Last summer my husband admitted that he didn't want me to be a housewife and so I went back to work. I have now picked up a full time job and he has picked up...nothing.
I work full time, raise 3 kids (1 disabled), go to school part time, take care of the house and everything I did before I went back to work. My husband is a truckdriver so he's only home 3 days a month. It all falls on me and he hasn't seemed to take into consideration how much I do.
Me self esteem was low before and I am really enjoying my job and the chance at a future.
My problem is that I'm tired and my husband doesn't seem to care. He will complain that the house isn't as clean as it use to be, but after doing the dishes he lays on the couch. I have so many things in my life and he has become an inconvenience. There is no evidence that he cares about the family. We don't have any kind of interesting conversations and sex is better by myself. How wrong am I for feeling this way?
2007-12-02 09:19:45 · 12 answers · asked by kidzrdrivinmekrazy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds like to me that you two have veered off onto different paths in life. When we fall in love with someone, we are almost always "on the same page". But, life being...well, life...we grow and evolve and change and sometimes we grow apart. It's just a part of life. What's important to one may now not be as important to the other. There's no universal law that says you have to mate for life no matter what the circumstances. It's nice in theory, but doesn't work well in real life. If you have grown apart, if you are no longer on that same page, then by all means for both of your sake I would sit down and discuss where to go from here. There's no sense in wasting each other's time and energy when you could both be happy in different situations. That's not to say it will be easy, it won't. But nothing in life worth having comes easy. I wish you both the best of luck.
2007-12-02 09:37:20 · answer #1 · answered by TwyztedChyck 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i say keep the job get rid of the husband lol, no but really keeping the job may be the best thing u have ever done, talk to him in private when you are not angry, you are probably going to have to lay down the law cause most it apparently dosen't dawn on most guys that doing the dishes is not all they need to do. tell him using the word i alot i need help, i can't do this alone, or i want a divorce and you are not wrong for feeling this way, he is coasting and using u as a doormat, question do you need his income or not, maybe use his income for a housekeeper while u make your plan to start your own life, or just put your money in the bank in an account he cannot get to and make your plans so it will be a lot easier when u get rid of the lazy couch potatoe
2007-12-02 09:40:07 · answer #2 · answered by Dale T 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you are quitting work because being a full time mother ,housewife is a full time job, and he can either:
1 he stays at home and cooks and cleans and takes care of the kids ,
2. let you stay at home and cook clean take care of the kids
3 get a local job where he is home every evening and HELP with the kids and housework or
4 pay child support after the divorce.
Tell him those are his ONLY options.
2007-12-02 09:27:17 · answer #3 · answered by Joe F 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would wager to guess that he's a loser maybe? He wanted you to go back to work, but wasn't willing to pick up the slack when he's at home? Trucking isn't the greatest job for someone when there is a family involved, even though the money may be great.
I don't think your husband is someone I'd care to meet.
2007-12-02 09:24:58 · answer #4 · answered by Shayna 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, your husband has entered into the LAZY ZONE. Tell him to get off the couch and make himself useful or get the heck out. What's the difference girl? Your vibrator could give you more satisfaction the he currently is in your life. Your already a single parent so send his butt a packing.
2007-12-02 09:26:34 · answer #5 · answered by Time To Go 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
your feelings are normal, you have lost the love for your husband , mostly because you think he has lost the love or interest for you. your a grown lady, and sounds like that you already can take care of yourself. so then i see nothing stopping you from leaving him. file for your divorce and move on with your life, there are lots of men out there that will be happy to be part of your life.
2007-12-02 09:31:51 · answer #6 · answered by butter b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your not wrong but your obviously not happy Do what you need to do for you and your kids we only have one shot at this life so make the most of it. I hope you make the right decision for you. x
2007-12-02 09:35:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
feelings aren't right or wrong, they just are; and if this is how you feel, then perhaps making a plan to leave is what is best for you and your family. Make sure it's what you really want before you do it though. good luck to you
2007-12-02 09:25:20 · answer #8 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should get a divorce, leave him the kids, and become a dancer in Las Vegas!!!!!!!
2007-12-02 09:25:58 · answer #9 · answered by Xi S 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stop doing things he wont want to do leave it sooner or later hell do it himself
2007-12-02 09:25:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋