Has the uncany nack to control eveything in our lives such as money, sex, emotion, make me feel guilty about everything,it seems as if I give she takes, Ive tried to talk with her about it to no avail!example the last three days Ive tried to get frisky with her and she dont feel good or to tired or what ever but in the next day she feels good eough to go shopping or somethig!Is it to much to want to be hugged or flirted with or just patted on the *** with out halfing to ask for it?
2007-12-02 04:40:12 · 25 answers · asked by DUDE 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She's Just Not That Into You.............
2007-12-02 04:43:52 · answer #1 · answered by la_nemisis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she's lost interest in you and found interest somewhere else like maybe cheating???
request a sit down converstion at a neutral place
tell her how you feel and what you want.
ask her what it is that you are not providing her with
request marriage counseling if you can't resolve the issues
if she declines any of these things then take a stand and separate for a while then if it doesn't change then divorce is your last resort.
you have to be open and communicate and come up with a solution
2007-12-02 05:04:17 · answer #2 · answered by 2cardinals 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is upset about something. thats why she is acting the way she is. it could be a number of things. are you helping around the house? have you done or said something that might have upset her? are you being romantic and kinda "earning" the extras. im not saying you should have to earn sex. but what have you done for her lately to make her smile? maybe shes stressed cause she feels like she has to control everything and wants you to step up.
my best suggestion is to surprise her. if she asked you to do something, do it. i dont know. if she asked you to fix something or buy something, do it. do something special for her. make her coffee or breakfast one morning. bring home a flower from the gas station. get her favorite candy. order out her favorite dinner. watch a tv show or movie she wants to see. buy her something small shes wanted. if she pointed out a perfume or something, surprise her. cook her dinner one night. sit at the table with no tv or distractions. lay in bed with her and watch movies one night and just relax. help her around the house. throw in a load of laundry or wash the dishes. something completely out of the blue. GET HER ATTENTION. that will definately change her tone. once you get past that it will be easy to get frisky with her. she just has to be in the right mood. comment on how she looks or how she did her hair. go and kiss her for no reason. sit next to her on the furnature, not across the room. kiss her hello and goodbye. get that connection back.. hope that helps. me and my boyfriend went through this. and when i finally told him what was bothering me it finally got better.
2007-12-02 04:50:16 · answer #3 · answered by Lucky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll bet she wasn't like this until she ate that magical food called Wedding cake. You didn't mention age, but most women, in their late forties and early fifties, start going through this change. Statistically 80 percent, recover to a small extent, you are probably stuck with one of the 20 percentile.
2007-12-02 04:45:37 · answer #4 · answered by Beau R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is avoiding you for a reason. Maybe she is not interested in you any longer, maybe she is stressed over something. Hard to tell with this little bit of info. But there is something wrong. I hate to give you bad news, but you might want to think over the idea that she does not enjoy sex with you any longer. I acted this way with my first husband because I had grown to resent him. Good Luck to you!
2007-12-02 04:47:38 · answer #5 · answered by Suzanne H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
more space sound good, and let her come to you next time. wait until she has the need, maybe you over do it a little bit and she feels overwhelmed.
you might also want to try and talk to her in a calm moment. don't bring it up when you're already arguing, it might make her feel cornered. but for your marriage to work you both have to work on it and that means you're going have be able to take critique that she might have
2007-12-02 04:56:32 · answer #6 · answered by scarekat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would bet she is mad at something. Maybe that something is valid, maybe not. But I would vote for really pissed off. I know cuz I did the same thing to my exhusband for almost a year. I was just so mad that I couldnt deal with him even touching me. Which, for the record, is totally not like me. Maybe try sweeting her up. Or clean the house. Just do something so totally out of the ordinary for you that she has to notice.
2007-12-02 04:44:55 · answer #7 · answered by pepper_0713 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, she has you wrapped around her little finger. And she knows it. She's controlling everything because you gave her the reins a long time ago. If you want her attention, ignore her a little for something else. It will work. Try it.
2007-12-02 05:05:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are one of every straight man in a relationship that has or will have this problem i have found that you have to get them between 31 and 39 or 40 to get the best time outa them they are all and im sorry ladies no disrespect intended silly upstairs from time to time and they posess the control with their gender distinguisher lol
2007-12-02 04:48:14 · answer #9 · answered by justinshafer0262 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know how, but money and financial security somehow have a correllation. If the bills are paid, the kids are happy, the wife is freaky, and the sun shines brighter. When a man shows his ability to take care of his woman by providing that security, his woman finds the ability to take care of her man. When my dude slacks off, I dont feel too attracted to him. But when he is working hard, working out, paying the bills, always busy making sure I am secure, trust me when i say...I take care of him too.
2007-12-02 04:48:05 · answer #10 · answered by koala_like_me1 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let me ask you this was she like this when you met her? It sounds like she may not be comfortable around you even though you all are married. Did she come from a family that wasn't affectionate? Maybe you all should try marriage counseling.
2007-12-02 04:44:57 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋