My father does not like who i married because he is not my nationality im from Croatia and my husband is Italian. How do i get them to get along with eachother?? any ideas??
2007-12-02 06:16:17 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you dont I am in the same problem with my wife and mother. sometimes people just cant get along and I just tell them they just dont have to be around each other.
2007-12-02 07:28:04 · answer #1 · answered by Jecht 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know many older people from the "old country" are very set in their ways so you may not be able to get your father to change but you should sit down with him, just the two of you, and discuss it. Tell him you respect him and love him very much but you are married and need for your father to respect that and not cause problems. Just as he wants you to respect him, he needs to learn to respect you, too ~ be sure and remind him of that.
Also sit your husband down and talk with him and ask him that no matter what your father may say or do, to always treat him, never raise his voice (tell him someone has to be the adult in all this *wink*) with respect because whether he likes him or not, he is still your father.
Maybe by talking with both of them individually, you can get them to draw a truce and watch what they say when they are around each other. If by chance you see things starting to get heated, it might be wise for you and your husband to leave rather than stay and make a bad situation worse. If your father keeps stirring the pot when you two are there, your leaving each time might make him see he won't get to spend much time with you.
And right before you leave, give him a hug and kiss and whisper to him that you hope next time you are there, he will be more careful what he says so you can spend more time with him and the family. He needs to know that HE is the reason you leave early and that it is your decision to leave, not your husbands ~ and always do it with respect.
And as one person pointed out, you did take vows to your husband and he is your immediate family ~ remind your father of that that even though you respect his ideas, your husband comes first now.
God bless you
2007-12-02 06:38:41 · answer #2 · answered by KittyKat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once upon a time I had have faced a similar situation like you are currently havin'. I just walked away from the whole ordeal. I personally wouldn't have time to resolve with such nonsense predicament. If you two already married. You tell the old farted folk to settle down and he should try to love your husband and treat him like his own son. Why would he want to waste all these time to dislike your husband?
NONSENSE!
2007-12-02 06:33:21 · answer #3 · answered by Dongfeng!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you can't. In Genesis the Bible says you leave mother and Father and cleave to your spouse. It doesn't mean that you have no contact with your family, it means that your husband is now your immediate family and the others are in the extended category. that means if your father is the antagonist, you should approach him about it, not your husband. If his family doesn't like you then he should approach them. This shows that you cherish your vows and support your mate. Even if you father doesn't like it, he will respect it. You are grown and he can't control your life. This is a battle you have to fight and win.
2007-12-02 06:22:55 · answer #4 · answered by haigazimo 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Buy a 30pk of beer and some Italian Sausages
2007-12-02 06:27:37 · answer #5 · answered by Leonidas 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Besides locking them in a room together for three days......nothing. Its up to them.
The Rat
2007-12-02 06:20:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You don't.
2007-12-02 06:22:33 · answer #7 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋