a disagreement he calls her or goes over to there house. We have been separated for the last month and just got back together last week. He packed his stuff up on Friday with out talking to me about it and told me he was going to stay at his moms with his son. Am I wrong for being upset?
2007-12-02 02:29:38 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No I would be mad myself.Without talking to u he avoids it and goes home to his ex?It sounds like he still loves her.Get a divorce like now.yOU ARE SO NOT WRONG FOR BEING MAD.
2007-12-02 02:32:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you wrong for being upset? Did you actually just ask that? NO! You're not wrong for being upset! Not at all! Your husband sounds like a grade A a*****e to me. He had an affair with his ex, he's always rushing over there when poor boy gets a little upset? Uh, the affair is still going on. He sounds particularly immature. If he wants to go, let him and don't look back. Who wants that kind of drama in their life?
2007-12-02 02:49:44 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh man I thought I had it bad! My husband has an ex and he only talks to her when he has to, but she is always trying to stir up something. Not with only us but everyone in general. Its like shes not happy unless shes causing havoc. You ARE NOT wrong for being upset. I tell my honey that ex's are ex's for a reason. He surely shouldn't be running over there or calling her when ya'll get into it. Thats just not right at all. Just hearing this makes me furious for you. My husband and his ex have 2 kids. aboy 15 and a girl 17. Everytime the boy wants to come for a visit she feels the "need" to get on the phone with my husband. The son is 15 and I think he is old enough to speak on the phone. I wish the world was perfect and there were no ex's. then we would have it made, huh?
2007-12-02 02:41:01 · answer #3 · answered by markslove 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh wow. First off thanks for being a concerned parent. Its comforting to know that at lease someone is looking out for other children. I totally think thats abuse. Not to the girl for the spanking but to your son for making him see that. And I dont see a need for her to have her pants pulled down for the punishment. If that makes your son feel that way and your ex continues to do this then I would definitely report it. Involve someone. That may be his son but its your son too and you have every right to make sure that he feels comfortable in certain situations. And that makes me sick that the school is not invloved with the fondling case. I understand not wanting to upset your ex, and I respect that. But I also respect you acting like the adult in this situation and showing some concern for these children. There comes a time where you have to do what you have to do for the sake of innocent kids and not worry about who you hurt or upset in the process. Just think about the fact that you could affect the lives of these kids in a really negative way by not bringing this to anyones attention. The reason why most sexual abuse cases even get to the point they do is because someone somewhere was too afraid to stand up. Don't be that someone. You totally have my support in the decision. Good luck.
2016-05-27 05:53:57 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you have every right to be upset...The last person your husband should run to when you two are having a disagreement is to his EX!! That is so wrong......Why are you still with him if he is having an affair with her that has been on going? Don't you have anymore self respect?
2007-12-02 02:33:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I can see why your upset. I'm sure you have put a lot of time and energy into this relashenship and tried to do what you believe is the right thing to do. Maybe it is time to stand up for what you need and want. If this is how he is going to act to you maybe you should start seeing other people and protect your emotional well being. Unfortantly he is more then likely not going to change if he hasn't done it already.
2007-12-02 02:36:59 · answer #6 · answered by matt t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not wrong for being upset. I think you might want to think about whether this relationship is such a good idea - he is so clearly not over his ex.
Why would you stay with someone who is having an 'on going affiar' with anyone, ex or not?
I would look for someone without the baggage and the on going affair.
2007-12-02 02:32:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure why you're upset since you've been fine with the situation so far (for how many years?) I'd be upset, but, I would have been upset from the beginning; I'd insist on his picking her, or me (or if I was strong enough, deciding for him: NOT me if he could have done that in the first place).
What has changed to upset you? That he's NOT going to her, but to his mother this time? What do you want to do about this? What do you want to happen instead? What will you do if it doesn't happen?
2007-12-02 02:36:29 · answer #8 · answered by Katie W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are wrong for being upset!!! From one woman to another,,you are one of the women who make the rest of us look stupid and weak! why are you still with him if you know he has been having this on going affair??? are you okay with sharing him?? if so that is gross and sad at the same time! You have let him return time after time from his affair...you let him know right there that its okay for him to betray your marraige because you will always be there waiting when hes done having sex with the other one!!! You no longer have a right to be upset becasue you are asking for it!!! You need to think about yourself and your happiness, get out of there,,,and care about yourself for once...stop letting him walk all over you...seems like you need counseling!
2007-12-02 02:40:32 · answer #9 · answered by Life....it blows! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO. You have every right to feel upset and betrayed. Get him out of your life.Forget about him.He is not worth your time.He has already chosen her over you.Truth is they probably deserve each other.Besides remember that what goes around comes around.Learn and grow from this.Love yourself.Men come and go but if you love yourself that's one thing that they can't take from you.Know who you are and know your worth and right now you are worth much more than to have a loser like him bringing you down.
2007-12-02 02:37:03 · answer #10 · answered by tiffany a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand why you'd take the SOB back, but I guess you have your reasons.
Look, he's already out of the picture.
He's been involved with someone else for a questionable amount of time. And now he's going to live with his mother so he can sneak out and still be with his ex.
Life is too short for allowing a person to make your life miserable.
Just let him go and you go on with your life.
2007-12-02 02:35:12 · answer #11 · answered by Ella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋