So me and my gf have been dating for 5 months and she had a bf when we started and 2 weeks ago he broke up with her and keep in mind she is 19 and I am 21 and not that she can date she wants to date but it hurts me to think of her dating other people weither it be a guy or a girl... i think its up fair because im not gonna wait around for ever to see what her choice is ... How long should I wait to see what her choice of if she wants me, me and another, or not at all Should i wait, I love you soo much and I know she loves me, she is going through a hard time right now and says that she wants me but she also wants to date and be a 19yr old, she wants to have fun. But i cant wait forever and its not fair to me, for me to sit here and watch her date while i sit at home alone.
2007-12-02 05:04:55 · 9 answers · asked by Pretty Green Eyes 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
See the thing is I love her and I cant see my life without her in it weither we are together or just friends. And im all new to this whole dating girls and everything, and i know I want to be with her and I want her to be happy. and She says we can be together and date other guys and see where things go and see if we end up together or if we stay just friends or whatever happens... i just dont know how to tell her how i feel with out her thinking i worry to much but dnt i have every right to worry i mean he broke up w her 2 weeks ago and she has a date this tuesday.
2007-12-02 05:25:30 · update #1
So apparently you are not exclusively together?! If you want to be more exclusive then talk to her, because of her age she is most likely not ready for that. SO let her date and you do the same, you might find someone else who fits with you better. I know I started dating my (ex)husband when I was 19, we got married when I was 21 and divorced 5 years later. I am now very happily with a woman.
2007-12-02 05:10:00 · answer #1 · answered by Deny_Zoo29 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you're looking for monogamy, and she clearly is not, then she's not the right one for you.
You can issue an ultimatum, but be preaped for the consequences. Even if she gives in, she may resent you for it, or see people on the side anyway.
Sometimes, no matter how much we think it can work out, it just cannot. While we don't really know either of you, you've told us enough that this relationship looks like a car crash waiting to happen. Sorry.
2007-12-02 05:11:57 · answer #2 · answered by kent_shakespear 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This recently happened to me. I was dating a 21 yr old, we started exclusively but then she came to me and said that she cant be in a relationship with me bc she is interested in other people and its not fair to me bc I want to be exclusive. I just chose to move on because I could never date her after having an exclusive relationship. I tried, but I finally decided that I cannot go backwards after what we had.
2007-12-02 05:15:29 · answer #3 · answered by U2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say you love her, but if you don't believe that what she's doing is "fair", which I don't either, you have to let her go. Being nineteen years old doesn't mean being promiscuous and having fun all the time. If she can't respect that what she wants doesn't go by your morals, why are you wasting your time?
2007-12-02 07:24:27 · answer #4 · answered by Dinah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
*get too close to your friends *be too emotional *be nosy *try to fix everyone elses problems *be too clingy *overreact when arguing or fighting *flirt with people u have in common *not listen to what you have to say *ask for your opinion about something and then completely disregaurd it *beat around the bush *play games Really to be both a good girlfriend and boyfriend you really need to just have respect for eachother and be honest (no lies)!!!!!
2016-04-07 03:41:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should let her live her life. At 19 & 21 this is bound to happen several more times throughout your friendship.
2007-12-02 05:11:12 · answer #6 · answered by momoftwo 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why should you have to abide by her choices if she does not wish to abide by yours?
Either sit her down and make her understand or leave her.
2007-12-02 05:29:17 · answer #7 · answered by 1011101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she wants to be with other people then she dosent love you,u have to do whats best for u and it seems like she has a problem with monogolmy lol.
2007-12-02 05:50:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her if she is not being pleased enough and then hump her and strip her! works for me!!
2007-12-02 05:09:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋