he always needs everything &don't care about his wife
2007-12-02 09:46:38 · 22 answers · asked by bokaa s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We don't try to be that way. We have tunnel vision. We can learn if you take the time to teach us how you would like to be treated. We can't read your minds. We love you very much and we just don't know how to show it with thoughtfulness sometimes.
2007-12-02 09:51:30 · answer #1 · answered by brown sugar 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-10 10:26:44 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if someone marries the wrong person, this will happen...whether it's the wife or the husband on the short end of the stick. Not all men are like that. The truth is that the woman is really to blame if she continues to accept the behavior and doesn't demand more of her spouse.
2007-12-02 09:51:19 · answer #3 · answered by ladybug 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
that's not true with all men.
I've noticed with my parents that my dad is always trying to make my mom happy and remembers every word she says. He's also the only one who cleans in our family and is the only one who works. He always buys my mom expensive gifts and he loves to do family stuff. My mom is the opposite. She's kind of cheap and she just likes to stay home. My mom does go to college twice a week but other than that she doesn't do anything.
2007-12-02 09:52:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps a definition of selfish is in order
does he take all the financial responsibility
does he provide for you and children (if any)
does he keep the home maintenance done
does he occasionally remember a special occasion
if he does these things and you do not have to work outside the home, maybe he is not selfish.
if he doesn't do those things maybe he is selfish and needs his rump kicked
2007-12-02 09:52:42 · answer #5 · answered by fretochose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have heard about men like the one you described. NOT all men are that way by the way. You must be talking about your "boy" who thinks he is a man eh? Any adult person acting the way you described should not be allowed to marry any woman. They are "punks" in my opinion and do not deserve a good woman. So if you have one of those as a husband I suggest that you send him back to his mommy...
2007-12-02 10:03:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is all about expectations. You have to raise your standards. Personally, my husband knew long before I married him that I would not put up with him being selfish and inconsiderate. Not to say that he does not make mistakes every now and then, but I call him on his crap and he shapes up!
2007-12-02 10:29:37 · answer #7 · answered by Charlee's Mama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are babies for one thing. Women are expected to do everything (even if they work full time) and wait on their husband and their husband becomes accustomed to that lifestyle. We really have not progressed much from the 50's except that women work now.
2007-12-02 09:50:55 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ тнє σяιgιиαℓ gιяℓfяι∂αу ♥ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some women are the same way hon, it isnt just men.
The number one reason for divorce is usually because BOTH people are selfish and are trying to force the other to become what THEY want him/her to be.
2007-12-02 09:51:02 · answer #9 · answered by Joe F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is ridiculous and insulting. Not all men are like that. Most intelligent people understand that. Would you like to be labeled a slut and a whore just because some women are?
2007-12-02 10:09:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋