Am I the only one here?

Question

That doesn't feel it's appropriate to congratulate a 16 year old for her pregnancy?

One girl here announced it and the overwhelming response was basically shouts for joy.

What's wrong here?

I did not see this in Senior Citizens. I saw it while I was wandering around and felt compelled to comment here. If I commented in any other category I'm sure I would've been insulted and vilified.

It feels safer to vent here.

Answer 1

Personally, I think the one "present" that all parents should give their teenaged daughters before they enter high school is a five year implant of Norplant. This is a birth control device implanted under the skin of the arm, near the underarm that gives timed release doses of contraceptive drugs for five years.

If the male version of the pill was available in this form, I would be doing the same thing for my three grandsons!

Oh, and a box of condoms...sexually transmitted diseases are not prevented by anything but regular use of condoms. And the incidences of gonorrhoea and syphilis are rising rapidly in the teenaged populations today!!

Answer 2

No, you're not the only one, but age is just a number and is not any indication or reflection on a person's maturity. It's a fact that girls mature quicker than boys. The sad part is that it'll put an extra burden on her education, and she'll have to grow up a lot quicker then other her age but she could already had anticipated the consequences of what would happen and was matured enough mentally to take the quest of caring for a new comer. and if that's how she is handling this challenge in her life then when the baby arrives then that's when the congratulations would come in. During my younger days back in the sixties I've seen a lot of girls her age get pregnant and have babies, the only difference between now and then is there's more focus on teen birth now then back then and if all of you other young seniors think back, admit it, there probably was more then than now, and there was hardly any support not much on educating like lamas classes and the worst part back then was that the girls got kicked out of school. things are better now and i feel that she have a good opportunity of giving that baby a good future.

Answer 3

Yes, that what people do we congratulate people for getting an AA degree, Getting a new job, when people retire. It it like saying Hi how are you it is polite... I do not ask people so you have your Master Degree did my taxes pay for that, did you pay your loans back. I just say CONGRATULATIONS!
I do not say things to be Politically Correct but I do not hit them when someone is down either. I try not to judge or insult.
My first was born when I was 17 and am still waiting to see how having my children will ruin my life, keep me poor, uneducated and the man will run off. Been married for 40 years almost . When he retired the first six months I was hoping he would run away LOL but he won't and we had seven children and have 15 grandchildren and great grandchildren!.....Christmas would not be Christmas with out all those babies that should have ruined our lifes......No, my baby gave me a reason to be the best person I could me. Her father the best great grandfather and he is not even 60 yet............Thank Goodness I never listen to people that have know idea what the blessing of life is!!! No, matter how that child was concieved

Happy Holidays

Answer 4

Though I think congratulations may be going a bit over board, I would hope that she gets the moral support that she deserves. Teenage prenancy has been around since the birth of man, and it's not going to go away just because we want it to. I agree, teenagers do make some dumb mistakes but the fact remains, that if this girl is made to feel like an outcast of society, this is also the way that she is going to perceive the baby to be, and probaly will not care for the baby during the pre-natal phase, or once it's delivered. I beleive that is why we now find babies in trash cans and rivers. The mistake of pregnancy has been made...so be it. After the initial shock and anger wears off for the parents, they need to give this girl all the emotional support that they can. Do I think teenage pregnancy is wrong ? Yes I do for obvious reasons, but once the damage is done, then the life of the baby AND the mother have to be the top priority, not the moral ethics that weren't followed.

Answer 5

Go ahead and vent any where you want to, let someone talk against you, because it only shows how stupid people can really be. A 16 year old is still a child, and should not be having a child. Some times people will read and go along with the rest of the responses, and not voice their real feelings. We have a lot of followers here, and not enough leaders.

Answer 6

I belong to the old school of thought. I don't think I'd congratulate a 16 year old for getting pregnant; in fact, I am anxious for her. She is too young to become a mother and motherhood entails not only giving birth but taking care of the child. One needs to be really responsible and mature to bear a child and endure all that comes with being a mother. Can she make it? Will she make it? I only hope she does and will have help from someone older who will guide her along motherhood.

Answer 7

I was pregnant most of my 16th year in this life. she was born 31 days after my 17th birthday. The principle of the school came up to me and told me I had to leave . My parents told me we had to get married and we did. It lasted 10 years and we had another child together 2 years after the first. They were not all planned but love them just the same. It does happen. Not going to stand up and congratulate someone who does it on purpose and cant take care of it however.

Answer 8

Just because her mother and/or grandmother had a child at 16 does not make it right or acceptable. The best thing is either an abortion or put the baby up for adoption.

If that happened to me, and my daughter was 16, she & I would begin counselling immediately. She would continue to go to school and counselling. She would carry the baby and give it up for adoption. I think she should have this time to think about what she has done to another human being,and by that I mean the child she is carrying. YES, the child did not ask to be born, but the child also DESERVES a family that can offer this baby the love and respect he or she deserves.
She needs to feel the pain of labor & childbirth so that feels real to her.

There is absolutely no girl that can raise a child at that age. She needs to discover WHY this happened to her and WHY she got pregnant. She needs to know what her basic problem is. If she doesn't discover it & cure it, she will get pregnant again.

Answer 9

Well, after the fact it is a little late to criticize her for being pregnant. I would hope that she has the full support of her family and friends, and will welcome her baby into their family. Sixteen is very young, but not unheard of. You don't say if she is married or where the baby's father is. But every baby should be made welcome, and she should not be made to feel ashamed of being pregnant. Perhaps shouts of joy might be a little over the top, but that is better than shouts of recrimation and criticism and horror at her "predicament".

But I have heard that some teens these days are actually trying to become pregnant, and vying to be the first in their crowd That is a trend to become very concerned about. I wouldn't have a clue how to handle that. That picture is very wrong.

Answer 10

I was 17 when I found out I was pregnant. I was not in a good place in my life to give birth and raise a child. I did what I could, but it wasn't much. I was so lucky that when my son was 5 years old my parents were able to take him in and raise him. They did a much better job than I could have done. I feel so bad that I wasn't able to give him a good life and that my parents had to raise him. Thanks to them he was able to enjoy many activities and experiences in life that I would never be able to afford. They also paid for his college education.

Congratulations seem to be "good manners" in the situation, but only to be kind.

Answer 11

Vent away! GAWD... It is amazing... totally unacceptable in a perfect world.
However, what is one to do when this happens? Telling your Niece (whom ever) you think she is a sl~t is just not going to work! This gals life is going to be something she isn't prepared for and, more than likely won't be handled with any maturity for many years to come. I at one time was one of these gals... God help her she is going to need it!
Done is done.