If a kid behaves why are they still beat?

Question

i behave and i try my hardest not to upset her but she still finds an excuse to beat me. I try so hard not to make her mad but if i look at her the wrong way, walk the wrong way, do something the wrong way, theres another excuse to beat me. What is the real reason for abuse? Is it because I am bad or is it because i cant do anything right? I try to be good always.

Answer 1

I used to get beat a lot too. I never called the cops or told anyone though because I think going through the foster care system would be way worse. It all depends how badly you are getting beat. I used to get hit so bad that I would miss days from school so teachers wouldn't see the bruises on my face and body. The beatings stopped after I got older and big enough where my moms couldn't hurt me even if she tried to.

I don't know how bad your beatings are. If they are really that bad, then call the cops, but expect your mom to go to jail. Also you will probably not live at home anymore, so you should think hard. If your bones are getting broken or you are getting knocked out like losing consciousness then you should definitely call the cops. It is really up to you.

My advice to you is when your mom gets that crazy look in her eye, you run like hell. It is always the person's fault that is doing the hitting. They are probably not all the way right in the head, so just stay away until they calm down.

Answer 2

I think if you are trying your hardest and still getting beaten, then you need to find someone safe to tell that to. Is there a relative or a teacher that you trust you could talk to?

You don't say who is beating you, but it sounds like you are starting to have to live your whole life in a way that tries to please her, and that isn't fair. All you can do is your best, and if you are trying, others should value that, even if you aren't perfect all the time (as no-one is).

If you are a child: You don't say where in the world you are, but many countries have organisations that can help children who are experiencing physical abuse and laws to protect children. In the UK any form of physical punishment is considered abuse, and an adult hitting a child (especially if this is more than a one-off event, or leaves a mark, or involves hitting you with a tool or weapon) would be considered to be a criminal offence.

If you are an adult: Then you need to get out of this abusive relationship, to have enough self-esteem to know that you deserve to be treated better than you are being treated. I'd still recommend you find someone to talk to that you trust, and to use the authorities/law if you need to.

Either way, I really hope that you manage to find a way to sort your situation out. I bet there are lots of wonderful things about you, and I'm sorry that this lady is missing out on them by only seeing the negative bits. However, this reflects something that is wrong with her, not something that is wrong with you.

Answer 3

You not bad. You are very good.

Your mother is both bad and mean.

I have read your other Q? and given you an answer.

You did give me some more info here.

Even if you do some thing wrong she must not beat you, she can punish you by giving extra work or time out, take way some privileges, but beating is not acceptable in almost all country.

I do not know in which country you are domiciled in.
Again my answer is very similar. Show her this in the front of your father. Read it out and translate it if you must.
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Show this Q? and all the answers to your dad.

But before that tell your mom, that if she touches you again, you will tell on her to the people in the school and they will call the police, you want to have, if not loving, at least civil relationship with her, you love her so you have not call the police on her, but you cannot take the suffering any more and will be force to do what you must do to protect yourself, from this type of abuse.

Hope it will work.

You wrote,"Why does she only beat me when he's not around"?

Ask her this before she gets next chance to beat you. Make sure your dad is present. I am sure you know the answer, it is, dad will not allow her, and she knows it too, she must have other issues, that is making her go crazy and she is taking it all out on her little helpless daughter.

She is just, just a mean mother.

Answer 4

Discipline is definetly crucial for youngsters whilst they're small. I have no idea what precisely you imply by way of beating or a wallop round their ears however they each sound a little bit severe. A well spanking is what I suggest, it will have to harm and go away the spanked subject a little bit purple however under no circumstances purpose bruises or something like that.

Answer 5

If "she" is beating you for minor offenses, like looking at her the wrong way (whatever that is), then you are too young to have written this question. So I have to assume there is more to this story. If it's supposed to be a joke, it isn't funny. If you're representing some child that is being beaten without cause, get involved and make it stop. We cannot help you.

Answer 6

No child should be beaten, even if they do misbehave. If your mother is beating you (not just a mild spanking, but an actual beating), you need to talk to a teacher or someone like that about it. It sounds like this has nothing to do with you at all, but that she is intensely frustrated about her own life, and is taking it out on you, even if you have nothing to do with it. She needs help, and so do you, or you will grow up convinced that you are no good, even though there is probably absolutely nothing wrong with you.

Answer 7

Cause she is the one with the problem, not you. What you do doesn't matter, good or bad. She is angry, filled with rage and hates herself, so she is taking it out on you. Since there is nothing you can do to stop her from hitting you, what you need to do is go and tell someone you trust and get out of that house. She needs to get help and she needs to get it fast. A hard beating can turn into murder pretty quick.

Answer 8

It has nothing to do with you. Your mother is an abuser and needs help. You need to let the school know what is going on. Someone needs to call Child Protective Services to stop this, because it can only get worse without someone stepping in.

Answer 9

Yikes. Your mother shouldn't be beating you. Maybe she's not happy with herself and takes it out on you. Or maybe she has anger problems. But either way I'm sure you wouldn't want to call the police on her because she is your mother. You can talk to someone about it. If it gets worse you should call the police.

Answer 10

You are not bad. Your mother has problems of her own which make her respond negatively. Maybe you can discuss her feelings with her and ask her if something is bothering her. Tell her you love her and don't want her to become upset with you and your there for her if she needs to talk. That should tug at the soft spot in her heart and hopefully make her re-evaluate her actions towards you. Seek the protection of the law if you feel in danger.