i have a 4 month old...?

Question

my 4 month old insists upon me carrying him around at all times. or at the very least i have to be standing while hes in my arms. does anyone have a similar situation? or know why he does this. the minute i sit down with him in my arms he screams until he gets his own way and i stand up. i cant live my life like this. he doesnt enjoy anything but this. we do tummy time, he has one of the most top of the line saucers, a kick and play, a swing, mobile, peek a boo, baby first tv, we sing to him, read to him... you name it we've tried it!!! all he wants is for me to stand up and hold him. thanks for all the help im desparate!

Answer 1

I have a four month old girl...and she is SLOWLY starting to come out of this phase herself. It's tough, i know. We have everything in the world to entertain her as well..and she hated it all. She now tolerates the floor, her swing, bouncer... (Not for long periods of time, but she's getting better.)
Just keep trying...put him on the floor for a bit....when he cries, pick him up, then do it again....he will eventually sit for longer periods....just rotate him..(I have to switch my girls position every 10-15 minutes to keep her happy)...just give it a little while...before you know it he will be sitting by himself and enjoying his new view of the world...Good luck!

Answer 2

aha I remember this. He's a boy. They love there mommies. My son now 5 liked to held all the time and standing. It's just a phase and should pass. I tried to keep him busy like the things you mentioned and just let him cry if he still wanted to be held. Do you have any baby mozart video's? I loved them and so did my boys. The video's shut them up right away.

Answer 3

wow, that sounds tough. my daughter, my second baby, was like that, just really clingy, couldn't be left by herself. my son was so content to just play by himself, but my daughter always has to have company. she's not quite as bad as your son sounds though. i think this may sound drastic, but maybe you tcould try leaving him with someone for a while, like an hour or two. have your husband look after him and go shopping or someone else that can look after him. if you're still breastfeeding, pump some milk to leave with some bottles that can feed him and just let him get used to someone else so that he's not literally attached to you 24/7. also, this sound even worse, but let him cry when you put him down. walk away for 5 minutes, come back and calm him down, let him know you're still there, but don't pick him up. play with him on the floor, but gradually let him get used to being on the ground. if he keeps crying, try to settly him down, then awalk away for 5 or more minutes again, etc. hope this helps, and all the best!

Answer 4

maybe he has reflux, and the action of you holding him upright may soothe him - does he do it in the night when you put him down to sleep?, if he does he almost certainly has reflux which is very common and painful problem in young babies.
usually in a baby this age it is not through spoiling or them wanting their own way, as they dont have the brain power for this yet lol.
you could try a door bouncer, which would hold him upright and he can bounce in the doorway, or a bumbo seat which he can sit upright in.
anyway try going down the reflux road 1st

Answer 5

As hard as this may be... You may have to let him cry. I have to do this to my three month old sometimes and it breaks my heart. I would never let her cry to the point in which she makes herself sick, but just long enough for her know that she has to sit still every now and then. She likes to be moving around with me as well. The hardest part is convincing my husband not to give in! Best wishes.

Answer 6

if you've tried everything, its time to let him cry it out a little bit... i say its okay to hold babies a lot when they're young but like you said, you can't continously do it... sit him down and tell him mommy has to do this right now and can't hold you, but when I can hold you again I will... even though he can't understand you as well as you want him to still explain to him why your not holding him, eventually he'll get that your not going to do what he wants all the time... my son was like that once, and it was only for a day... i found out he was constipated and because he didn't feel good he just wanted his mommy... so make sure he's not sick or constipated before putting him down, but if everything checks out, it's okay to let him cry for a little bit... it's the only way he'll get use to it

Answer 7

Well, you can either stand all the time or let him get used to hanging out on the floor with something to entertain him. Let him cry for a little bit before you pick him up. He will get used to entertaining himself eventually.

Answer 8

My 4and a half month old is the same. It tires me and my husband too. Ive got a sling we use as well that helps gives my arms a rest so maybe you could try one too.

Answer 9

my baby was like that at that age, i got so tired of carrying him. i took my moms advice and let him cry sometimes, not for long because i couldnt handle it, but just enough to relax.

i think it is just a phase some babies go through. my baby is now 9 months and hates to be held, he loves to get down and play.

Answer 10

My son did this exact thing I cried didn't know what to do but I'll tell you listen to everyone make him get used to being alone some it's great for him that way he learns to pacify himself he has to gain this socially let him cry is what it boils down to