Divorce suggestions?

Question

if you have gone through a divorce and don't mind sharing...

any tips/suggestions or things that might be overlooked?
anything you wish you knew beforehand?

Answer 1

Some of the things overlooked includes whose fault it was that leads to divorce, and more often the court system tend to favor women over men. Custody of kids too is overlooked. Then comes your expenses, things like morgage, car note, expenses you incurred when you were living together, your own well being is also over looked. The cost of divorce if you don't understand it may cost you more than you expect. So depending on you physical appearance, and what comes out of your mouth, it may cost you. Your health concern to is over looked. Your earning and your living standard is neglected. So be polite don't talk too much only main points only. Child support is calculated on how much you earn. All the expensed you did to your spouse is not valid. Your properties even if you worked alone to get them as long as you were married would be split equal. So they don't care how you struggled to acquire that property. Actually there is too much junk that you need to be aware of which may or may not come up during your divorce hearing. Things like alimony, punitive damages, buying your spouse a vehicle. spouse support, child support, DNA testing fee, your own vehicle, etc

Answer 2

See a counselor or family therapist. People on the brink of divorce generally have a huge problem communicating positively to one another, and an even bigger problem reaching out for help. Get help before you sign those papers! "For worse or for better, til death do us part". You owe it to each other to MAKE THE EFFORT to get some help. Maybe it won't help, but you will have tried, and, who knows, you might be surprised at the positive things you both can discover.

Answer 3

The link below should help. My son went through a Do-It-Yourself divorce, and his suggestion is be prepared to do a lot of work, and do a lot of waiting.

Even when you have a lawyer, as my sister did, you still have to get used to waiting for papers to clear. It takes forever!

Answer 4

I wish i had known how much the divorce was going to cost my children, ex, friends, extended family and me.
If I could go back I would do whatever it took to reconcile.
I wish I knew that the "friend of the court" was no friend to me or my kids-----they are constantly mishandling my child support.
I wish I knew a better lawyer.
and I wish I could go back and kick my own *** for being so stupid!