I keep on thinking im gonna get pregnant. I dream ever so often that i do get pregnant at an early age. My bf keeps asking me and i keep saying no, since im a strong believer of Christainity and then i wrote a letter to the Teen Magazine BRIO, and my mom found it. So she was really angry with my bf and thought she could trust him but told me he lost her trust. But im just worried say if i do get pregnant? Please tell me what i could do to aviod temptations!!!! Im in desprate need of help!
2007-12-02 08:21:42 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
If you are a committed Christian, then this should be a non-issue for you. Pregnancy doesn't just "happen." It takes a consenting guy and gal to conceive through sexual contact.
So if you are being tempted to commit sexual sins, the best thing to do is:
1. Pray for God's grace and He will give you strength
2. Avoid situations that involve temptation - that means being alone with your boyfriend for long periods of time, especially at night
3. Breaking up with any man you are dating who is pressuring you to sin.
I dated a guy for a while who was pressuring me for sex, and I finally woke up and realized it was foolish to keep dating him. Obviously, we had very different moral beliefs. Was this the kind of man I wanted to be a father to my children? Was this the kind of man I could trust with my body if he was constantly trying to take my purity from me?
These are questions you need to ask yourself.
If you want to do what's right, and stay pure, then you HAVE to remove any obstacles in your way.
Bless you.
2007-12-02 08:25:34 · answer #1 · answered by Veritas 7 · 9⤊ 2⤋
Since you're worried about getting pregnant I take it you're already sexually active. Best defense is abstinence but if that is not an option you're willing to consider then I strongly encourage you to go get yourself on some sort of birth control. Nothing but abstinence is 100%. I was on depo and still got pregnant so it CAN happen. However, if you adhere to the dosing schedules then the chances it will are very low. You should have a heart to heart with yourself and your boyfriend about what would happen if it did. I doubt he's ready to have a baby- and you're not either- yet.
I'm not a fan of the long-acting birth controls such as Depo or Norplant, however they are great ways to avert temptations and keep yourself babyfree until you're older. Also, condoms are always a good idea (as well as, not instead of) since pregnancy is not the only thing (nor is it the worst thing) you can catch from sex. It sounds like you have a committed partner for now, but when you're a teenager- that can change quickly. And just because you're committed and faithful doesn't always mean HE is.
If you are afraid of your mom finding out, then sometimes the school health counselor (nurse) can help provide you with information on how to obtain birth control. Your mom obviously knows you're having sex now, so maybe now is a good time to have that talk with her and have her take you to a doctor for something preventative.
Speaking from experience- becoming a teenage mother is very hard on you emotionally, physically, and socially. I would never recommend it to anyone. I love my kids- but I would have had them a few years later if I could change it now.
Take care, be safe.
2007-12-02 08:41:31 · answer #2 · answered by Nijojo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have a dream that you are actually HOLDING a baby that is supposed to mean you are going to get pregnant. The dreams you are having is what your mind is doing to help keep you from sexual temptations... since you know it would be a bad idea... your mind is reminding you that there are consequences to such actions. If you do end up "giving in" to temptation, as we all do from time to time... just make sure a condom is involved and you at least you won't have to worry about the getting pregnant part.
2007-12-02 08:32:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I see many pregnant teens, since I teach high school. One of my brightest girls got pregnant the first time she gave in to her boyfriend's whining and had sex with him. Their daughter was born early and had complications. They're still together. Most boys bail when the baby comes.
Don't risk it. If your boyfriend cares for you, he will respect your decision to abstain. I have two children (3 yrs. and 3 mo.) who I love more than anything in the world, but even with a husband in the house, they are a handful. I cannot imagine having done this alone or as a kid.
Stay strong. You won't regret it.
2007-12-02 08:32:12 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Even christians get tempted. Just keep yourself out of tempting situations. When my BF & I were dating (now my husband of 6 years) we would go out to Dennys & get pie & hot chocolate. Go for a walk ( not somplace deserted or known as the local makeout spot). Or stay at home & watch movies. Or go out in group dates. Just stay away from situations that will allow you & tempt you to do somehting you will later regret.
My hubby & I waited. And, it honestly the best way to go!! If you BF is pressuring you a lot. You may want to find a new one. You should NEVER feel uncomforatble or pressured by someone who you're supposed to be able to love & trust.
Good luck & God bless
2007-12-02 08:30:57 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs.know.It.All 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋
your dreams of getting pregnant might be from you having an empty void in your life ,get a puppy or cat that will prolly fill it,as far your Bf then you hold your ground girl , dont have sex with him if you dont want to, avoiding temptaion i dont think there is anyway to avoid it,you can avoid having sex just dont ever be alone with him an if he still trys to talk you into best to get up an leave, i know you love him, but getting pregnant is nothing that you can just stop an give upon, once you have that kid,its your responcabilty for life
2007-12-02 08:31:10 · answer #6 · answered by panthor001 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Don't have sex plain and simple. As far as avoiding temptation, don't put yourself in a position where sex can happen (being alone, etc.). I can see why your mom may be upset and lost her trust, it would be hard not to be concerned as a mother.
You can't get pregnant if you don't have sex. Wait until marriage if this is such a huge fear and issue with you.
2007-12-02 08:30:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Abstinence is the only 100% surefire way of not getting pregnant.
Your subconscious may be the reason why you keep dreaming of it. If you are active you may feel deep inside that you shouldn't be and the dreams are a result of that moral conflict.
2007-12-02 09:59:11 · answer #8 · answered by MiaStar 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I used to be that way too(and now I'm a pregnant teen). It really does mean nothing though. As to avoiding temptations, don't let yourself get in a situation where you could cave in. Do things in public more, when parents are around, etc.
2007-12-02 08:26:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
Avoid temptations? Cold showers =)
Seriously, you sound like you have a good head on your shoulders. Your bf shouldn't be pressuring you into something you're not ready to do. Either he knocks it off and respects your choice or he leaves :D
Good luck to you!
2007-12-02 08:26:02 · answer #10 · answered by ~*~Always&Forever~*~ 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋