Why is it not ok for a 15 and 20 year old, but is ok for a 30 and a 35 year old to date, I know that a 15 year old is not as mature as a 20 year old but other than it being illegal do you have any other reasons??
2007-12-02 05:10:41 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
it both does matter and it does not matter. heres why...
my grandparents are 12 years apart, they love each other, gave me a mother, and have been wonderful grandparents all my life. did their age matter? NO.
I just turned 18, and yes I like a 14 year old girl. (the reason for stating this is that my brother posted a fake question posing as me, and so now 1/2 of Y!A thinks I have more than one account. I DO NOT... but anyway, back to the point) when I was 17 it was ok for me to date this girl, now people say it is not. how can love be ok one day and not the next? this is a hard issue for most people. does age matter in this case? in some ways yes and in some ways no. we both started college early, through different programs of course, but we still have to take many of the same classes.
we are both members of 4-H and do similar projects.
we are different, but we have so much in common. it's just that most people are blind to love.
s_x is never an issue, we are both Christians and ave both vowed to keep ourselves pure until marriage. so why do people continue to put us down? it is all because of age.
2007-12-02 08:27:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 3⤋
Exactly cause the 15 year old is not mature and has no life experience so they will not be making the best choices and also a 20 year old that is dating a 15 year old only wants 1 thing sex and to corrupt you and ruin your innocents . a 30 and 35 year old have lived and knows how life works and has experience and when they get into relationships and dating they are not just looking for sex !!! There is a big difference .
2007-12-02 05:15:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
A 20 year old is in college(hopefully)
They can almost drink
They're more mature or at least more sexually inclined
A 15 year old is in high school
/They can't drive
They're less mature & more trusting, so they could get into a lot of trouble.. i mean think about if a 20 year old got pregnant instead of a 15 year old
quite the difference
2007-12-02 12:21:52 · answer #3 · answered by Jamie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The amount of learning about life and interpersonal relationships gradually levels off as one gets older. The differences in these areas between a 30- and a 35-year old are not as great as those between a 15- and a 20-year old. The learning curve is much steeper, and the collected knowledge and understanding is much less, for the average 15-year old than for the average 20-year old.
Social standards and laws have been put in place to protect children and teenagers from being exploited by more knowledgeable, and more socially and psychologically sophisticated adults. They have to be applied in a "blanket" form, applying to everyone, if there is to be any efficiency in their enforcement. While it is true that, in an individual case, you could have a very mature 15-year-old able to have a suitable relationship with a less-than-mature 20-year-old, allowing this for everyone would open the door to all kinds of abuse by those adults who would tend to take advantage of their younger companions.
2007-12-02 05:23:45 · answer #4 · answered by TitoBob 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You Know What I Don't Understand Either Why Does Age Really Matter Its A Free Country Were All Human Beings Were All Made From God I Don't get It Either Don't Worry Date Who You Wanna Date I Don't Care If A 14 Year Old Date A 81 Year Old Its A Free Country Date Who You Want **** What Others Say If Yall Really Love Each Other Be Together.
2007-12-02 06:33:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
There are a couple of reasons. Besides it being illegal (an artificial reason), the 15 year old has not experienced enough of the world to make an informed decision on what she wants. There's also the problem of children. It's far too easy to get pregnant at 15 and a 20 year old is rarely able to support a family on his one income. That means the STATE or the FAMILY of the girl must support the child. That places an unfair burden on the family and it tends to stop the education of the 15 year old.
If you are 15 now, you could be having a child by your 17th birthday. Forget college. If you manage to finish high school with a tot in tow, you'll be doing good. You'll have to get a job because that baby is going to cost a lot of money just on diapers.
And then there's the 20 year old. If he sticks around and acutally marries you, it will be rare. You might want to keep him then. It's far more likely that he will get tired of arranging his time with you around the child's time with you and he'll go looking for a new girlfriend. However, he'll still have to see you because he will have to pay child support for 18 years for that child. It won't be enough that you can get out of working, but it will be enough to seriously impact his ability to get ahead.
If you still want to date this guy, go ahead, but keep sex out of it. You are not legal and he can get thrown in jail for it. Keep your parents informed. If you are still together when you turn 18, get married! He'll be 23 and should have a good work history by then. Put off having children until you are out of college, then go for it. By that time he'll be 27 and more than ready to start a family. You'll have savings and your marriage will last.
By the way, my grandmother met my grandfather when he was 18 and she was 8. He served two stints in the military (Navy and Marines) while he waited for her to grow up. As soon as she was legal, they eloped. The newspaper announcement began "It comes as no great surprise...."
If he really loves you, he can wait three years.
2007-12-02 05:28:16 · answer #6 · answered by loryntoo 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would say that a 15 year old isn't even halfway through high school and a 20 yr old is more than halfway through college. At that point the 20 yr old has adult responsibilities and is at a different place in life. and the 15 year old is just finding out who they are, going through puberty, dealing with peer pressure and the focus and goals are different. I believe that the 15 year old should live life as a teenager. enjoy these years with friends and all the excitement of high school because you can never get those years back. You will have from the time you graduate high school through the rest of your life to be an adult. So why rush it?
2007-12-02 05:19:03 · answer #7 · answered by Sweets 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Not only is it illegal (as you ahve already stated), but there is a big world of difference between MOST 15 and 20 year olds. I'm not saying that it would never work out, but you have to consider this...A 15 year old is still in high school. They live with their parents, and have probably never had a job. They don't drive. They usually have a curfew.
At 20, that person is either in college or working, and most of the time, living on their own. They are a legal adult, meaning they don't have a curfew, they can go to clubs, and they have experienced a bit more than a 15 year old who is still caught up in high school drama.
I have a few friends who are 20, and I couldn't imagine them dating any of the 15 year olds that I have known.
But again, there is an exception to every rule. I'm not saying it's not going to work out...Heck, I'm sure there are plenty of people out there, happily married for years to someone they started dating at that age. But for the most part, there is a world of difference between the two.
2007-12-02 05:17:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
A 15 year old may not be physically or mentally mature enough to handle a full sexual relationship (including the bit where they get dumped or pregnant or both etc). In other words, they're vulnerable.
A 20, 30 or 35 year old stands a much better chance of dealing with these issues.
the Law protects the vulnerable
2007-12-02 05:15:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Most of it is because you are in two different places in your life. Take for example school, at 15 you are in high school and not going to graduate for another two years. At 20, you're about year for graduating college. And while it is "cool" for a15 year old to take a older person to high school events, it is a little easier for them to get in. If the 20 year old wants to go to a club the 15 year old can't go. At 30 and 35 both of you have graduated college, have started careers, possible have houses, cars, can take off for weekends away, etc.
2007-12-02 06:07:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's got nothing to do with maturity. It has everything to do with legality. It's not the age difference that matters. It's the age of the 2 people involved. In your case, one is an adult and by legal definition the other is a child. And last I heard it's still illegal for adults to have relationships with children. Even if sex is not involved, a simple kis is enough to put the adult in prison for statuatory rape/sexual assault/sexual battery etc.
So keeping that in mind....it's not the age difference that truely matters as long as both are consenting adults. So if an 18 yr old wants to date a 23 yr old...no problem.
Remember even though girl mature much younger than boys...the law has set the age requirements and that's reason enough!
2007-12-02 05:44:10 · answer #11 · answered by Enlightened One 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋