what to do???
im marrying a man whom i never thought never hit a female.
he swore to never hit me
he had left me bruised threw me
emotionally physical hurt me
i love him he swores to never do it again.
and a month later he does it again.
i dont know what to do
i get scared
what do you do
espcially when you have a young child involved???
2007-12-02 09:39:34 · 15 answers · asked by -Proud Mommy- 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
this is not my son's biological son. every time i try to leave he begs not to leave. cries and everything
i raised my son for 2 yrs by myself
by the help of my parents & family
he seemed like the perfect guy
took us in.
gave us a house bought us clothes everything
even sending my son to expensive private school
and he's the only guy my son really knew besides my father
2007-12-03 04:29:39 · update #1
You deserve better. You are not a punching bag. You must not let you young child be exposed to violence. You will make the child think that is just the way life is. You don't want that.
2007-12-02 09:48:30 · answer #1 · answered by brown sugar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't marry him, it may be hard, but love is hard. And that love is inappropriate and a one way street. Talk to a therapist if you can and the courts, your love is no longer the priority. Your child is. And your guys safety.
Move out if you're living with him, if your scared go to the authorities. try living with some family or on your own if you can. Don't see him for a while because you don't want to feel helpless. You need to have the control, abuse is wrong regardless. There may also be a local mother abuse program. Don't let this continue either, you need to have the strength for you and your little one to walk away.
Please get some help.
2007-12-02 10:00:14 · answer #2 · answered by m- 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not in immediate danger, make a safety plan and get ready to go... gather any documents you need for you and your child... gather some money, decide what you need for you and the baby for a few days... call your local women's shelter and find out what services are available for you and the baby..
If you feel you are in immediate danger, leave, leave now and get the documents later.
Go to the women's shelter, they will help with all necessary paperwork. File for a temporary order of protection, gather your documents and witnesses, if any...
I went through this very scenario a year ago with my then 2 year old... life is better than that...
If you won't leave for yourself, leave for the child.. what will happen to your baby if he loses control and hurts you so bad you're hospitalized or kills you.. what if he turns on the baby.. he told you he'd never hurt you and he did.. he could very well turn and hurt the child.. go. Be safe, get help... There's so much help out there for you, you just need to ask.
email anytime.
2007-12-02 09:46:05 · answer #3 · answered by Wildflower 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The first time he hit you made it easier to hit you again. Unless he gets some anger management or counseling, he will continue to hit you. Whatever raising your parents did not do, he can't do now. You need to get some counseling also to find out why you would want to stay with someone that will physically or emotionally abuse you. You should not want your children to see you go through these things. Children are smarter than we give them credit for.
Love is not suppose to hurt physically. Although you love him, you should love yourself more. Seek counseling before its too late.
2007-12-02 09:51:23 · answer #4 · answered by Hotgirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Save money, pack secretly, sneak out when he least expects it and go where he would never think to find you. Make sure you take your address book, clear the history and files from all computers ( get trackseraser pro if you can) and save yourself. My friends X was like that and he just got worse. had to sneak her out to my brothers friends mothers house to hide her and divorce. He married another woman and beat her too and made her miscarry their 5 mo old fetus. Bad stuff. So sorry to hear you are not safe. I don't like my hubby much but he doesnt hit me. Please be safe, and plan.. even if you think you wont use it.. it will be there for an emergency.
Best of luck sweetie.
2007-12-02 09:48:35 · answer #5 · answered by Sickofneedylazypeople 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Under no cricumstances should you marry this one! Get your child support and move on-these men do not change-in fact after marraige it may get worse-get out of this relationship now. He should have been arrested for that-if you had reported it.If he had done that to a stranger he would have been arrested.Think about your child-is this the way you want your child to live witnessing domestic violence?or becoming a victim of it?
2007-12-02 09:44:55 · answer #6 · answered by Lunaeclipz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a vicious cycle. If he did once he WILL do it again. You have children to think about. The damage they will have just seeing their mother in this situation is beyond what it's worth to be with him. GET OUT! Good luck and love those kids.
2007-12-02 10:01:03 · answer #7 · answered by 84cj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT MARRY HIM!And end all contact with him. It will get worse. If he hits you now, it will get worse in the future. He could kill you. Think of your child! You should seek professional help.
I hope you listen before you ruin your life.
2007-12-02 09:44:53 · answer #8 · answered by Beachgirl123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is this a poem?? Do you have to ask?? get a job, a place for yourself and move out, take the kid with you and stop feeling sorry for yourself, thank God this happen before the wedding!!!
2007-12-02 09:47:04 · answer #9 · answered by suehellen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget marrying him leave get up go now
2007-12-02 09:43:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋