When I was younger I was molested. Now I hate my body. I treat it well and I am healthy, but I don't like it. It's hard to explain. How can I get over this?
2007-12-02 03:29:16 · 12 answers · asked by epitome of innocence 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
The man has been dealt with, a year ago today I told the police, and two months ago he was put in jail. there wasn't a trial, it was just a sentencing because he admitted to it, and to abusing several other girls. There were other girls who were abused by him who couldn't speak up, so I am proud that I was able to, and I was able to stop it from happening again.
2007-12-02 04:53:37 · update #1
I think what you are describing is a common experience for people who have been abused, and well worth talking about to a therapist.
Although you sound like you understand where the feelings are coming from, and are managing them quite well, these kind of experiences and beliefs do make it harder to form new relationships. For example, it can be hard to understand that someone could be attracted to you in a genuine and appropriate way, or to feel relaxed about physical contact and intimacy.
Although you might know with your head that there wasn't anything that you did wrong, and the experiences you had were not your fault, it can be harder to really accept that with your heart. It can make you feel lots of complicated feelings, and doubt yourself and find it hard to really trust others.
These things take time to work through, and you may need to process things again at different levels as you go through different stages in your life (for example, forming new relationships, becoming a parent). We all do that to a certain degree, but once you put childhood abuse/trauma into the mix then things can take on a different meaning.
So, please try to find someone you can trust to talk about this stuff with. Don't keep it to yourself. Its a normal reaction to abusive experiences, not something that is wrong with you or that you ought to try to deal with alone.
2007-12-02 03:43:12 · answer #1 · answered by mimschat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok...I do know that a guy answering this question could be a bit...threatening, but here's what I'm wondering. Do you hate it, because someone you don't trust touched it? Well relax.....it's not your body that counts - it's your inner soul. I do understand that molestation is a pretty big thing and it could not only damage the outer body, but the inner soul. Don't let it get to your inner soul, stay strong, love your body, just be glad that you've stood up to it this long. Talk about it with friends, maybe they can help, just don't feel super depressed from it. HATE THE MOLESTER and ACT OF MOLESTING - not your body because that's part of you which is controlled by your inner soul.
2007-12-02 03:47:21 · answer #2 · answered by shadowpal2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go see a therapist honey and dig beneath the surface. I have the same problem. You have to get to the problem and deal with IT first, then slowly you'll come to realize that you're okay the way you are. chances are good somewhere in there you blame yourself for the molestation, and you need to deal with that. I was too, abused for a number of years, and my body image is horrible. I don't believe people when they tell me I'm beautiful. Because that's what he used to tell me--that I wasn't lovable just the way I am.
love and light to you.
2007-12-02 03:38:34 · answer #3 · answered by I'm just me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't your body's fault you were molested, and it isn't your fault either. God created you, and you are so special, did you know that there is no one else in the world like you. Doesn't that tell you something? You have to learn to deal with your scars of the past. Talking to someone you trust can be a start. This isn't going to be a over-night transformation, but you can do it. You have a purpose in this world, it just takes some time to find out what it is.
2007-12-02 03:33:53 · answer #4 · answered by ¸.•*´`*♥ ♥Misty Owl♥ ♥*´`*•.¸ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the way i see it is that when you were molested it affected you emotionally and psychologically. You were probably very confused about it and even started to hate your physical self because of it. Some women who have gone through what you have also end up hating men and sex in general. But for you you ended up hating your body, mabey deep down inside you felt like you were responsible for what happened. Don't hate yourself for what someone else did to you. You had no control over it, he abused you and you are not to blame for someone elses actions. After we can only control our own. I would suggest you seek out a counselor to help you resolve these issues.
2007-12-02 03:35:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You would benefit greatly by seeing a therapist and talking about this. It is necessary for you to see that you are not the problem. Also, this person who molested you needs to be dealt with. They will molest other people.
2007-12-02 03:52:30 · answer #6 · answered by Simmi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a common feeling. You should definitely try counseling if you can't realize yourself that your body is beautiful. Counseling isn't a big deal and it could be helpful for anyone.
2007-12-02 03:32:20 · answer #7 · answered by Liz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my dear . it is not your body,s fault,what happend with it because this is the home in which you are living.you are very different from the body. you are also have nothing to do with your self because you and your body get attacked by a animal who is brainless mad and a devil man who born only to harm other human to fullfill his hunger .so my dear he is the one to whom you should hate and take the revenge.to get rid of this feelings you have can go away when you really understand that whose fault is this?to bring your self in peace and love to yourself including your body you have to heal yourself by getting real knowledge.now it is up to you if you want to see that guy in jail or completely forgive him. love your self as well your body that is the source of realization.best of luck.
2007-12-02 04:03:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-09-30 10:50:04 · answer #9 · answered by melesa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Counseling. You can't do this alone - find somebody who specializes in abuse.
2007-12-02 03:32:19 · answer #10 · answered by physicsmom04 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋