I am 22 and my boyfriend is 36. We have been together for a few months and other people have a very hard time with the age gap. He obviously looks older than me and he has a 13 year old son. I am completely happy with our relationship. I'm just curious how others percieve it. His mother absolutely hates the idea of him and I being together but we really are happy. What's the largest age difference you would consider in your own relationship? I honestly don't care what others think, thats not the issue at hand. I'm just amazed at how many people have a problem with this and I wanted to see what reaction people have.
2007-12-02 16:06:25 · 45 answers · asked by b e a utiful 3 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Since you are closer in age to his son than to your boyfriend, I would be a little concerned about the age difference. 22 is quite a way from 36--people change a lot through their 20s. If the ages were something like 34 and 48 it might be different.
Bearing all this in mind, love can conquer all. I have no way of saying if your relationship is appropriate or not--only the two of you can know.
2007-12-02 16:12:01 · answer #1 · answered by Greg W 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, if u r fully happy & satisfied this doesn't at all matter. If the husband has physical strength , difference upto 15 years is not much. Deepest possible love , satisfaction & trust for whole life matters, after all. Even the partners of same age may break up soon as we see frequently now a days. He can have fertility upto 65 years whereas women lose after 50. Man can have sex with orgasm thrice per night with his wife upto 50 without any problem if he consumes warm milk with honey dissolved in that half an hour before that without using any stimulant which all are useless completely. There have been successfully satisfied couples even 20 year difference though 5 year difference is considered as the standard one . Marriage relation must be completely peaceful & satisfied that is the most important thing. In the young age women have natural God made sex appetite at least 10 times more than men, during intercourse they remain aroused longer than men but that is not long lived agewise as men have.
2007-12-02 16:21:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, my parents are 13 years apart and my father had two children that were 12 when he married my mother, but that was thirty years ago and times have changed.
I think that people are probably just concerned that you are both in the relationship for the right reasons. They don't want to see you get hurt. Most likely they are afraid that he is using you for sex, or for a replacement mom for his son, or they may be afraid that you may not really know what love is and that you are jumping in blindly.
The best advice I could give you is to make an effort to get to know her so that she can get to know you. She may have you figured out and have it all wrong. Once you've made an effort though and put that olive branch out there it is up to her to take it. If people don't "get it" then there isn't much more that you can do about it. As long as you are happy and he is happy with the relationship then you don't need to worry about pleasing anybody else.
Good luck.
2007-12-02 16:13:24 · answer #3 · answered by Patrick E 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I have a 17 age difference. We met when I was 22. I never thought I would date, let alone marry, someone so much older than me. But we became friends, and I ended up falling in love. Long story short, we've been together for four years, and we get along just fine. At first, I noticed people seemed to disagree with the relationship, but I don't notice that now. I'm not sure if it's b/c I look older now, or it's because they see the rings on our hands, or maybe I don't care anymore.
I think if you fall in love with this guy and become seriously involved together, his mother will learn to accept you. She will see that her son is happy and that's all a parent really wants for their child.
2007-12-02 16:55:09 · answer #4 · answered by frito_pie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It may not matter now but it will become an issue one day down the track. My sister married a man 10 years older than her, and he now wants a quiet life of retirement but she wants to socialize and have fun. There is a lot of resentment building. Of course a 36 year old would be very flattered at having such a young lover, it would make him feel so good about himself. Just have fun with it but try not to let it go too far. Also men dont live as long as women. I think relationships work better if the man is younger than the woman. ;-)
Good luck
2007-12-02 16:10:19 · answer #5 · answered by bluegirl6 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No way in hell am I getting involved with a 22 year old girl and I'm 28. You are still too young to be serious about anything, you need more life experience. And this is really going to screw up his kid, but that is going to happen anyways if his mother is not in his life.
Sorry I'm calling it like I see it and someone 4 years out of high school is just not that experienced with REAL life yet. If you were 30 and he was 43, then that would be fine, by the way. It is the fact that you are just too young.
2007-12-02 16:15:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mom was 24 and my dad was about 40 when they had me and they were married for 15 years then divorced. My dad tells me that he thinks that he just got to old for my mother and they just grew apart. He really wasnt into going out as much any longer. I think that right now you may not see much of a difference but once you get older you may start to grow apart. Though you can work at anything, and age is just a number nothing more.
2007-12-02 16:15:25 · answer #7 · answered by Fern 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you made the keen and critical observation, that it is the OTHER people who have the hard time with your relationship.
a number of years ago I officiated at a wedding service for a man who was 65... and his wife 34. The man had a heart of gold...and cherished his wife in every way possible. Neither had children up to that point. But, together they have two wonderful kids. Never seen a happier couple.
If we allow those outside of a relationship to dictate how we are to respond... We will never be happy with ourselves.
2007-12-03 06:10:21 · answer #8 · answered by Looking UP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that love is love no matter the age difference, but age may be a major factor in some very important issuses such as children, and some other things, I guess only you will know if the difference is too big or not. Each relationship is different.
2007-12-02 16:09:44 · answer #9 · answered by Trinity Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents are of the same age gap. Except for a 2-3 year divorce, they've been together since 1979, and I don't see the problem. The law draws the line where necessary.
2007-12-02 16:09:33 · answer #10 · answered by Mickey Mouse Spears 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋