I really need to know what to do! can you help?

Question

Im married hes 7yrs older than me we have a daughter together.Hes a mamas boy,hes addicted to video games n comuter..He listens to his mom in everything and lets mom do everything for him.He is so damn lazy in everything and just so damn stuborn.If its not hes way then is the hwy. I married him anyway..But now im fed up with everything.We leave in his moms house and other guest mom pays for everything he only pays for 1 or 2 things so everybody leaves rent FREE.The problem is that mom likes to let people stay(specially ex convicts)as longest they want with no obligations what so ever. no rules no 1 helps around d house no 1 brings nothing 2 house.They are use to leaving like that. Her little friends come n do what they like.we have 1 car n he lets any1 use it.Mom is d boss there she does what she pleases.what should i do my husband is never gonna change he will always leave with mom til she dies he will always b lazy.he acts like a child.im gonna end up leving but where.i left all 4him

Answer 1

You aren't going to change him, and especially not thr family and their way of living. What right do you have to change them? Sounds to me like you are gettinga free ride too. Do you work (since you said he was lazy)?

Answer 2

I understand some of what your going through; I was married to a man for 3 years who lived with his mother, and she had control of EVERYTHING from our money to our sex life. I had religion PUSHED down my throat to the point, I wasn't me anymore. I'm religious, but not overly so (not like them). I did the same thing you've done, left all for him; but you know what happened when it all fell down around my ears? My parents were there to save me. I had them to rely on. Have you talked to your parents?

Good luck with your situation. I hope you get out of it and find a MAN that's not so much a momma's boy.

Answer 3

Sounds terrible. I would leave him if I were you. Your entire life will be like this. It is not going to get any better. When you lend someone your car you are responsible for what they do when they have it. It is not a good idea.