Another depressed person...?

Question

Basically im 18, college student, and i feel im useless. im ugly, dont go out anywhere, dont speak to anyone, no sense of humour, really moody, never smile, have a short fuse and my attitude changes like a flash. amount of times ive almost flipped at work and got the urge to punch whoever, well ive lost count.i feel ive got a f**k off circle around me which everyone picks up on. i find it hard to meet new people, i just dont..speak..and i dont really smile because i feel i look like a complete idiot. Everyday im stuck inside on this damn computer or doing something else useless. Every night after college or work i would be completly bored, Sat nights. yes im stuck inside bored. I used to get bullied in school and becuase of that, i dont go out at nights or anywhere to meet anyone incase i run into them,or anyone else they know. they will end up p*ss*ng me off again and it will just all kick off. i used to speak to a few people by me but just, dont anymore. help?

Answer 1

You need to love and like yourself before others will, learn to enjoy your own company and consider doing some voluntary work with those less fortunate, that will enable you to put some perspective into your live as well as assisting you in meeting new people and as a bi product you will feel better about yourself.

Answer 2

You're having a hard time aren't you? You've heard it before but you're the only one who can break this cycle - the best recommendation I can make is to exercise - go for a swim, put some music on and have a dance, take a long walk in the fresh air for example. These things will usually get you feeling a bit better to start with - then try and smile at one person tomorrow - try and say hi to one person the next day & so on. You could also start doing something creative - knitting's cool these days, or do some baking or something - use your imagination!
You'll have setbacks sometimes, we all do, but you're not a lost cause. Just start again whenever you can.

Best of luck

Answer 3

I take it you don't enjoy what you're studying ? Sounds like you need to get away from the place where you grew up, travel somewhere else and start being yourself again. Make an escape plan, darling, over Christmas, save as much cash as you can, bung a few things in a rucksack and get out and see the world. Do any jobs you can - labouring, waiting tables, cleaning, driving, work so hard you don't have time for introspection. Just get out of where you are and go somewhere else. Make a fresh start in the New Year, go and have some adventures, you can go to college later (I did my degree when I was 36)

Good Luck

Answer 4

You apparently are intelligent enough to analyze your current situation, and you apparently are motivated enough to want to change it or you wouldn't have come here. So here goes:

First, you are not useless. No one is "useless". Everyone is here for a reason, even if it's simply to enjoy themselves.

If you think others are picking on you or don't like you, it's probably true. But you have to ask why. Most likely because you radiate your own self-hate. Start "liking" yourself, and you will be amazed at how others will start liking you too. This is not just my theory. It's Basic Human Nature 101. People tend to like people who like themselves. I don't mean "bragging and acting superior". I mean simply to start enjoying life by doing things that you enjoy, which in turn will make you more likable to others.

If you doubt this, look around you. Who are the people others seem to like? They are the ones who seem to be enjoying themselves. They are the ones who seem to like themselves (not too much, but you can tell they like who they are).

You also expressed concern about being "stuck" inside a computer. There's a good part of your problem. Boredom, lack of challenge, lack of satisfaction with your work are all extreme depression inducers. I've dealt with employee motivation for 30 years. And 90% of the time, low performance is simply boredom or lack of challenge. Most people want to be overworked, as long as they feel they are accomplishing something worthwhile. And they expect recognition for their efforts. Not money, just sincere recognition.

Answer 5

well that depends if you keep talking to others about your misery then it's sorta true it's like checks and balances if you hang out with a bunch of depressed people you will start to think life itself is a depression if you hang out with a bunch of happy-go-lucky type of people you got nothing to fear nobody wants to hear my boyfriend dumped me because *insert reason here* every dang day if you did you would start to think all men are stupid and their is no point being around them because of another person's misfortune? screw that enjoy life dumped by a man or not you gotta tackle everything that comes to you hardcore life is a competition when you go to a company for a job your resume has to top the other resume we all get upset but don't let it eat your soul. :)

Answer 6

Ok..it sounds like you are building a defensive wall around you to prvent being hurt again. You are 'warning' people away in case they judge you or attack you. Do you have anyone you can talk to about this? A college counsellor? Therapist? You would feel better if you have someone to pour out all these negative feelings to. Also....what things do you like to do, what interests you? Try and find people who you have these things in common with, because they will be delighted to chat to you, and probably you will relax more because you won't be focused on what they think of you. There is nobody out to 'get you'. We all need to feel liked, and with that knowledge, we know we are likeable people. this gives us confidence, and helps us talk to other people, and so, slowly, we build up a social circle. It takes time...but you will get there. Just doing this post, shows me that you are a good person :)

P.S - This might not help....but I have a son your age, and he is like this too. Its just an age thing, hormones and all that. It will go away. :)

Answer 7

i don't know if it is depression. It seems like that you are some how shy.
There may be several reasons for shying away from people, but you can always find an answer to it, and there is one.

you might be not so handsome, you might not be talkative, you might not have taste of dressing, or making fun, but who is ?

People who make fun and tease you are just light hearted not any thing more than that. They are not bad, neither you have anything to shy from them. Just be who you are, don't compare yourself to others, each person is different, and has his own way of making fun, you have to find it.

Answer 8

look mate your young an u have everything in front of you think postitive not negative!an get out there and grab the bull by the horn's its not al bad and only you can change anything you want come on and pick yourself up ?

Answer 9

get a life goood look!

Answer 10

welcome abord