okei, so a while ago, i broke up with my bf for treating me bad, then we got back together and we have been together for 2.5 years(3years next week), and so today, we got in an argument over god knows what and he hit me, he actually hit me, i cannot believe he hit me, and now he says he is sorry but i dont belive him and idk y. he is 17(just turned 17 last month) and im 14, and im not telling on him, but should i forgive him and take him back or no?
2007-12-02 10:35:26 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
what i mean is that im not telling the police, but im telling my cousins guero and fernando and my best friend chuchi(who is his cousin) they will beat his as.s
2007-12-02 10:44:44 · update #1
yea i kno ure mad i wud be too but then again ure not with him just for the thought of being with him there's something keeping u attached to him and that'll make u not wanna leave him no matter what u kno and it sucks cus then it'll make him take advantage of u just like mine does.
2007-12-03 00:17:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here are my 6 reasons why you should dump him:
1. You started dating him for three years, so wait... that means you started dating him when you were 11 and he was 14.
2. Okay, so if you took him back, and a year from now you guys were still together, your relationship would be illegal anyway. It's just an all-around stupid relationship/situation.
3. Sweetie, no one should ever treat you like that.
4. It's not "telling on him." Telling on someone is like telling the teacher you saw someone cheat. No, reporting abuse/harrassment is not "telling on him," it's reporting a crime.
5. He's not sorry, he's just saying that so you will forgive him.
6. He's not worth your time - and if you were to get back together with him, there is always the possibility that he will get so mad that he just might kill you.
Please, don't take him back. Your life may depend on it. I wish you the best.
2007-12-02 10:58:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You were 11 and he was 14 when you first started going with him????
Anyway, he has an anger issue. Good that you don't believe him when he says he's sorry. The cycle of violence (toward women) is 1) everything is going well; 2) he gets angry and hits you; and 3) he begs forgiveness and promises to never do it again. BUT HE WILL. And if he is hitting you now, he would probably hurt your children (if the relationship gets that far). Show him the door and tell him to not let it hit him in the butt as he leaves. And don't let him back in again.
You should report him and his behavior to the police. If he isn't hitting you, he will hit his next girlfriend. Do you want someone else to be put in that position???
He needs help and protecting him will not get him the help he needs. Please reconsider your actions.
2007-12-02 10:54:13 · answer #3 · answered by Suepee 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OMG! leave him leave him now!
There is no way this will work out because
1. there is a 2 or 3 year age difference. he's a jounior or senior and your a freshmen or sophmore.
2. he hit you! never take a man back who hit you.!
3. give it a year and this relatoinship will be against the law. If he does anything with you it will be considered rape in most states
2007-12-02 12:58:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take him back...My friend has been getting abused by her bf for almost 1 year...I've had to try and convince her to break up with him but she won't listen...She has a bruise the size of a softball on her face right now because he hit her...If that doesn't convince her that he's a bad guy...Then nothing will.
2007-12-02 13:21:57 · answer #5 · answered by princess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to end this relationship imediatley. You say that you have been together for almost 3 years. It seems kind of wrong that when he was 14, you were 11. an you imagine at this point in your life goin out with an 11 year old? It seems kind of wrong doesn't it? Any sex that you have had has been illeagal. End things now, before escalade and get worse.
2007-12-02 11:48:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
What are you thinking your 14 and he is 17 you should date guys a little closer to your age and no dont take him back unless you want to get hit again
2007-12-02 12:37:05 · answer #7 · answered by T. B. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I know this might not be a very popular answer, but just listen for two seconds.
You've been together for almost 3 years? Has he ever hit you before? One time could just be a screw up. If you do stay with him, which I'm not necessarly saying is right, make sure he knows that is VERY VERY VERY WRONG. He might not ever do it again. But if EVER hits you again, leave and don't look back.
He did a very bad thing. It's probably best you leave him. But, I just have this feeling you won't. If you won't, at least follow my adivce. Please.
2007-12-02 11:10:45 · answer #8 · answered by <3 Just a Girl 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
first of all you should tell someone. Secondly even if you don't tell someone you definitely shouldn't take hime back. And third you are only 14 you haven't even had a chance to really date or know that he he is the right one for you. There are other fish in the sea. You can do better! Good luck with your decision!
2007-12-02 10:41:02 · answer #9 · answered by andrews.baby2310 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Don't take him back. A boy, especially an older one, should never ever ever EVER hit a girl. That's just wrong, and no one deserves to be treated like that. He needs anger management classes.
2007-12-02 10:50:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋