i just read that my friend likes my boyfriend and idk what to do help!? she recently posted a question along the topic ''am i a bad friend'' i am not mad @ her but i don't know what to say! any ideas!?
2007-12-02 10:17:56 · 16 answers · asked by ☮Kayareeyees☮ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Why don't you compare answers that you both recieved, use that as a conversation starter, and go from there? If you remember that above all else you two really are friends, everything else should fall into place. Again, good luck.
2007-12-02 10:21:12 · answer #1 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion the best thing to do is to talk to her about it. It may not even be true! I think it's important to approach her in an understanding but concerned way. Be sure not to sound accusatory! You don't want her to become defensive! Let her know that you can certainly understand why she likes him (since he is your boyfriend I assume he's a great guy!) and that you trust she will respect your relationship with him as well as your friendship with her. If she's truly a good friend she will not want to come between you and your guy nor will she want to hurt you.
If you have a solid relationship with your boyfriend, remain confident and secure. If he truly cares about you, the whims of another girl should not shake the special feelings he has for you.
2007-12-02 18:39:18 · answer #2 · answered by Dogchic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off you are not a bad friend but she is. I would confront her as soon as possible. Ask her how she could have feelings for YOUR boyfriend. I am curious though - does he flirt with her? I find it strange that she would like him if he doesn't give her reason to. If you have been together for a while just say that he is off limits and that you are in a deep relationship and if you want to remain friends then she needs to stay away from him until these feelings subside.
2007-12-02 18:23:37 · answer #3 · answered by George N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is very noble of you to not be mad at her. If i were you -and i was in your exact place at one point- i would just explain to her that you are aware that she likes your boyfriend, but.. you know.. hes YOUR boyfriend. She will probably be much happier to know that you arent mad at her, and it might make things slightly less awkward. Trust me, sooner or later this crush will wear off, or she will move on and find some one equally as cool. Or you can help her find another boy she has things in common with. Maybe a friend of your boyfriend?
2007-12-02 18:22:53 · answer #4 · answered by elyssa n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-12-02 18:20:38 · answer #5 · answered by J☼E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would bring up the subject to her ASAP. tell her its bothering you because hes your boyfriend not hers. tell her that your not mad just frusterated or something. you need to address this soon before things get bad or out of ocntrol.
2007-12-02 18:20:49 · answer #6 · answered by hail_storm30 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can have a crush on someone.. It doesnt chang anything.. Theres no reason to be freakin out.. Its not like ur bf is ganna jump on her..
2007-12-02 18:20:27 · answer #7 · answered by shes.unknown 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her no she isn't a bad friend if she just doesn't try anything funny with your bf.
2007-12-02 18:21:13 · answer #8 · answered by Silence Dogood 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've liked a guy that my friend was dating but i never said anything, why she would say anything that she knew you could acess is beyond me but you need to tell her that you'd appreciate it if she would just try to find another guy... also you need to make sure ur bf knows and you need to set boundries with this girl- she needs to know that it's ur bf and ur happy with him. say something like " i know you like him but you need to just stay out of my romantic life" and if she gets rly pissed say " get ur own bf or something like that good luck
2007-12-02 18:26:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lucky guy ... if you are willing to share i think he'll love u for that :P
but if u are not ... then umm
1) introduce some guy to her .
2) pretend u know nothing about it and let her solve her own problems
other then that there is nothing else u can do ..
2007-12-02 18:20:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋