okay just a lil something thats been on my mind. most of my friends have tried alcohol to some extent and i havent yet and idk i feel kinda left out in a way i guess? cuz they're always talking about stuff they did when they were drunk or hung over and i've got none of those stories to tell....
do you think i should just get over myself and this whole "good girl" image and drink or no?
2007-12-02 11:42:42 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
The first thing you must do is ask yourself what does drinking means to you. I don't mean the act of taking alcohol per say. I mean, spiritual and or philosophically speaking.
Alcohol by itself is not evil. It is just a fermented drink. However, in excess alcohol can create problems. I never understood what the big deal is about getting drunk. You feel like crap the next day and you act stupid while drunk. Plus the head ache. I hate the way my stomach feels after too much drinking. This is the reason I don't do such things. I mean not in excess. There is nothing great about getting drunk. As a matter of fact drunkenness is the cause of many problems. Throw a big party where alcohol is involve and there will always be somebody who makes an a ss out of themselfs. A lot of times someone will start a fight. God forbid someone drives home while intoxicated.
There is a big difference between drinking and getting drunk. Drinking means you consume an alcoholic beverage in a control and safe way. For example when a couple is celebrating their anniversary or after an accomplishment of some sort. You have a couple of drinks and thats it. Getting drunk means over doing alcohol to an unreasonable point. If you passed out from drinking you have drunked too much. If you vomit that have drunked too much. If you act like an idiot you have drunked too much.
When you friends talk about getting drunk all they are saying is that they are an inmature bunch that do not know what they are talking about. Getting drunk is actually a weakness. It means that you do not know yourself and your limits and that you do not know how to control yourself. It may also mean that you are using alcohol as an excuse to fill some gaps in your life. For example a man may think he is more manly because he drink. I say the man that can say no to drinking is more manly because he can say no even though there are many people pressuring him. Now, thats power because he doesn't let others control him.
Once you understand how to drink then you are the master and a mature person. You are in control not the alcohol or your friends. At this point alcohol is no longer the evil that many people want it to make it look. Ofcourse, to get to this point you will just have to get drunk one or two times. It is inevitable because if you have no experience then how do you know when you had enough?
The reason, your friends are make a big deal about drinking is because it is against the law for minors to drink. It is the getting away with something mentality that they like not the alcohol per se. If alcohol was as legal as soda then they would not make a big hooplah about it. Is a look at me and what i can do mentality which then turns into look how much I can drink mentality. As they get older that mentality changes because that super cool guy now becomes the guy who gets obnoxious when he drinks. Or the guy who beats his wife when he comes home from the bar. OR the guy who killed that family in a car accident after hitting the bars.
Anyways, to answer your question on wheter to drink or not. I cannot tell you to go ahead and drink since if you are under age it is ilegal. However, I know for a fact that illegality have not stopped a determine individual in the past. So, if you do do it, then do it in a safe environment. DO not get drunk in a party. Get drunk with a trusted friend house where your friend will not get drunk. This assures some level of safety. So, I would set up some rules. No driving, staying over night, and a limit of alcohol intake. Also, no binch drinking or people of the opposite sex or same sex if that is your inclination. The idea is to try it. I would not go to a frat party and drink until I pass out if you know whats good for you. This applies to males and females. Once you know what is like then you don't have to do it again or at least learn your limit. Remember always be the one in control. Always, set up rules before you go anywhere with a friend and abide by those rules. For example, When I was in college me and my friends took turns. If I was the driver I did not drink anything at all. Since I'm not a big drinker then It turn out to be me always being the deignated driver which is cool because I guarantee my own safety. I had a friend who died in an alcohol related accident. All my friends knew how to drink. They had a few beers far apart and that was it. No binge drinking no stupid behaviour.
Also, remember you are responsible for yourself and your actions. Do not assume that other will be responsible for you. It is your duty to protect yourself at all times and take resposability for the things you do good or bad. Therefore if you think there is a situation that you don't like and you don't feel confortable with then don't do it. Friends will come and go all the time in your life. If a friend leaves you because you refuse to endanger yourself then that friends is not a friend of yours.
2007-12-02 12:12:34 · answer #1 · answered by mr_gees100_peas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it sounds like you have standards and morals. I think you should stick to them. If you don't want to drink then don't. Don't do it just because everyone else is doing it. You've heard the cliche "If everyone jumped off a bridge..." don't follow the crowd. Besides drinking is dangerous. There are a lot of things that can happen. The first time I ever got drunk I was 15 years old. I snuck out of my house with my sister and my best friend and went 20 miles out of town. We were at a huge party and things got way out of control.
1. I was drunk and didn't like it.
2. Some guy tried to basically rape me.
3. My friend passed out and got alchohol poisoning.
4. The police got called and I got an alchohol ticket.
The police also told me that if my friend had died, I could have been charged with manslaughter. After I got my ticket, I had to go to court, and I had to do tons of community service. It's just not worth it!! I don't know how old you are, but you sound young. You don't want a minor consumption.
I know this story is pretty uncommon, but i'm just sharing with you my experience. I wouldn't do it. Wait until you are older!
Don't get sucked into peer pressure. It's never a good thing!!
I hope this helped!!
2007-12-02 11:51:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Peer pressure is never a reason to make a decision and peer pressure is exactly what you're feeling. If you're underage - then there is NO reason to drink - period - it risks much more than you will ever gain from it. If you're above legal age, then this is your decision. If you're curious and want to try it - then please do so in a controlled way. Make sure you're among people you can trust in case you do get drunk and want to make stupid decisions and always make sure to have a safe (non drinking) way home set up before you take the first drink. One last piece of advice - drink lots of water before, during and after drinking alcohol - it dehydrates the body and water will counteract this. It won't stop you from getting drunk but it will help you feel better come morning.
2007-12-02 11:54:30 · answer #3 · answered by rose1077 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way!!! Why give in to that, believe me its no glamour. I went down that road and so did 2 of my other siblings and believe me it took none of us anywhere good. My brother got caught up in that lifestyle of partying all the time and he a little over 2 years ago got into a car accident and nearly died. And that is just how he started out, just drinking to fit in with his so called group of friends. His whole life is ruined and he is in a group home now cause he sustained a brain Injury from the car accident.
It just simply is not worth it, make something of yourself...don't be typical...be something more!
2007-12-02 11:48:38 · answer #4 · answered by Angel Marie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is are you feeling left out because this is something your interested in, or left out meaning just because your not a part of it, Personally I say don't, just because everyone is doing it now, doesn't mean it will be as popular later. Think about the future and how this may affect you depending on your age. It's your choice, just make sure you know it's the right one for the right reasons.
Alexis 13
2007-12-02 11:48:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alcohol is addictive to some people. I have lost one uncle and the other is... Well, on the other hand. Don't do it if you feel pressured to do so. If you do please learn to do it responsibility. Call a friend for a ride home that is sober. Even if you only had two beers. It's surprising how fast you can go over the legal limit. I say do what you feel is right for yourself.
2007-12-02 11:52:47 · answer #6 · answered by Lizard 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. Nothing good ever, EVER comes out of or from alcohol or drugs. Look around and listen, alcohol and drugs are the major factors in the problems with in families today. Take a survey on who has family problems, and how many of them drink.
2007-12-02 11:51:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust me all of these people here who are saying noo, know that if u do yes itll be fun and everything, but people can take advantage of you while ur drunk , and hang over ARE NOT FUN! they really really are not..trust me..i have done so many regretful things while drinking and then waking up and hearing my friends ask me questions like " i cant believe u hooked up with ur ex!" u kno? i mean even my friend 2 years ago was wasted and she slept with sum random guy and she got pregnant, she never heard from him again... i dont think u want things like that u happen to u.. now if ur going to drink so it at home first, ask ur parent " hey, u know i rele dont kno wat alchohol tastes like mom, can i have a sip, or just ask her about ur curiosity,, she might understand if shes cool about it. but other than that wait till ur 21.
2007-12-02 11:52:59 · answer #8 · answered by Sabster 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you from experience I say NO to drinking cause it in the long run can harm you and your liver and brain etc. I have seen to many people drunk and they get angry, depressed, Mean nasty the tend to fight, etc. So I would not do it for safety sake too.
2007-12-02 12:10:26 · answer #9 · answered by craig_snow2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't drink just because your friends do, all you are doing then is lower yourself and belittling yourself by becoming a follower, be your own person and make your own decisions, do something because YOU want to do it, don't do it to fit in and be apart of a crowd, that's just another way of degrading yourself.
2007-12-02 11:48:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋