Tolerance is there a limit ?

Question

To be honest my tolerance has just about ran out. Surely it is a two way street but in this country we are sent on a big guilt trip for not respecting other peoples radical, if not extreme views.
When in Rome , and all that or go back where you belong.
Signed..............A disillusioned once very tolerant person.
Please help.

Answer 1

"When in Rome , and all that or go back where you belong."

Please consider taking your own advice, sir.

Answer 2

There are only two kinds of people in the world: those you want to be bothered with and those you don't. We have choices and feeling that you have to be involved with everyone is too much of a burden.

Look at it this way, if you are not responsible for someone, if you don't have to live next door to them, if you have fulfillment in your personal life then your tolerance level shouldn't be affected by the radicals and extremists.

There are reasons why people feel and act the way they do. Many races and groups have been preyed up, misused and generally kept out of the mainstream simply because of where they are from or the color of their skin. Eventually, these people strike back.

For sure, there are decent ways to voice your opinion and to make a point but not everyone applies that to their platforms. Sooo tolerance becomes the big connector in trying to make things work. It helps.

But I do sympathize with you about the big guilt trip. Just do your own thing and don't let it weigh you down so much.

Answer 3

I totally agree with what you're saying. We honestly need to resurrect the old Gadsen flag with the saying, "DON'T TREAD ON ME". Tolerance is a good thing, yes, but it sucks, when on a personal level, you may not agree with something or someone and then all of a sudden you're branded a racist, a monster, a sub-human, etc.

So, at that, I've come to the obvious conclusion that the vast majority of folks are EXTREMELY FREAKING UPTIGHT and they should seriously consider smoking VAST AMOUNTS OF THE KIND BUD while singing Kumbaya......but then again, that may offend some people.

Answer 4

Accept that people have these radical, if not extreme views (though I think it would make more sense to say extreme, if not radical views) and move on. Tolerance and acceptance are not the same as approval. It just means realizing that you can't change people who don't want to change. Lay the issue to rest and just live your own life. If you continue to make it known that you can't respect said persons' views, you're only going to cause worse trouble for yourself.

Answer 5

Yes, there is a limit. The exact boundaries vary, but there certainly are limits. While one should take care to be kind and accepting, there is no need to be tolerant of those who are openly hostile/extreme/rude.

For example, I am an atheist. I am tolerant of religion, but most certainly not extremists of any religion. I am a liberal, but I loathe far-left nutjobs who have only themselves in mind. I am bisexual and transsexual, but I'm not real tolerant of polyamory.

Disillusionment is totally understandable. Extremists can ruin very good things.

Answer 6

It is my belief that tolerance should end when it becomes harmful to me and my own. Example; I have lost all of my tolerance for illegal immigrants. They made impossible for my loved one to get medial help when he needed it. But, he was told that if he were an illegal he could have it. He had to wait until he had gone into a life threatening mode before he could be helped. And yes, HE DID PAY the bill. It took him two years, but he did pay it. He was unemployed at the time.
After he was healed he went back to work!

This what I mean. When they start harming us, then tolerance ends.

When drug dealers start harming folks, tolerance ends. When the homeless start mugging folks, then the tolerance ends. When Pit Bulls ...

Answer 7

You know, I've fought with this too. I'm apretty tolerant person but sometimes it seems like the whole world is asking us to tolerate everything.

The thing is, it doesnt matter in the end. Let yourself off the hook and relieve your stress by just simply saying "I will tolerate the things that do not bug me personally or hurt others, I will not tolerate things that simply annoy be, or I disagree with to the point of feeling strongly".

And keep it at that. Life is too short to be constantly worried about others, and their expectations of your acceptance of their life choices. We get no medals upon our deaths, applauding us for our PC-ness and tolerance.

Answer 8

well there always a tolerance limit its just about how much can you take some people can have a huge tolerance some people just get angry or mad real quick and others can take it for a long time before getting fed up so i would say it would deal with your personality

Answer 9

I'm not sure that we are able to judge our own capacity for tolerance.

I always thought I was patience personified, but it turned out that my family regarded my store of tolerance as scant...at best!

To get back to your question however...yes there is a limit...but if you think you have reached it, you should try someone elses limit.

Answer 10

Free speech does not mean that you have to respect someone else's views.

What free speech means is that you have to respect another person's right to say what they think.

Free speech also gives you the right to rebut their beliefs.

Try not to be so disillusioned. You have the right to speak up too.

Answer 11

we don't have to respect everyone else's views. we are free to be disrespectful of them in this country. sure, islam tries to stifle free speech ( rushdie's fatwa, the mohammed cartoon protests ). if they think they can win respect through fear they are completely wrong. that faith brings more and more ridicule upon itself on almost a daily basis and that can only be a good thing.