I'm an older lady 30's, dating a younger guy 20's for the past 6 months....he has been hinting that he has very strong feelings for me, but is scared to tell me how he truly feels, I know that he wants to say that he loves me.... whenever he brings this up, I will change the subject because, I dont feel the same way about him, because he is very unreliable and doesn't keep promises, and secondly I dont believe he actually loves me, because he doesn't show this with his actions.
So if he does tell me he is in love, should I be honest with him ? I dont wanna hurt his feelings, but I can't lie either. what should I do ??
2007-12-02 06:38:29 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Honesty is always the best policy. If you continue in the manner you are it will only be harder to break it off all together.
You're not older. You are only as young as you feel. I have always believed that you are as young as you feel.
Let him know how you feel about his unreliablility and his not keeping promises. See if he is willing to make a change. BUT......you have to remember that you are more mature and can understand more about how couples should treat one another. I really, by reading your question doubt that you even have strong feelings for this guy. Do the honest thing, let him know now how you really feel so he won't get hurt. You should always treat others as you would wish to be treated.
Good Luck!!!!
2007-12-02 06:49:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Where relationships are concerned, honesty really is best. Don't lead him up the garden path. Sit down and have an open discussion about what you want from the relationship. Are you sure you don't feel the same about him - but are scared of being rejected or let down by him? If so- tell him!
If he's not right for you, move on - Mr right is still out there looking for you...
Good luck!
2007-12-02 06:45:29 · answer #2 · answered by Ivan Churble 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, be honest. Tell him he's sweet and thank you but, you're sorry you don't feel the same, but you enjoy being bed buddies. Most men would be fine with that and quite frankly, I doubt that a young guy like that would want anything more from you anyway.
2007-12-02 08:06:45 · answer #3 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him bring it up and enjoy this time with him on your journey threw life, unless your not enjoying this? Lifes to short to waste time in situtations your not enjoying! If he does tell you he loves you just turn and look at him and say I'm sure you think yo do,and I like you too. and then change the subject. Smile no need to crush him. He could turn out to be a good friend if nothing else. Good Luck!
2007-12-02 07:15:12 · answer #4 · answered by ladybeach 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth, but be very gentle about it. Explain WHY you don't feel that way, and tell him you really don't WANT to hurt him.
I think maybe you should break up with him before he says he loves you. A clean break heals better.
2007-12-02 06:44:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not fair to either of you to lead him on. If you don't tell him the truth, you two will end up with ten kids and a house with a white picket fence, without a hint of true PASSION in your marriage.
2007-12-02 06:52:51 · answer #6 · answered by ualenlen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly it ain't ever the years, it's the mileage, so the difference is age is immaterial.
And as with anyone, if you're not interested, and aren't going to be, stop leading the guy on... cruel, and rude
2007-12-02 07:07:26 · answer #7 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth will hurt but its always best to be honest in a relationship.
2007-12-02 06:56:48 · answer #8 · answered by 121aloraphotos 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs to know the truth. It may ruin your relationship,
but could help him in the future. He needs to learn that love is
not a feeling but a commitment.
2007-12-02 06:47:03 · answer #9 · answered by Lou L 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just tell him that you can't tell him the same, because you just don't feel it, but you care for him a great deal. leading him on will hurt his feelings more in the end when he realizes it.
2007-12-02 06:43:47 · answer #10 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋