Ok, so my friend, when it comes to sports, is usually better than me (not like i care), so when we joined cross country we both thought she would be way better, but it turned out that i was, and that made her really, secretly (i can read people so well) angry. so she started getting all competetive, and ended up tripping me (it was an accident but it was result of competetivness) and that fractured my patella so i was out the rest of the season and she hardly apologized.
so season is over and we were saying we should stay in shape together, but i found out she's been running on her own while her brother rides his bike along side her, and by the way she was saying, i know that it's so she can get better than me by track.
so what should i do? should i hit the training really hard to be better than her? or just focus on my own life? what do you think? thanks for the advice!
2007-12-02 03:36:27 · 3 answers · asked by ♣swirley_gumdrops♣ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
up to you but don't put your life on hold just to compete with her.
2007-12-02 03:43:22 · answer #1 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of your values. Do you enjoy cross country and want to get better at it? Then go ahead and train yourself! It sure wouldn't hurt. Do you treasure her friendship? Then talk to her about it and tell her that you two shouldn't compete against each other. That can damage a friendship. If you're not really close friends with her, go out there, do your thing and don't let her competetive-ness (if that's a word X.x) get to ya. Do your best, run your heart out and don't get all worked up over her being jealous of you. Maybe even stop hanging out with her. Sounds like she could start even more trouble, especially after tripping you and not even apologizing. ^__^; Btw, hope your patella is getting betta. ;-)
Good luck!
2007-12-02 12:04:35 · answer #2 · answered by Smileyy :D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol, u already no! sorry, lol at her?!?! let me voice what u won't. OVER!!! weed her out of your life so she thinks it was her doing. This person uses u to make herself feel good. guaranty that your lifestyle, confidence, achievements, happiness, etc makes her feel inadequate and intimidated. She is really competing with herself and using u (not on purpose) to feel adequate . if good friend (?) try 2 complement her in other areas, reinforce aspects that do not have anything to do with physical. I believe u r probably the only 1 she confides in and could pave a path, a channel to release all insecurities, doubts, and mountains. share your strength n strides and wisely. give 2 much and soon enough tables will turn where she lives through u while u stop living.
2007-12-02 12:36:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋