Okay, I have this one friend that kind of clings to me, and I need him to loosen up cause he's company is really bring me down (all he does is complain, insult me and sometime hits me) but he really has no friends (cause he doesn't really know how to interact with others without somehow ending up angry or violent). He gets angry at everyone and doesn;t understand that the world doesn't revolve around him. One time he punched this girl and she punched him back, and he went nuts and just started throwing things. He also gets really angry whenever I don't hang out with him (I have closer friends that can't stand to be around him).
What can I do to help him become me... socially capable? To interact with other people normally? I need him to make new friends because he's suffocating me!
2007-12-02 12:01:57 · 18 answers · asked by meep meep 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I'm afraid to just shut him out... I always have this fear that he might hurt himself
2007-12-02 12:12:01 · update #1
My friend !!!
BEFORE THINKING HE MIGHT HURT HIMSELF, THINK HE MIGHT HURT YOU.
That being said, I think your friend might have a mild to serious mental condition. I don't know how old you are, but most people show for example bi-polar or schizophrenic signs when they are around 15-18 years old.
I have a friend who changed so much and became so difficult to deal with and it escalated until she was taken to a mental doctor and they diagnosed her as bi-polar. from than on she has been on medication and she is a distinct person now. it was al the chemistry in her brain that was messed up.
Also you might consider talking to a grown person you trust about the matter. You are just not capable yet to know what goes on in this guy.
He also might be taking some substances you don't know. be careful and find a way to retire from this relationship until he behaves normal again.
good luck and hope all turns out well for you and your friend.
2007-12-02 13:19:23 · answer #1 · answered by SweetTruth 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As understanding as you obviously are, there are limits. I've worked in jobs where I've been beaten up by druggies etc( and this comes from a guy that likes a smoke...), but we have to draw a line somewhere. Sometimes we have to tell people we love to f**k off, and this might be one of those times. Just because you're a nice person, doesn't mean you should suffer for it...
2007-12-02 21:02:51 · answer #2 · answered by mcandy74 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he may have a mental illness issue going on. He needs real help and as a friend, the best thing you can do is try to get him help. BTW, if he's hitting you, that's assault and domestic violence. Even if you've done nothing wrong, if the police get called at some point, you could be the one to get into trouble.
2007-12-03 00:32:44 · answer #3 · answered by Grateful Jerry 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like my friends husband (when he's off his meds) he's Bipolar. You could look up the symptoms and double check this as you know him best. some websites have a q&a thing on them. If the symptoms truly point to that after you've checked, you may want to get some people together and plan an intervention. If he is all it takes is some meds to regulate his emotions.
2007-12-02 20:09:08 · answer #4 · answered by cheyeone 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you should try and find out his problem, like the route cause of his anger. is it because hes lonely, or has issues at home or something? i think maybe you should try and get him (with you or without) into a sport or a hobby. if he has something else to release his energy at the same time as learning to interact with others he will learn so many lessons and start to make friends. hope that helps...dont give up on him though.
2007-12-02 20:07:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a really hard one. I guess you should drop little hints when you're out with him. This may seem impossable, but if you could in any way [it was really hard with me to take my friend to this, but she's thanked me so much] take him to anger managment. There will be fueds, fights and hate. But once you've gone through it, it'll be worth it. Just try backing off and telling him "I Wish you would be a little nicer"
2007-12-02 20:05:49 · answer #6 · answered by Amy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just make a ton of excuses if she wants to do anything, and try to avoid her in school, and hang out with other kids cause if she has no friends, shell be shy of others and will back off of you.
2007-12-02 20:05:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a bf that treated me like her slave and wouldn't let me have any other friends, but one day I finally realized that i am better than this and don't deserve to be treated like that. Just try to get stay away from him. He's mentally and Physically abusing you and you don't have to stand for that. Good Luck!
2007-12-02 20:08:36 · answer #8 · answered by mom of 3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sit him down and tell him that he needs to consider where you're coming from, because you are just trying to help him
tell him that there are brighter things in life
and that his constant complaining is depressing you. If he is a good friend, he will understand that and not complain so much.
2007-12-02 20:05:38 · answer #9 · answered by Gisele 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This does not even sound like a person that you can call a friend. My idea is to basically "shut him out" Dont pick up his calls. Dont hang out with him. Basically just ignore him in everyway possible. He'll get the idea eventually.
2007-12-02 20:06:25 · answer #10 · answered by Julia B 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋