Ok...my ex boyfriend and i have 2 children together, my daughter is 2 and my son is 1. My ex has not seen my daughter in almost 2 years and has never seen my son. He blames me but he knew where we were. His name is not on either's birth certificate and they have my last name. He pays me support but it's been on and off. He calls but my daughter won't talk to him. He has never sent a birthday card or Christmas card or presents for either one. My current boyfriend and i are getting married soon and we both would like him to adopt my kids but i don't know all the ins and outs of getting this done in PA...what can i do??? Can he adopt them without us being married??? How long do we have to be married before he can adopt them if that is the case??? I really would like to know....can anyone help me????
2007-12-02 11:01:03 · 11 answers · asked by Solstice Witchbane 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We lived together for 6 months after my daughter was born and then i came home for reasons that he asked me to and he has not made any attempt to see my kids since this whole thing started. He blames me for him not coming to see my kids.....he has a new family now and all he does is ***** to me about having to pay me support.
2007-12-02 11:51:56 · update #1
Why is it you want to give your kids to some guy you hardly know? he adopts the kids then he can sue for custody, are you a nut?
2007-12-02 11:58:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can adopt your children without being married and this should be a great thing for you and the kids. THe only reason why your ex is doing this as he doesn't want to pay support and that is awful when it comes to money is more improtant then kids. This guy is a wonderful guy that your going with and for him to do this makes him a special person. You need to talk to someone in the law field and get the ball rolling so these kids can have a real dad.
2016-05-27 07:27:13 · answer #2 · answered by madeleine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lived in PA when I had my son, if he isn't on the birth certificate then you shouldn't have that many problems. You can file abandonment after 6 mo. My husband and I were married, when he adopted my son, about 3 months. He also had to talk to a counselor to make sure that he knew what he was getting into before the judge would grant the adoption!
2007-12-02 11:24:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ask an attorney.
In alot of cases, one just has to ask the "father/mother if they'd relinquish their rights as a parent and him/or her sign a statement of this fact. You'd be better off haveing an attorney handle it all though so it would be all legal.
You may be would find yourself in a bind later on down the road, by letting the fiance adopt and then all of a sudden one day, this man who has paid some support, showed up and caused hardship on the whole situation if he could prove by DNA that he is the real father.
2007-12-02 11:25:40 · answer #4 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The court is going to be looking at stability for your kids so marriage is a prerequisite.They are not going to allow him to adopt if he can't make a committment to their mother that they are living with. They will come in and do a family study to see what kind of income you have and will require that the childrens biological father be notified and made aware that a petition has been put forth for adoption of your children by your new spouse. he will have to agree to relinquish his parental claim on the kids in writing. I don't believe he will be responsible for any further financial support if your new husband legally adopts them. All of this will require a good family court lawyer.
2007-12-02 11:29:33 · answer #5 · answered by Mama Mia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The phone book will give a listing of family lawyers that deal with adoptions. That would be your best resource.
Then you can find out all the costs involved, the paperwork, and hoopla to get this rolling.
And, they would probably need verification of any child support paid.
And then of course, the legal paperwork your ex needs to sign to waive his rights as the parent.
2007-12-02 11:10:41 · answer #6 · answered by Ella 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you will have to get married first, then have the ex sign his rights away, or have him stripped of them. But get married, then get a lawyer to deal with the rights issue and adoption.
2007-12-02 11:10:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get marreid first and then ask the dad to sign papers. If that works then you should be home free. IF you have to fight it, it might be alost cause. He pays or has payed child support, and he has tried to see the child. This will show the judge that he wants to see his child and he will most likly order you to allow him.
Good luck with this
2007-12-02 11:48:04 · answer #8 · answered by Brandi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he can legally adopt your children unless the biological dad gives up his parental rights or is deceased, you should call a lawyer. Also try this web-site and good luck
2007-12-02 11:08:55 · answer #9 · answered by Nikki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure actually its easier and cheaper just to change their names to his. this worked for me and my family-we had a lawyer do everything and then changed all of the paperwork and birth certificates that way then your new hubby can say he is their father-its easier than adopting.
2007-12-02 11:06:32 · answer #10 · answered by Lunaeclipz 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋