how does one solve family drama... or at least prevent it...?

Question

everyone is saying so many stuff about everyone and i just want it to end what would be the best way to end it?

Answer 1

I would be very careful what you say to any of them. Experience has told me that you will be the one who everyone turns against at the end of it.
Being the one in the middle is never a good place to be. Listen to all sides and just be there to pick up the pieces at the end of it all. It works for me now!!

Answer 2

The only way to try and handle this is to confront each one when they come to you and say something about someone else. Tell them upfront you don't want to hear it anymore and change the subject to something more pleasant. Also remind them if they have a problem with someone, they need to go to That person and discuss it, not go to everyone else who can't resolve the issues. Remind them it is childish to carry tales and talk about others behind their back. They should respect your wishes even though I'm sure they will then say something about it to others behind your back. Remember, you can't control what others do but you can control to some degree what happens when you are there.

I came from a family like this with my grandmother being one of the main tale bearers so I have been given credit for a lot of things I did not say or do as she and others twisted things and made them worse than the original incident. Because of grandma, my one aunt and I never got along and even now that grandma is gone, my aunt won't speak to me or have anything to do with me and I don't have a clue why. Even when my brother died in July, she totally ignored me, talking to my other brother who was right beside me, went to the casket and walked right by my husband and I like we weren't there.

Some people never grow up. My aunt is one of them (she's 78) and unfortunately, my grandmother was one, too, and was 95 when she died. Hopefully you can help resolve some of these issues and get people to stop and think about what they are doing. I tried working with my grandmother and my aunt but no matter what I did (or a couple of others who tried talking to them, too), they just talked more about me, putting me down for things I tried to do.

I finally threw up my hands and gave up with them and left them alone and the last 3 years my grandmother lived, I seldom went around her. Somehow she had turned my heart to stone when it came to her and it was difficult to be around her after 40 plus years of caring for her when no one else would.

Some people are toxic so figure out who is and who isn't and stay away from the toxic ones (yes, even family) as much as you can because the pain that comes later from all the abuse isn't worth it. There are too many people in this world that are a joy to be around so find them and enjoy life, the way God intended things to be.

God bless you as you deal with the others and hopefully, you will be able to reach some of them and get them to see how wrong and sad all this is.

Answer 3

You could try to stop it with a quote from Jesus, but I don't think it would help.

"You who are without sin cast the first stone."

Personally, I would just tell them how it makes you feel and that you would prefer not to talk like that around you. Sarcasm, back talk, and rumors are not good for any relationship.

Answer 4

Personally, I dont think you can stop it or prevent it unless the other people want to.

The best advise I can give you to try to stay out of it as much as possible or try for it not to get to you.

Good Luck

Answer 5

Just walk away. Don't get involve or be a part of something you're not comfortable with.

If the matter is none of your business then let others deal with it. You mind for your own business. That's it.

Answer 6

Stay out of it and don't listen to it. They're not going to stop and you can't make them.