We're getting married but I live in NY and he's in Chicago.. i dont know if i have to move to his location or not? or like how all this married to a government man works please help im nervous
2007-12-02 08:59:09 · 13 answers · asked by harhar 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to move with him and stay with him. It's part of being a navy wife. Talk to him about it and figure out what can be arranged to get you and your stuff moved.
2007-12-02 09:05:10 · answer #1 · answered by Rockit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to move but when ya'll get married he will be getting more money added onto his paycheck for a housing allowence each month so that the two of you can live together. It would be a good idea to move and be with him...you will be his wife and i'm sure he'll love to be with you. If your husband has to go underway (sea-time) befriend some of the other NAVY wives that are going through the same thing....that way you wont feel so alone.
2007-12-02 09:55:53 · answer #2 · answered by C.J. 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
properly, i waited after being jointly 4 years. We didnt get engaged till his training replaced into over (a 365 days into his enlistment) because of the fact we would have enjoyed to make advantageous we ought to handle the gap (even regardless of the undeniable fact that we had finished it for a 365 days earlier) and nevertheless felt an identical way approximately eachother... I DO think of that once 5 years he might desire to be nearer to understanding if he needs to spend his existence with you, yet whats ideal for you is probably no longer ideal for him. Its no longer honest which you will declare hes doing this to you and you shouldnt might desire to attend. in case you incredibly think of all that, youre no longer decrease out to be a armed forces spouse and arranged may be a bad theory.... and in case you think of the gap is gonna be much less confusing as quickly as youre married, youre incorrect. Its gonna be ten thousand situations greater sturdy. So save that for the period of recommendations.
2016-10-18 21:16:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has to go where ever the navy says. You need to talk about this before you married. Also you need to plan you're life to gather after he is out of the navy as to where you will live.
2007-12-02 09:14:31 · answer #4 · answered by Larry E 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the military don't pay more for there spouse to live in another state that plain stupid.
but you don't have to move. but if you dont move why would you want to marry him. I Can see if he goes to see whats the point of moving. but he will be your hubby and you need to be with him. you need to understand the navy life before jumping in. its a very hard life. for spouses. my sister was married to a navy chief and she said while married to him she felt like she lived by herself and raised their child alone and took care of everything with out him. she jokes by calling him her sperm donor. but their marriage had its rocky moments but like the lady said the navy wives are there to help you out in those times and can help you on how to handle things and get around the military BS.
2007-12-02 10:04:45 · answer #5 · answered by Jecht 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Military personnel move when ordered to move.
Married military personnel usually take their families to wherever they are stationed, with the exception of war zones.
If you really don't like the idea of moving now, and you don't think you will like the travel involved in his career, I'd pass on the wedding and see how it goes til he gets out of the Navy.
2007-12-02 09:57:01 · answer #6 · answered by Puresnow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You legally do not have to move... I know many sailor wives who stay in states other than the one their husband is stationed (usually to be closer to other family). A good percentage of sailors spend very little time at their home base, instead they are out to sea where wives cannot follow.
2007-12-02 09:28:49 · answer #7 · answered by Aimee R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you don't have to move. you can be married to him and stay in NY. Just know that if you marry him he gets paid more! And if you stay away from him he gets paid even more! However if you move with him you get to be close to him but if he leaves you'll probly lonely over there. my suggestion is if you move don't buy tons of stuff that'll be jsut more for you to move.
2007-12-02 09:04:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u are that nervous then u really need to think about what u are doing.You should talk to your bf and find out who has to move..Most likely he can't do to his job...If u love him and can't live without him then move and enjoy him..I think u just have what they call cold feet.Just remember how he makes u feel..That should put things in perspective.Congrats and good luck.
2007-12-02 09:05:15 · answer #9 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you do not have to move. as for being married to a government man, it depends if he is on shore duty or in a sub. cuz when the guy is in a sub, it will not be fun for you. and he will most likely be gone a lot.
2007-12-02 09:04:25 · answer #10 · answered by li 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋