people get the wrong idea about me, just because I hang with her, and is best friends with her.. But I dont do anything that she does.... But I love her to death... I told her over and over not to do the things she does...... but she wont listen... and I dont want people to think I am a bad person.. what do I do?
2007-12-02 14:10:24 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If whatever your friend is doing is harmful to her health, you need to get her some adult help. It's for your own good. If not, try telling her that you don't think she's projecting an image that necessarily suits her. If she continues to do these things, I suggest hanging with other people until your friend comes to her senses.
2007-12-02 14:13:36 · answer #1 · answered by cuteiswhatweallaimfor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl I know the feeling i with though that with a couple of friends i had all i can tell you is that you tell her listen when been friends for a long time and i love you to death i do anything for you but i need you to do something for me give me the honor and respect that i would and do give you chill out with the things you do cause people think i do the same thing and i don't and if you don't want to you should just keep it down
2007-12-02 22:24:45 · answer #2 · answered by sexy girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just like guilt by association. It's unfortunate that people think that way, but if you hang out with people who behave a certain way, people will think that you are into the same thing. Only your friend can make the decision not to do the things she does. I think you really only have two options and those are either to move on and no longer be friends with her, or stay friends with her and possibly have people judge you in a way that they shouldn't. Tough decision I know. Good luck!
2007-12-02 22:15:17 · answer #3 · answered by ♪♫Just Me♪♫ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u really want to be her friend, then u have to understand that ppl will think that u do as she does since u associate with her...that's just the way it is. If u don't want to share her reputation, back off ur friendship until she shapes up. Might be motivation enough for her to behave herself a little more.
why would u want to be friends with someone who does stuff like that? It's only a matter of time b4 she gets u doing the same stuff...becareful.
2007-12-02 22:15:33 · answer #4 · answered by Sadie S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your friend is old enough to get into "stuff" and you're old enough to get painted with her reputation, it may be time to say goodbye. All you have are your values and integrity, and losing those young means a lifetime of work to get them back, not only because of what people think of you but also, bad habits are VERY hard to break. If you don't agree with your friend's actions, then you really have no choice but to walk away--for now or possibly forever.
2007-12-02 22:16:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The more time you spend with her, the more conflicted you will be. And clearly, she does not want to listen to you, yet she still gets to have you as a friend. And you are the one who gets hurt, because everyone thinks badly of you. At some point, you will have to decide if it is worth it still to be friends with her. It will be painful, but sometimes ppl move in different directions.
2007-12-02 22:16:53 · answer #6 · answered by eldots53 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people do believe you are the company you keep, but... you say your not doing whatever she does, so just keep doing what your doing. and anyways, dont always care what other people think about you. try talking to her, but explain what shes doing can hurt her and your worried, other then that you have to just deal with it if your her friend, or give her the option of fixing herself, or you wont be there for her anymore. everyone does things we dont approve of, but if we were to give up on them for that, i dont think anyone would be friends.
2007-12-02 22:15:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had a friend just like that. because she did bad things other people had the same view of me. i eventually got tired of telling her whats right and wrong.. and u know what? we're not friends anymore! and i look back at our 'friendship' and wonder why i even bother being friends with her. she was definitely not a good influence nor good friend to me!
2007-12-02 22:36:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a saying in Spanish that roughly translates to 'tell me who your friends are, and I'll tell you who you are'. Sorry kid but no matter what you do if you're seen with her people will assume you are like her as well. Only people who actually get to know you will see otherwise.
2007-12-02 22:25:46 · answer #9 · answered by Christy V 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isn't much you can do unfortunately. People live by making their own mistakes. You just need to stick to telling her how much you love her and don't want her to make these bad choices. Hope and pray for her to hear you one day.
2007-12-02 22:13:05 · answer #10 · answered by JeCi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋