I am basically the crazy person in my family. Everyone in my fam has done exactly what they're supposed to do and they're successful. Are they happy? No idea. I know i'm not all that happy...i feel like everyone must look at me thinking, wow what happened to her. I was divorced by the time i was 25. NOt sure i'll ever get married and if i do i'm sure the guy wont be good enough for my family. I just have no desire to be just like them..yet i do feel bad about it and wonder if my life would have been easier if i'd travelled the way they did. I'm 29 now. I just feel like i'm not as polished, poised and classy as they all are.
2007-12-02 15:41:54 · 5 answers · asked by mol78 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well i am polished, poised and classy...i guess i just dont appear that way on paper the way they do. Anything i do goes unnoticed. My cousin shits out 4 kids and it's the greatest thing ever, but i'm in grad school and no one even knows.
2007-12-02 16:04:58 · update #1
The best thing to do is to reevaluate yourself, understand yourself, find ways to motivate yourself that you can do better, make your plans, set your goal and excute your plans. commit yourself to achieve your goals and things would be different.
2007-12-02 16:09:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what? Life is an experience. Things happen the way they are supposed to happen. It's ok to make mistakes. But as long as you are learning from them. Look, most people are fake. I know because my family has always been like that and I took it to the extreme to be as honest as possible. Sometimes I can be brutally honest and that's not good either. But I'm working on it. The point is that they may seem like everything is great but they are really hurting on the inside. Don't get sucked in the BS. Be yourself. Do what you think is right for you. Don't worry about what your family thinks. I mean, WHEN you do find a man worth marrying, it's going to be because YOU love him and accept everything about him. That is what's important. Who cares if they think he's good enough. They don't have to live with him. Imagine trying to find someone they can approve of but YOU really don't like him. What's the point of that? Everything will be fine as long as you have hope that in time things will happen for you. But don't give up. AND DON'T BE FAKE.
2007-12-02 23:56:26 · answer #2 · answered by luvmrtnz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, If you feel that way, get out there and do something about becoming polished, poised and classy.
2007-12-03 00:03:10 · answer #3 · answered by Alwyn C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to do what makes you happy and not live up to everyone elses standards. Who says that theirs are right? Finish grad school and start your career. You are making something of yourself and you have to please no one. If it works for you then do it.
2007-12-03 00:45:33 · answer #4 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So maybe you dance to a different tune than they do. So what, unique is much more interesting than sheep. Be content with who you are, who knows, maybe they envy you. :)
2007-12-02 23:47:56 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋