He wont really talk to anyone, always mood swings, crys, gets angry, i feel that i am only one that wants to look into helping him. Others help but are getting really anoied with him. What sort of questions can i ask him. Not sure wheather he will go to a concelor or not ! can i ask him questions if so what?
2007-12-02 13:39:17 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
One thing that you need to know is that you cannot fix him. A lot of people go into relationships because they feel sorry for the other person. If you take two incomplete people and put them together it does not make them whole...it is just two broken people together. The outcome is usually not good and very draining. God is the fixer of people. Point him heavenward and help him get his eyes off from himself on to being a blessing to others. He needs to learn to be a giver and not a taker to be truly happy. If his problem is medical God has blessed mankind with knowledge of how to help with medications and counseling. Always understand that his spirit, character and personality belong to him and God and no one else. You are not responsible for anything he may choose to do. Be a friend by getting a male to befriend him and take yourself out of the picture because if he gets too needy on you it is going to be harder for him when you have to turn him down.
Father in heaven, be with these young people. Let them lay their burdens at the cross. Help them to find the joy, love and peace that passes understanding that only You can give. Please Father, help the young lady not be manipulated into feeling guilty by the young man if he is wanting to control. Help her to be able to discern truth. Help the young man to get medical and psychiatrict help if need be. Forgive us all when we fail you and help us all to be a blessing to at least one person each day...we love you Father...In Jesus name....
† Heaven Bound Prayer Warrior †
"Look up, for your redemption draweth nigh".
2007-12-02 18:26:18 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could help him by letting him know that you're always there for him. You can ask your counselor what to do then help him. People like him, may feel that they're alone in this world or maybe they think that nobody loves them or a result of a sudden tragedy. You can talk to him but don't ask sudden questions. If he feels comfortable around you, then slowly ask questions.
2007-12-02 13:46:33 · answer #2 · answered by VFCprincess:] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like he may be having some issues with depression or possibly bipolar. it is very important that he go to counseling. they can give him meds to help him as well as help him deal with the situation he is in.Talk to him and ask him to go to counseling, even if it is just as a favor to you. Talk to a trusted adult you think would be understanding and willing to help him. It can be a school or church official, friend's parent, your parent, or some other wise person in your life. Unfortunately, when people don't know how to help someone in his situation they tend to shut down emotionally and don't help them like they should. i am glad he has you. Don't ever give up on him. Check your phone book and see if there is a mental health hotline in your town or a town nearby. if so, call it and talk to them about him and see what they recommend. good luck. i hope things go well for both of you.
2007-12-02 13:48:11 · answer #3 · answered by busymomkaren 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dearest Christine. Glad you are such a good friend. I once had a friend that went though something similar to this. We called a pastor, and the pastor stayed with him most of the night. We all prayed over him. Soon he was confiding in us and we were always there for him. He need and trusts you. Please continue to pray for him,and let him know that you will always be there for him. Tell him that he will never be alone. Ask the Lord to guide you as you tend to your wonderful friend. I will be praying for him also. God bless you for being such a much needed friend. God be with you both.
2007-12-02 16:08:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is a really good friend, then you're probably aware of some problems he's having. I would just let him know that you care and will be willing to listen to him talk about his problems. Sometimes it just helps to know there is someone who really cares.
I don't know if you believe in prayer or not, but I do, and that's what he needs the most right now. I will be praying for strength for both of you! God bless you both!!!
Lovingly,
Virginia
2007-12-02 13:52:00 · answer #5 · answered by Virginia B (John 16:33) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just love him and let him talk to you- tell him you will listen.
There are so many things that could be going on.
Abuses??? Not getting attention or feeling like he is Not being loved.??? Not getting what he wants.??? Guilt ??? Shame???
Let Him Know that he is being prayed for.
†EveryDay Prayer Warrior†
2007-12-02 14:31:56 · answer #6 · answered by Bobbie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell a counselor to keep an eye on him. Dont give up. You do NOT want to lose your friend. Keep encourageing him to talk and then gain up a regular conversation and suggest that he goes to a counselor.
2007-12-02 14:23:21 · answer #7 · answered by H F 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop asking him questions... Just be his friend and encourage him to see a counselor or talk to someone (parents) that might be able to get him to one.
2007-12-02 13:45:32 · answer #8 · answered by raininggreenbug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't be his counselor! You are to close. Please talk him into seeing someone as soon as possible. He needs to talk to someone who is a professional. The sooner he receives help the better. He may need anti-depressant medications for a short term. Tell him that there is no harm in receiving help. You are a good friend but please don't try to take on his troubles, you could end up depressed as well.
2007-12-02 15:20:00 · answer #9 · answered by Pamela V 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
you just need to be there for him. right now is when he needs you most.
you have to let him know how much it hurts YOU to see him doing that to himself.
NEVER give up on him, because if you do then he's going to give up on HIMSELF & he might try to do it again.
but if he still isnt improving, it's up to YOU to take it upon yourself & get him help before he tries worst stuff!
2007-12-02 13:52:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋