I really liked him. I was pretty intoxicated and things escalated. So he lost his erection and we did not have sex which was fine by me. Then he went on a rant about his divorce. Does he still love his ex, they have been divorced over a year?
2007-12-02 15:59:26 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Anyway. I like him. He seemed embarassed after what happend, but it has gotten better. He has not shown any further interest though,
2007-12-02 16:00:38 · update #1
Sadly I was the drunk one. He was totally sober.
2007-12-02 16:07:40 · update #2
This is why, when I was single, I only dated single men who'd never been married. I didn't want the extra baggage of an ex or his kids. I know that may sound mean, but I wanted someone who didn't already have bad feelings about marriage. Sometimes, you need to think about yourself, too. If he's ranting about his ex, he still thinks way too much about her. He needs more time. You need someone who can be committed to JUST you.
2007-12-02 16:05:34 · answer #1 · answered by pookiemct07 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not concerned about the age difference - boys pretty much stay 12 1/2 their whole lives. What is weird is he's still harping on the divorce. Why do you care what he thinks about his ex, are you interested in having a relationship with him? If so, keep in mind that he's still thinking about his ex and he's probably not in the right state of mind to have a fulfilling relationship with you. You might just be the rebound girl and you will probably get a lot of grief from him, even if it doesn't feel that way now. Good luck and try not to get hurt!
2007-12-03 00:08:49 · answer #2 · answered by Laeticia 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is probably embarrassed about it. I would not make a big deal out of it. It has nothing to do with you because some guys can do a hole in the door if they had to. He probably was use to just having sex with his wife and now he is scared a little. If you two decide to have sex and this kind of thing happens again tell him to take his time. Tell him there are other ways of pleasing you. If he still is not getting an erection then ask him what he would like you to do so you can relieve him.
2007-12-03 00:08:12 · answer #3 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm single and dating men slightly older than him. It's not unusual for men to rant about their ex wives and it doesn't necessarily mean they are still in love. Most, I think, are just burned by the experience and like to rant about it. Often children are involved which means that they still have to 'deal' with their ex, other times they lost their @ss in a property settlement and just carry resentment or anger.
He may be embarassed at how things occured that day, hence his behavior afterward.
If you like him talk to him and let him know you are still interested.
2007-12-03 00:05:38 · answer #4 · answered by No Chance Without Yo Mama 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would all depend on how or what he was saying about his ex. Most of us men who are married and might possibly get a divorce is'nt because we dont love our partner but we just cant find solid grounds but we still love each other. Most men will tell you they dont love there ex but I think deep down they still do. If my wife and I got a divorce I would still love her but I sure wouldnt talk about her or go ranting on about my divorce to someone I want a relationship with.
2007-12-03 00:06:16 · answer #5 · answered by itallianman2007 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
His divorce is stressing him out and causing him to not be able to have an erection. He obviously has some issues and is not going to be ready for a relationship until he works through all of that. Dont be the rebound girl.
2007-12-03 00:03:29 · answer #6 · answered by starryeyed75 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is 37 so she has to be around 23. I think the liquor was doing a lot of the talking. Contact him and ask him this question point blank. I think he DOES still love his ex.
2007-12-03 00:03:40 · answer #7 · answered by robee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sill may be married but judt trying to let u know about his life on the sly, and i cant base ur feelings on how u felt when i were drunk, have yall ever spent time out side of havin sex? if not then move on and if so then make sure everything is over between him and his wife, you dont want to be a home wrecker....
2007-12-03 00:03:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has some issues. Try asking him over for dinner without drinking being involved and see how it goes.
Some people take longer to get over their divorces.
2007-12-03 00:04:18 · answer #9 · answered by missjayde07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good thing he lost his erection otherwise he will not charged for having sex with minor.
dear lady, you are only 14, you have better and wider choice than that. look at the green pasture out there, someone else is waiting for you.
2007-12-03 00:08:14 · answer #10 · answered by JJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋