We have been at odds lately, but I thought we were going to a counselor to make it work. He decided he needed to do more things with out me, no problem. He is part of these survey groups and I thought that was where he was going last night.
Found out he rented a tux, and went to a black tie fund raiser that a woman he met on Craigslist invited him to. He says nothing happened, and I do believe him. I do however think he stepped out of line.
BTW, he has NEVER rented a tux to take me out in 10 years.
2007-12-02 11:03:33 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thank you for confirming what I thought. He moved out this morning. We have one last counseling session and then I think we're done.
I just couldn't believe he thought it was okay.
2007-12-02 11:24:27 · update #1
He was on Craigslist looking for a roommate to replace me when we split.
2007-12-02 11:25:38 · update #2
The warning bells should be sounding. Of course your husband isnt going to tell you anything happened....most men wont tell their wives they are interested in someone else. Yes, he was way out of line. The fact that he wants to do more without you should be alarming you as well. I dont go much on the counselor you are seeing if he/she advocates your husband do things without you. I wouldnt be accepting any of it. He lied to you about going to the black tie dinner....if it was harmless, why didnt he tell you? He's lying to you for a reason and I dont think its as harmless as he is making out.
2007-12-02 11:11:32 · answer #1 · answered by rightio 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
UMMM He!!! yeah he did the onyl person he should be renting a tux fro would be his wife much less having a nice evening out with anohter woman???
I think you guys need to have a serious heart to heart and tell him how you felt ask him how he would feel if you went out all dressed up to the nines wiht anohter man and see what he says.
Just cause nothing happened now dosen't mean it won't in the future and if you don't stop it now yes he will eb the wrong one but you will only have yourself to blame if it's not talked about and stopped NOW
2007-12-02 11:18:08 · answer #2 · answered by life as we know it 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that he went on Craigslist when he was supposedly trying to fix things between the two of you is a sign to get rid of him and it doesn't matter whether he was out of line this time or not because it may be he didn't because she wouldn't. there is a good site for relationships that I will give you but basically, get rid of this guy and don't be in too much of a hurry to move on until you are sure that it is not a rebound thing but a real chance of making it work. Good Luck to you!!
2007-12-02 11:31:34 · answer #3 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes that is stepping over the line! Why would he do that behind your back in the first place? That is not showing any respect to you at all! I would consider that cheating even if nothing happened. It's the principal behind the fact that he went on a date with another woman. If you've been with him for 10 years he should have the decency to tell you hes interested in dating someone else rather than going behind your back.
2007-12-02 11:10:09 · answer #4 · answered by Kelsey 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think he overstepped his bounds. I would be very interested to know why he'd be willing to go to such limits for someone else and not me. However, I would wait a bit to cool off before I asked him about it. I wouldn't be confrontational either, because he'll just get angry and defensive. I would just be honest and tell him that it bothered you that he would go to an event like that without telling you. If you are going to choose an issue, I would be more concerned about the honesty factor than the other woman. I think if he was actually interested in her, he'd have covered his tracks a little more carefully. Maybe suggest an event that the two of you could go to together...have a reason to dress up and get your spark back...
2007-12-02 11:15:08 · answer #5 · answered by cestmoi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Craigslist--- sometimes is a glorified meat market. It's not nearly quite as bad as Adult Friend Finder, however. Be wary that since he wants to spend more time doing things without you that he's breaking away from you emotionally as well. He might be ready for a split. Definitely... going on dates with other women, is out of line unless you're fine with it.
2007-12-02 11:09:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is WAY out of line! He went on a date with another woman! That is cheating! And you don't really know that he didn't do anything!
BTW -- why was he looking for women on Craigslist!?!
2007-12-02 11:21:31 · answer #7 · answered by BTB{06.22.09} 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah!
Definitely out of line.
You need to put a stop to this , maybe nothing happened this time., But it will the next time.
Why is he renting tuxes and such for her. You better find out and quick.
2007-12-02 11:13:32 · answer #8 · answered by bakerone 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That was way out of line and it doesn't matter if something happened or not. He lied to you and mis-used your trust while going on a date with another woman. If I were you I would be pissed off and that would be my breaking point. I would be done. Good Luck to you.
2007-12-02 11:07:50 · answer #9 · answered by firemouse23 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I think the hooker from craigslist was the only person having a fundraiser. I bet she raised about $300 from your husband.
2007-12-02 14:50:44 · answer #10 · answered by jeff b 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋