I think it depends on the interviduale.
2007-12-02 06:43:16 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
First, your body has to be ready. And that's quite frankly not ready as young as some people are doing it!
Pregnancy is quite a strain on the body, and can have long lasting effects. So I wouldn't say the body is ready before about 19 or 20. Yes, I know in "the old days" (which seem to be coming back) that girls (note: girls, not women) were having children at 15 and 16 but that was cultural and brought on by the shorter lifespan and morals of the day, not whether a body was ready.
Second, there's maturity. Well, let me tell ya, I've seen some people mature enough for children at 16, and others at 40 that I wouldn't let a kid near with a ten-foot pole. But I think all women need to experience some life as a free adult on their own before they take on the huge commitment and selflessness it takes to be a good mother.
Now, to men? Maturity. Maturity, guys!! Oh, dear-- my neighbor just became a dad in his 30s and he needs to understand how mothers and fathers look at things differently, and how to be considerate to the mum SOON before he gets himself killed!! For all guys, that timing is quite individual.
2007-12-02 06:58:36 · answer #1 · answered by LJG 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It all depends on the person really. There is no set age. Though I think you should wait until you are over the age of 18 and out of high school. I was married at 19 and had my first son at the age of 20. I am now 23 and 39 weeks pregnant with another boy. I feel I am a good mother. I can't tell you how many times I have gone without so my son would have. I know some women who are a lot older then I am and they don't deserve there kids. I also know some teens who have kids and they are great mothers. But like I said it all depends on the person.
2007-12-02 06:48:52 · answer #2 · answered by Lurinda 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It does all depend on the person and how their life is going. I am 20 years old and have a beautiful 4 month old son. But I have friends my age and older who shouldn't have children for a few more years, at least. They're just not "grown up" enough to take care of themselves properly let alone a baby. If you are financially stable and in a relationship that is stable and you feel you're ready to be a parent (which IS a full time, 24/7 job) then by all means, have a baby. But if you have any doubts, wait. It's not something you can just give back if you don't like how it's going later on. You're stuck with that decision for the rest of your life.
2007-12-02 08:01:03 · answer #3 · answered by Dani 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the maturity and responsibilty of the person.
I know I'll get thumbs down or nasty remarks for this but..
I'm 16 and pregnant and I honestly believe that out of most teenagers who get pregnant and have babies, I actually am mature enough to raise a baby.
I've got the support, My boyfriend and I make the amount of money we need, I have babysat kids from 6 months to 10 years since I was 11.
There's some people that are like 35 and have the maturity of a 14 year old.
Just depends soley on the the person.
2007-12-02 07:59:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think so too, about it depending on the person. I'm 19 with a 5 month old and not only more mature than a lot of girls my age (as I've always been), but definitely mature enough for a baby.
2007-12-02 08:12:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
It depends on the person, my mum had me at 20 and it turned out good, I'm 25 and don't feel ready yet.
Personally I think you should be married. If you are mature enough for the commitment of marriage then you are mature enough for the commitment of a baby.
2007-12-02 06:53:15 · answer #6 · answered by pinkgerbera 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some could be mature enough at 16, and others never at all. It really depends on the person. But I don't think teens should have babies-- not because they can't be good moms (I know plenty of good teenage mothers) but because sooo much happens during the teen years that you might miss out on if you have a baby. Plus your teen years are the last [mostly] carefree years you have before you enter the world of [usually] stressful adulthood, so you should enjoy them!
2007-12-02 12:43:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, certainly it ALL DEPENDS...Some people are never mature enough. Others may be at an early age, but they would not be allowed, legally, to marry.
I would say that when they can realize that there are consequences for ALL ACTIONS and be able to accept those consequences. Making babies is fun; getting up in the middle of the night, especially when you had a rough day, are tired, and perhaps sick with the flu to change diapers is the consequence!
2007-12-02 06:52:35 · answer #8 · answered by Nothingusefullearnedinschool 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the person. My sister was married and had one baby at 19 and she is the best mom I know. I also know 30 year olds who are pregnant now who aren't mature enough.
2007-12-02 06:46:31 · answer #9 · answered by Pedsgurl 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the person. Some are ready at 20 and some are never ready. I don't think anyone in their teens should have children. Not because they aren't good mom's but I think they have a lot of growing to do and should enjoy those years.
2007-12-02 06:49:21 · answer #10 · answered by sweetbeesma 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋