Why do most marriages end in divorce now?

Question

I'm very grateful for anything you can share,
I want to hear your reasons about why this happens.

Thank you very much :)

Answer 1

Hi PS, The reason's as to why marriages end in divorce could and possibley is, in it's thousands, However as the century's past so does evolution. humans being advanced as they are evolution is moving much faster than our counter parts the monkeys. Going back through the ages for example 1800's, it was common in the hierarchy for a husband and a wife to have lovers albeit hush hush. There was no need for either to be at home looking after the children as the Nanny took care of that, all the house work was done, therefore leaving time on their hands what was there left to do, the ocassional tea attendance etc etc. Unless the husband or wife were actually caught in the act of adultry, it was very difficult to obtain a divorce from the courts. The only time they were actually together was for public functions and the occasional rump in the bed (it was common for husband and wife to have seperate bedrooms to hold down the baby boom sindrome). It wasn't until the mid 1900's this the sort of behaviour seemed to have subsided, with the war going on there were not enough men to meet the needs, however there was in increase in fatherless children. The sexual revolution of the 1960's seemed to be the turning point in our history, Contraception made a well come impact into people lives and yet also destroyed the real meaning of marriage, where as before you had sex with a lover there was a higher risk of becoming pregnant,. These days if you are either using the Pill or Durex, you could be 99% safe from getting pregnant, therefore no tell tell signs, unless you are found out. Society has made it easy for couples to divorce for very little reason and neither one has to appear in court for the procedings unless children were involved. So to answer your question, evolution, has produced the high rate of divorces because todays society has allowed us to be fluent in the way we wish to run our lives. It has given us chances far above the days of old and it will continue. Marriage is not and will never be the same again, Society allows couples, be they gay, lesbian, or hetro to live under the same roof without the santuary of marriage. So it is possible that marriages of the future could end and so forth the amount of divorces will diminish, leaving evolution to create, and complete it's circle. Good luck....David

Answer 2

it's the fact that expectations have risen hugely. in past times it was expected that were going to be difficulties in a marriage but you stayed anyway. Nowdays people don't put up with it so much.

Also women in particular have mroe freedom, are financially independent and can lead lives of their own so they divorce their husbands a lot more than they used to. Women just used to put up with so much because there were no other options.

There are a lot of pressures on society now of a different nature than previously, particularly financially. Now, often both parents work and raise a family and the couple dont get as much quality time as in previous years. This can impact a marriage in a serious way.

We have grown up with the belief that it's an instant society too. We do what feels good. Sometimes we get sick of a partner and believe we're no longer in love so we find someone else, believing that the relationship is over, when in fact it's not love with the new person, it's just that it's something new. People don't seem to work at relationships quite as much. It's a combination of reasons but these are some of the things I see.

Answer 3

I married at nineteen and I'm still married to the same man 37 years later, both of my sisters are in equally long marriages yet our parents were divorced!
My Mum was the first to admit she married for the wrong reasons.
Nowadays though people are just not prepared to compromise, they see only what they like about people and want that rather than the real person! They also start married life with the attitude that if it doesn't work out, they can easily get a divorce, after all there is no stigma attached to it now. You just claim irreparable breakdown whatever that mines. Of course you can't repair it, when you don't even try!

Answer 4

Because back in the past marriage was a very religious thing, and along with the religious surpression of just about everything they get their hands on, they forced marriages to be life long, and never to divorce, basically forcing people to stay together when they may not have wanted to, which is awful. There is nothing wrong with seperation, it's not the seperation itself the brings the problems involved with divorce, it's usually the attitudes of the people involved. Doesn't make it wrong. Most people just need to grow up abit more and need abit more wisdom in dealing with relationship, and accepting that not all relationship (infact MOST) are not meant to last forever, so therefore end relationships, including marriages, on good terms.

That's why people divorce more, because people are now allowed to have the freedom to do what they want and end a relationship when it comes to the end of it's road, instead of forcing something that isn't going to work. :)

Answer 5

tory, Contraception made a well come impact into people lives and yet also destroyed the real meaning of marriage, where as before you had sex with a lover there was a higher risk of becoming pregnant,. These days if you are either using the Pill or Durex, you could be 99% safe from getting pregnant, therefore no tell tell signs, unless you are found out. Society has made it easy for couples to divorce for very little reason and neither one has to appear in court for the procedings unless children were involved. So to answer your question, evolution, has produced the high rate of divorces because todays society has allowed us to be fluent in the way we wish to run our lives. It has given us chances far

Answer 6

1. One of the big reasons for the increased rate of divorces nowadays is that women are not as financially dependent on their husbands as they used to be. For a long time most of the women opted to be housewives and a divorce would rid them of their financial support, they were not able to get jobs or get jobs that paid enough to keep a house. So that was a strong incentive to stay married.

2. Another reason is that in the culture of instant gratification people often do not want to work on the relationships. Once the euphoria of love dwindles down and real problems come up many decide that it is not worth their time to work problems out because working problems out is hard, it involves difficult talks and compromises.

Personally I believe that people should do their best to save a relationship but if all is done and the two are not happy then it is ok to part their ways and seek happiness elsewhere.

Answer 7

I do agree with you that so many marriages now do end in divorce now. Where I work there were a couple who married who worked in the same office and within 2 years they were divorced. I know three women in their 30s who are all divorced, I hear that people divorcing was quite rare in the old days.

I suppose things are different now, it is much more accepted and people live more adventurous lives and will not just stick with whom they married if they are not happy.
Maybe also that women have much more opportunities and careers unlike the old days when many women were housewifes and in low paid jobs means that they are more single minded and meet lots of new people and can become bored or drift away from people they met earlier in life.

It is a really interesting question, I don't know why so many people fall out of love with people they clearly love so much when they get married.

Answer 8

Alot of the time it's people feeling a sense that they don't want to waste their life with an unhappy situation although it can hurt both sides immensley. Perhaps one side is selfish and thinks they can do better. I think everyone is guilty of this at some point in a relationship. Here is my list of the main possible reasons:

* social pressures (like flirting, one night stands)
* a loss of sex in the relationship
* a lack of respect for one another
* mid life crisis
* one side has an affair

Every marriage is different and I guess the only way to stop a divorce is to make it work but sometimes even this is too late.

Answer 9

They are too selfish and are not wiling to do the work that a good marriage requires. When you say "I do" you should keep your word. Usually it is the man's fault by not really loving his wife. They stop doing the small things that they did to win her and just want to coast. I still very much enjoy holding my wife's hand and putting my arm around her like we did when we dated. I am a 1 girl man. We have been married almost 23 years and while there has been a lot of pain we have weathered the storms and will continue to do so because we committed ourselves to each other. Except for my faith in Jesus Christ she is the best "thing" that has happened to me.

Short answer guys are usually jerks! Women do not let them get away with it while they are dating you or it will continue later after marriage. Even if you do not marry that guy try to teach him how he should treat his future bride! Stand by that door until he opens it for you is one example.

Answer 10

i think marriages end nowdays mainly due to a shift in ideology, i mean back in the 50's (ladies dont take offence) women were the housewife, they stayed at home cooked, cleaned, looked after the young etc nowdays there is more of an expactancy and a need for woman to work this creates new opportunities in love? a lack of time? which are all factors in many divorces. Also, nowdays, a lot more can be done and said in public which was frowned upon forty yearsd ago this may influence how people percieve relationships hope this helped good question