaps even physically) if you don't put an abrupt stop to your routine. PS .... slartbartfast is a real pervert, a 65 yr old guy talking to an 8 yr old Sheeeesh!
2007-12-02 16:57:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He seems like He is still interested in you , After all he was starring you down at the gym . It seems the only reason you all are split up is because he has a wife ( VERY Understandable ) maybe you all should stay that way . After all why do want to be with someone who cheats on his wife . You will just be next.
2007-12-02 16:55:43 · answer #5 · answered by Brandon 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all you know you were wrong to talk to a married man anyway..But to the question at hand..Just because he was looking at you doesn't mean anything..I mean of course he is going to look he didn't stop fooling with you b/c he wanted to, he did it b/c his wife got suspicious..He may try to pursue you again but just for lifes sake go your own way and find your own man then you won't have that problem..
2007-12-02 16:55:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you asked for guy to answer but I was interested so:
Please read my questions with all seriousness because I am simply asking out of curiosity but may I ask, young lady, why you are involving yourself with a married man? Do you believe this is bad policy for a young woman such as yourself to exploit yourself to a man who has made a FULL commitment to another woman?
To answer your question he's probably still interested but doesn't want you bad enough to jeopardize what he already has established on the home front. I think you should ignore his looks and any type of courtship in the future with him simply to keep yourself out of harm's way. Who knows what kind of woman he's married to.
2007-12-02 17:02:41 · answer #7 · answered by Lexi 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in the first place if he needs to hide from his wife that he is talking to you, it does put his intentions under the scanner.
it would do u a world of good if u kept him at a safe distance.
and what do mean u did stuff!!!
and besides being a woman yourself you dont want another woman to go through hell and suffer sleepless nights because of you dont you?
he will pursue you if show any signs of wanting to talk to him.
you, i am sure, will find many more worthy partners to play racquet ball ! so just ignore him from now on.
2007-12-02 17:01:15 · answer #8 · answered by hrithik 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course, he's still weak for you. He can't just turn it "off". He has not resolved his problems in his marriage and is too much a coward to. Don't give him ammunition or reason. Try as best to avoid him and if he ever tries to talk to you again then simply tell him in simple words, "Do the right and noble thing!"
2007-12-02 16:57:50 · answer #9 · answered by reapacheep 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The man is probably looking at you because he thinks you are attractive. When you're married, it's a vow to stick to your partner for the rest of your life. But your partner can't stop you from finding another person attractive. And that's exactly what is happening to this man here. He finds you pretty cute. In my opinion, if you like him back, you should go on over and talk to him. Pursue a relationship with him, start it out with a friendship and see where it leads you. If his wife will intervene, who cares? There's no law against this...in the end it will come down to the man's decision. Does he want you or his wife? If you're prettier than his wife, he'll go for you. So take this oppurtunity!
2007-12-02 16:54:11 · answer #10 · answered by King © 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋